Hello there! Welcome to my blog, I’m Mike and I’m here to help YOU
If you are a first time visitor, I encourage you to read this post first.
To tell you right away – there is no secret magic sign which will let you know if a guy likes you right away.
You have to take multiple signs into consideration, but also you have to be able to sense if a guy likes you – like I said before TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS. What is also VERY important is to show him affection – sometimes guys can be too shy and reserved because they are asking the same question (if YOU like him, and you obviously do if you stumbled upon this website, right?
Let’s move on then. So how do you know if a guy likes you? I get a lots of e-mails from girls describing their situations with guys, and after reading them I’m all like “WELL DUH?!? OFF COURSE HE LIKES YOU
”. So let me start of with some really obvious signs.
hanging out 1 on 1
No offense girl, I really didn’t think I should mention this because it’s implicit and too obvious. If he asked you to go out with him on a date, or meet up after school, anything like that – that’s quite obvious. If you go out and he doesn’t make a move forward – like giving a compliment, a hug, kiss anything, I think he is just probably too chicken to make the move OR he is waiting for you to make a step.
- asking for phone no. or giving his no.
This is pretty clear. The best scenario would be if he asked for YOUR number, but if he is too chicken to do that, than he will probably give you his number instead. If the latter happens, be sure togive him a ring right on the spot – call him as soon as you write his number down, just so he has your number.
If he is giving his number to you, then the whole development kind of slows down, because he is waiting for your call/text. By ringing him right away you are first: telling him (indirectly off course) “hey man, don’t be afraid, I’ll give you my number, don’t worry”, and second : you are giving him the opportunity to initiate contact again and therefore passing the ball back to him.
You can always give him a mild smile, tell him something like “Give me a call sometime, we can hang out together someday
” – if he likes you, this small sign of affection which you give to him will sound like this in his head: “Woa, I wasn’t sure if this girl likes me, but woa, she might like me! Cool!”. Signals from you to him can take your relationship and comfort zones to the next level, so it will be easier for him to open up.
Now let’s move on to some of the stuff which may help you if you are just flirting, and you want to know how to tell if a guy likes you.
- asking about boyfriend
This is not the first time that I mention this, and that is because it is an important sign. Has he ever asked you if you have a boyfriend? Or has he ever showed interest in your love life? Or maybe, has he ever asked you if a particular guy is your boyfriend?
Typically, when you mention other men around a guy that is interested in you, you should be able to catch a glimpse of jealousy. He will not be too interested, he will probably just jealously ask a short question about him just to clarify if you are interested in another guy or not… Oh, and if you want to purposely make him jealous by mentioning another guy… Don’t do it
- saying the stupidest thing to carry on the conversation
This is common. You know those moments in a conversation were both of you stop talking for a moment? When you run out of things to say? I personally think it’s a perfectly normal thing, nothing to worry about, but sometimes guys think that the conversation will end and that you will walk away if he doesn’t say something very quick (most of the time the thing he says is COMPLETELY irrelevant, so pay attention).
Also, be aware of some body language signs that he may like you. I’m talking about the small signs, and if you notice some of them, you can be a step closer to being sure that he likes you. Those signs are: pupil dilation (his pupils dilate when talking to a person he likes – scientifically proven, but hard to catch), blushing (his face may turn red if you give him a compliment or say something unexpectedly pleasuring to him), body position (when you talk to him, if he turns his whole body in your direction, and not just the head), touching an hugging…
So what now? He likes you?
I’m gonna say it again: take the relationship to the next level if he is reluctant. You have nothing to lose! If you haven’t gone on a date and you would like to, do not ask him out directly, but you can hint to him that you would like to hang out with him! If you are on a date and you are waiting for him to kiss you for too long – don’t kiss him, but move your lips toward his, don’t go all the way, just a little bit. If he got the message, he will move forward and kiss you…
Al right and what now? You guys are together? How to keep him?
You’re about to be introduced to the information that will have an amazing impact on your love life.
I will tell you EXACTLY what men want and how you can make him not just like you, but get him sexually ADDICTED to You. Yes, that’s possible!
Let me tell you a story
I was with my girlfriend Laura for 4 years. After the initial period of romantic love and passion, and after living together for 2 years, our relationship had become stale, boring and dull… I was beginning to get the feeling that we couldn’t make it anymore, and that we just got tired of each other. But one night that changed dramatically.
In bed everything was part of a routine, every move we made was quite predictive until that night. I will never forget that night.
So what did she do?
Well, she gave me what I always wanted.
THE BEST blowjob of my LIFE!!! She rocked my world that night, quite literally. I actually fainted for a few seconds from pure sexual pleasure. I was in shock. I was asking myself how she suddenly improved her blowjob skills THAT much, almost overnight?
That was exactly what I was missing in our relationship. PERIOD.
I know this may sound shallow, but it is the truth. The way to a mans heart is through his cock.
After that, our sex life has taken a dramatic turn, and we were both genuinely and totally in love again – all in, but not only that, I was also literally never more SEXUALLY attracted to MY OWN GIRLFRIEND in my ENTIRE life!
Here’s the brutal truth : There is absolutely NOTHING that can get a guy more into you than to blow his mind away sexually. And good blowjob skills give you exactly that – the power to blow his mind, and also a bullet proof reason for him to NEVER leave you. Read on.
So what was Laura’s secret? The next day my curiosity peaked, I really wanted to know her secret. I told her that that was the most amazing sexual experience in my life, and that I’m dying to know how she managed to do that overnight.
Then she told me her secret.
She read a book called Jack’s Blowjob Lessons, and that book transformed her into a girl which every guy in the Universe would KILL FOR!
That was almost a year ago, and my girlfriend still gives me the best blowjobs ever. I absolutely love her and adore her and I never think of leaving her or cheating on her. There is no doubt that Laura is the right woman for me. I don’t know if it’s because of the blowjobs, but after that night this feeling is so huge inside of me, something inside just tells me “KEEP THAT GIRL MAAN!”
Girls, that’s why I’m telling you – there is no other skill which is more powerful than knowing how to blow his mind away with a perfect blowjob… If you just got together with a guy, and you want him to start “LOVING” you instead of just “liking” you – this is the book to read, and the skill to master. The art of blowjobs, as Jack puts it in his book
You know, I hear this one a lot “All men are the same”. And it’s true! We all want better blowjobs. Ask any guy. Even if somebody says that that is not an important thing for him HE MUST BE LYING, or he just never simply got any head ever…
If you want every you end up BEGGING you to be with him, love you, adore you, and never even think about cheating on you – then I seriously recommend to read Jack’s Blowjob Lessons. You can read his book by Clicking Here. I would never recommend something if it’s not ABSOLUTELY top notch stuff anyway. I have also personally read the whole book myself so I would know what mad my girl improve so much… And it was a fun read even for me
After all, the only thing I can do is thank Jack for writing a book that had a WONDERFUL impact not only on my love life, but the lives of many women…
THANKS JACK!
Check his site out, the testimonials are CRAZY!
Well, gotta go to live my life
Until next time,
Mike
#1 by kyra on April 18, 2011 - 8:02 pm
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Omg thanks so much
#2 by Mike on April 20, 2011 - 1:07 pm
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You’re welcome
#3 by Lindsay on April 18, 2011 - 9:03 pm
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You give great tips but its not what im looking for. U see, I like one of my best guy friends but hes dating my friend. Everyone says they are a horrible couple because the girl pushes him around and doesnt give him any freedom and this guy flirts with me all the time. Can you give me any tips on how to get him to like me more?
#4 by Mike on April 20, 2011 - 1:12 pm
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Delicate situation
What I thought of is that you can indirectly suggest to the guy, that if he were with YOU, that he would be taken care of much better.
If the girl he is dating is a psycho bitch, then he would probably appreciate very much the fact that you are not psycho and a control freak
Try to subtly steal him away
#5 by Megs on April 20, 2011 - 8:56 pm
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Your tips are good but the guy i like is really different than most guys! He texts me at night and helped me get a boyfriend once and constantly asks me how we are going….. He also tells me lads about his life like e.g. i just broke up with my gf last friday.. for a reason i cant say to you or today the 3 fittest girls in my year came in today lookin very very fit! but he is also shy because i was trying to annoy him and see if i could make it awkward for him even thou im smaller than him so i was following him aroung the grass staring at him and he was smiling and laughing while trying not to make eye contact. His friends mouthed and pointed at him behind his back saying ‘he fancies you’ and one of his friends also texted me saying that he fancies me and when i asked him how he knew that he said he told him over xbox and for me to act like i knew nothing! I honestly dont no if he likes me but he used to ask every odd day or so ‘so… would you like to come out?’ but now its everyday ‘r u in?” and after i reply ‘can you come out’ and he hauled and charged an electric scooter just for me and got annoyed when i said i would try it late (we are very childish
) but he also wanted a got on my bike and offers me help when someone has like takin my bike playfully! im really confused and sorry its so long please help p.s. we do not go to the same school
#6 by Mike on April 25, 2011 - 11:32 am
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DAH! If he wants to hang out with you 1 on 1 – he likes you.
From my point of view the guy likes you, go on a date with him and try to speed things up a little bit – you have nothing to lose
#7 by Amanda on April 21, 2011 - 1:44 am
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So my best friend has been married to a girl from one of the former soviet block countries. I think they have cultural issues, and he has already cheated on her with his first wife. Do you think this relationship will last? I think guilt, a good lifestyle and his mother’s advice (who likes this girl) is what is keeping him in the marriage. Would be interested in hearing from your perspective.
Thanks.
#8 by Mike on April 25, 2011 - 11:42 am
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I really don’t have much experience in marriage, and I would need more info to judge this situation
#9 by Kaitlin on April 21, 2011 - 5:01 am
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Hey, i absolutely love your tips and they come in handy, but this guy that I like is different…… Ok so he flirts with mea nd stuff and he says hey a lot and he has waved at me before and a lot of my friends thinks he likes me,,, but I’m not sure because he flirts with other girls too.. . But the other girls are a lot more popular than me so it’s kind of reassuring that he’s talking to me. Anyway I want him to notice me like a lot more… But do u have any tips on how to talk to a guy without them ending a convorsation for instance over text or facebook? He considers me a friend, and he try and takes my stuff… Or how to get him to notice me a LOT and actually want to talk to me in his spare time. Please reply it would be amazing if you could!!!!!!
#10 by Aimee on April 21, 2011 - 11:19 pm
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So if you like a guy that is 13years younger and he is always pointing out other girls that he thinks are hot but then asked me about another guy and if I liked him. Is this a way of saying he like me or just asking me questions? He invited me to a house party and where I meet his mom and sister that were out visiting and then didn’t talk to me all night but when I was talking to another guy that was there her called out my name like a million times to just give me a beer and then a few minutes later did the same thing to see if he could open the tequila. So after this night he has been a little distance. So I am not sure if he was interested. Could you please help me with this it has been a few years since I have dated? Thank you so much.
#11 by Mike on April 25, 2011 - 11:45 am
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Maybe, if you think that chatting you up 10 times while talking to another guy was a jealous reaction than I would say
he likes you. I think he maybe got fed up and lost his hope ’cause you were talking to another guy…
So simply put – if you could see that he is jealous – he likes you
#12 by Suzy on April 24, 2011 - 4:31 pm
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Hi Mike,
I was wondering if you could help me out!
There’s a guy at work I really like. I only started there last week, but I had an instantaneous physical attraction to him. As the days have gone by I have realised we also have a lot of interests in common!
My problem is, that I have no idea if the feeling/attraction is mutual. There have been little things that he does to suggest the gut wrenching feeling that he does but my typical female siren goes off and I suddenly start to doubt myself.
The first thing that drew me to the fact he may reciprocate the feelings was one of the days we were working along side one another. We were put on the same break. He normally goes home for lunches and had intended to do so, so I carried on down to the cantine as normal. 5 minutes later he shows up. I flirtatiously say ‘did you get lost on the way home?’ Knowing he lives only 2 minutes walk. He then responded saying ‘I got to the shop doors and decided I should come and spend lunch with you’ he sat opposite me and happily chatted away for our whole hour lunch break. We discovered we have the same tastes in music, console games and films. He then proceeded to teach me chess even though I said I was terrible and couldn’t play in the slightest. In this same hour he mentioned he was seeing a girl but that he had realised he wasn’t interested in her and that he would probably break it off because it wasn’t working out; they had little in common (he then broke up with her 2 days later) is it normal for a guy to talk about relationships to somebody they hardly know? My friend said it was a very positive thing that he told me about it. He then told me yesterday he was now single. A day or so before that he told me had two dvds in his locker that just so happened to be my favourites. I told him so to show we had similar taste and he said to me that I could have them. When I asked him how much he wanted for them he said I could buy him a drink some time to make up for it and then went on to talk about a local gig in town that he was going to and that I should go along…
When he looks at me I could easily go to the consistency of jelly… He gives me these funny looks like funny faces whenever I look up and he’s looking at me and he teases me all the time to the manager saying things ‘where did you find this one?’ In regards to my scattiness.
I’d really love to know your opinion on the matter? Am I reading too much into his behaviour? Is he just being friendly? I’m falling for him hard which is I have to admit the quickest I’ve fallen for someone and I’ve fallen for his looks, his personality and his soul. I just find him incredible.
Please please please help me out! I’m 20 just to show that I am at an age where I know the difference between a school crush and deeper feeling. Thank you so much! Suzy x
#13 by Maddie on April 26, 2011 - 6:18 am
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Hi I have a huge problem. I met this guy about 8 months ago, but he’s two years older than me. I’m a senior in high school he’s a junior in collage. This guy is perfect for me. we are so much alike it’s not even funny. we do the same things, like the same things, and deal with the same things. He bad part is we only get to see eachother about once a month but we constantly text eachother. Back a few months ago I was really sure he liked me, he flirted with me, asked me to the movies in a shy and desecrate way. But then all of the sudden he tells me that he doesn’t like me and he never did he just felt bad an he acidently lead me on. It’s gotten better we still talk but it’s just like we are friends now and we never had anything special. And I think he never fully admitted that he liked me because of our age difference but I don’t know what to do I miss the real him I know and I want the flirty fun guy I know back. Help!?!?!?! Thank you so much
#14 by joni on April 26, 2011 - 6:44 pm
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OMG What a treat! Stumbled onto this (as you said) and I am thrilled to have found you! Can’t wait to read more!
#15 by joni on April 26, 2011 - 6:46 pm
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P.S. Just added you to my favorites. : -)
#16 by Kymani on April 27, 2011 - 8:01 am
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Heyyyy Mike!
Okay so I feel I have a issue. There’s a guy I truly like we joke around a lot and we talk a lot on this social networking site mostly. (not when his girl is on though) He knows my sisters and one of my friend a bit but he talk to me differently. He was kind of serious with some girl ( who I DONT LIKE) and during a tough situation i was going through we spoke and he told me that he would of pursued me if he wasnt talking to someone. He’s currently official with the girl but he talks to me often still. the other day he told me that he knew i had a boyfriend and when i denied it he definitely thought i was playing stupid. He also was bothering me about making him a meal and was like asking me too many times!! lol I like him a lot I just dont want to feed into because he obviously doesnt like me enough to be with right now. Do you think theres hope? Is there something there? I dont even has his number. lol sorry for the uber details, thank youuu <3
#17 by Confuzzled on April 28, 2011 - 9:04 pm
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Hey Mike
I’ve liked this guy for two years and he looks at me a lot when he thinks I’m not looking but I always catch him. I feel like I’m trapped because when his friends are around he teases me a lot but when their not he’s really nice and he makes me laugh.
What should I do?
#18 by Omaha Born Girl on April 29, 2011 - 2:55 am
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Hi.
There is this one guy, and we are best friends…problem is that my other friend likes him and he likes her back. he cant date until he is 16 because of his religion though, so they are just friends. i will be honest, im kinda a dork and my friend is really popular so i have practically no chance whatsoever but i still like him. he calls me and we talk to each other constantly, and this saturday me, him, my friend and another guy are going to the movies so i dont know what to do. i am afraid i will embarass myself in front of them. please help me, i would really appreciate it. thatnks
-omaha born girl
#19 by Megs on April 29, 2011 - 3:15 pm
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Mike its me again some problems!!! I was going to ask him out but we were talking in the street and then one of MY guy friends sees us and goes’Oi! Ryan!!(thats the dudes name that i like) Is meg YOUR girlfriend?’ I say no not wanting to embarass him and ryan says ‘what the… no way thats ever going to happen’ and walks away blushing and smiling like an idiot. Now he wont really hang out with me anymore but i dont want to arrouse any suspcions that i like him so how do i hang out with him again?? Its driving me bonkers!!!!!!!!!!!!! pleeeaaaaseeeee help!!!!!!!!
#20 by Omaha Born Girl on April 29, 2011 - 9:54 pm
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hey megs im not mark but i can relate to your situation! the same thing happened to me today, but he wasnt smiling…he looked kinda angry. i wonder what that means
?
#21 by Sammi on April 30, 2011 - 3:00 am
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Hey. I like this guy and literally everyone says we would make an adorable couple. I don’t known if he likes me tho. He found my number and we starred texting each otherr. We always hang out at track practice and his best friend asked mr if I liked him and I lied and told him no. Then his best friend asked mr if he were to ask mr out right now what would I say, I regretfully said no. He always smiles and is happy round me so does he like me?
#22 by Mike on May 2, 2011 - 1:24 am
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God damn it….
OFF COURSE HE LIKES YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
He is too shy to ask in person, that’s why he wants to get feedback through his friends…
And you are just not willing to open up even a single bit
Relax, take it easy, the guy CLEARLY and obviously likes you.
Thanks for your comment, this is an idea I can use in the posts
#23 by KJ on May 2, 2011 - 1:14 am
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Hey, this site has helped me a lot, but I still have a question about this guy. He and my dad are really good friends and also neighbors. Tommy, the guy I like, only comes out to his dads house during the weekends. Anyway, every other weekend or so, Tommy’s dad invites us over to his house to play pool or we sometimes invite them to our house. The other night we went over there to play pool and Tommy had a friend over. My cousin and Tommy’s friend were a team and I was on a team with Tommy. I automatically thought that he would always be over talkin to his friend, but he wasn’t. Most of the time he was standing over by me, but he is a really nice guy to everyone so I didnt know if this was a sign. We were all talking sitting around a lil later and I noticed he always glanced at me and never made me feel left out, always listening to me intently when I said something. But once again, he is super nice so idk if he would do this to everyone. He hasnt asked me for my number or anything, though one night he kept showing me his phone and talking about texting, but i was too scared to ask him for his. Another night me and him stayed home while our parents went to the bar and we talked for like four hours. Also, he is always talking about how much he hates this one kid who likes me. Thank you so much. I am so confused!!
#24 by Mike on May 2, 2011 - 1:22 am
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Well, don’t worry please
Because I think he likes you – and you have just given me another idea on what to write about.
This is something inborn into every man… Even the shiest of all guys will well… not despise, but,
kinda feel hostile about guys who they they think are their “competition”. And we talk bad stuff about him
and try to kind of “think you out of” anything nice you may think about that guy
So there you have it – I think he clearly gave himself away by badmouthing that guy who likes you.
I used to do the same.
Nevertheless, everything else points to the fact that he likes you, so GOOD LUCK!
Mike
#25 by Kymani on May 2, 2011 - 3:11 pm
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Mike!!
Okay so I feel I have a issue. There’s a guy I truly like we joke around a lot and we talk a lot on this social networking site mostly. (not when his girl is on though) He knows my sisters and one of my friend a bit but he talk to me differently. He was kind of serious with some girl ( who I DONT LIKE) and during a tough situation i was going through we spoke and he told me that he would of pursued me if he wasnt talking to someone. He’s currently official with the girl but he talks to me often still. the other day he told me that he knew i had a boyfriend and when i denied it he definitely thought i was playing stupid. He also was bothering me about making him a meal and was like asking me too many times!! lol I like him a lot I just dont want to feed into because he obviously doesnt like me enough to be with right now. Do you think theres hope? Is there something there? I dont even has his number. lol sorry for the uber details, thank youuu <3
#26 by Confuzzled on May 2, 2011 - 8:36 pm
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Mike,
I really like this guy and I’ve liked him for two years but I pretend to hate him, anyway I found out that one of my friends has a crush on him…..AGAIN!!!!!! I don’t know how to find out if he likes me without asking?… He stares at me sometimes and he looks at me if he tells a joke to see if I’m laughing…….I need your advice……PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!
#27 by KJ on May 3, 2011 - 2:28 am
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Hey you helped me so much earlier and gave me hope that he likes me. =) THANKS!!!
#28 by Hopeful on May 25, 2011 - 4:11 am
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Hi Mike I’m really going to try and keep this short but here it goes….a year ago Doug started working where I work in retail. We are both cashiers and when he started working we got along great and he was fun to work with and talk to and everything. He had just graduated high school so right when I met him I wasn’t attracted to him yet and considering im 2 years older I never thought I’d like a guy who is younger. I told him about the guy I liked who always came into our store and bought food and stuff. Doug knew I was really shy and he offered to help me try and get this guy. Anyway after summer was over he left to go to school out of state about 3 or 4 hrs away. After about a month the crush I had got a girlfriend I told Doug and he was as disappointed as I was. Then Christmas time came around and Doug came home for a few weeks and worked during that time too. And I was soooo happy those few weeks he was home he texted me when he was back and I went to visit him his first day and he was like ugh im so tired and he gave me a hug. Then once a week a few work buddies would get together and go out for dinner and he would go too once as we were leaving we were giving hugs and he hugged me. This is about the time I realized I liked him and I think he liked me. The last hug I got was when he and I went to go see a movie together since I didn’t work with him on his last day. And he picked me up at my house for the movie but we paid for our own tickets and when he went to drop me off he asked for a hug. Then he went back to school and now he’s back again because of summer yet I haven’t received one hug yet. Whenever he talks to me at work we maintain eye contact like the whole time and I never do that with anyone, he helps me out whenever he can at work and always asks me for help if he needs it. Sometimes I will be standing at work and he will just come right up and stand right next to me very little space between us and just start talking about something. I mean I think he likes me and I’ve read the stuff you have posted I just don’t want my mind bending things to make it seem as though he likes me. Any advice would be greatly appreciated though!
#29 by claireious-t on May 26, 2011 - 12:20 am
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hey!
#30 by claireious-t on May 26, 2011 - 12:27 am
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youre going to think im an idiot but whatever…there is a guy i met at the beginning of the school year and he has always flirted with me.I thought we had something going on, then i realized hes a player. Now i know him more and we talk a lot in class. He would always push my chair out to the front of the room and one day the teacher just switched our seats. now he sits in front of me. everyday he turns around to talk to me. i do think he like me, but i dont know what to do. its been this back and forth kinda thing all year. hes also really outgoing and loud, funny etc. so im just wondering if hes maybe intimidated??? idk. thats why im asking for some help on what do do……PLEASE HELP! I REALLY HAVE FEELINGS FOR THIS GUY
#31 by Jessie on May 26, 2011 - 12:38 am
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Hey Mike, thank you so much for your blog..so helpful! Though I do have a question, sooo here’s the thing.. I haven’t dated for a couple months (rough break up/too busy) but now i’m less busy and want to get back to dating, anyways I was wondering if you had ideas on how/where to meet guys? I’m in grade 11 and I live in a small town so theres no big place to “hang” except at school or someone’s house but all my classes have like 4 guys in each, none I really talk to..I have lots of friends but not too many that are guys..and unfortunately out of a job atm (also looking for one lmao) so I can’t meet them there either…HOW DO I MEET GUYS!? I’d love it if you replied, help me get back in the game! XD
#32 by Maddie on May 26, 2011 - 5:52 am
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Okay so I have a guy friend who my friends keep pressuring me to like he’s cute but idk if I like him that way… He has a gf that no one likes but even though she doesnt like it he and I text alll the time and chat on fb does he like me?
2nd my best friend helps out at an assisted living home there’s a guy who is a year older than her that helps out too. He doesn’t really talk but hes very polite and ignores his brothers when she’s around, he doesn’t let her do manual labor by herself even though he knows she can. Does he like her? Or is he just being polite?
#33 by Unsure on May 26, 2011 - 6:55 am
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I don’t actually expect you to know… or to tell me the answer I’d obviously like to hear.. but here goes.
I’ve worked with him for a while…. hes really nice, always helps me whenever I need anything I don’t have to ask him at all. I’ve caught him looking at me a few times, and once he just kept staring so I smiled and then he smiled haha. He loves music and more specifically rock music, but whenever they’d let me play mine at work… which is sporadic to say the least he’s never had a problem with it and even told me that he loves my musical taste (which just confuses me because he generally dislikes anything not rock). He usually goes out of his way to come from the back of the store up to where I am just to talk about nothing, he blushes a lot (hes pale so.. its very easy to see ahahha). I got him a small birthday present and asked him if he was going to be at work on his birthday he said yes, and asked me if I was and I said no, and he told me to give him my number so he could contact me? which I didn’t fully understand the need but of course I didn’t argue ahhaah. We always smile and laugh a lot and sometimes he teases me slightly but not in a mean way? okay so… I’m just confused he has not texted me since I gave him my number well once to give me his. but he does always answer my texts back but yeah… doesn’t bother to text me himself…. and we used to chat on FB sometimes but again it was always me initiating …… so that just confuses me greatly I don’t know, whenever we’re in person I’m convinced he likes me, and then I hope he texts or something of the sort and nothing…… so this was long , and I’m sure there’s plenty more I could say, but what do you think? (Oh and apparently he’s going to do something for me on my birthday in july?)
-Unsure.
#34 by katie on May 26, 2011 - 7:34 pm
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hii mike need help!!!! ok am 22 and my was round town and got talking to my older brothers mate.( ben) and we got on really well, we dated for a while and meet up around town a few other times with his mate also (PAUL)… but he turned out to be really boring and not the guy for me. so i told him i just wanted to be friends and i really do he is really nice lad…. but since then ive been talking to his mate paul on facebook. and i really like him we get on really well on fb. so i asked him was he out at the weekend and he said yea r you and i said yea.
I said do you wanna meet and he said you’ll find me in Barbar.. so i sent him my number… so e could txt me.. he never asked for my number tho… well he didnt txt..
then i got drunk and sent him a private message sayin do you want to go to the pictures and hw said i dont no when am wrking because am wrking overtime…
So e bin on fb loads and never speaks to me 1st.. so i sent him a mess sayin am sorry i asked u out on a date, ive never done tht before it must be because i was drunk.. its ok if u dnt want to… and i again got no reply
E then replied sayin (oreet sorry i bin busy) which i no isnt true coz e mates with my bro… and he keeps goin in pub with him! and i was talkin to him today on fb and we was just chatting in general but he hasnt asked me out r anything!
what do u think? am i jst not seeing this?
#35 by Becky.L.M on May 27, 2011 - 1:25 am
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right im really not sure if this one guy likes me because one minute i think he will then the next i dont think he does , whenever i like look around whilst trying not to make it obvious im looking at him he seems to be looking over and it looks as though he’s looking at me as no one else is there , then on social websites like facebook and msn he’ll act all flirty but not as much in person he’s said to my mum that he thinks im stunning and when he was drunk he said to my dad he thinks im stunning but because he was drunk did he mean it ?
HELP
and people say we should get together as we look good and that but he just says shes a good mate . What does he mean ?
someone told me he liked me as they could tell but when i asked him over facebook he said that he doesn’t and only as a mate but would he just be saying it to me as hes to shy or whatever to tell me ?
we are close friends now and we like flirt like calling each other like smell and so on and like pretend to argue if you get me .
but i really really need help desperately as i will be seeing him on monday and i need to know what all this means Thanks
P.S could you reply via my email address please thanks
#36 by Kari on May 27, 2011 - 1:50 am
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Hello! Your site has given me tons of help but I have one question. So I really like a guy, he has flirted with me a lot and he even held my hand. I’m not sure he thinks its a joke though. His name is Scott and he is really sweet, but when he held my hand he called his friend over and was joking about it so I pulled away. Also he put his arm around me during english, I pulled away too then because I was unsure if he was joking. The flirting has stopped a little now but I catch him looking at me, but he went out with a girl I knew after. Have I missed my chance with him? Also he told me that he really didn’t like this girl but I don’t believe him. Please help me? Its so important to me and I have asked everyone but they have no idea.
Love,
Kari
#37 by Lorena on May 27, 2011 - 3:24 am
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hey thier diz kid in skool that always gived me a hug bt one day he waz about to kiss me bt I moved away and nw he doesnt talk to me,no more wat should I di
#38 by Hannah on May 27, 2011 - 3:59 am
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Okay so, I have this guy friend and all our friends say we should go out and they have been pushing this for over a year now? Sounds about right. Anyway, we are really good friends, and we see each other almost everyday. He always makes jokes about how “EWWWW” would be to date me, and always talks about others girls in front of me. BUT, he always confuses me! I mean he always pokes me, and plays with my hair, but I just blow that off because he does that to other girls, too. Recently, he has been all touchy feely, like hugging me and hanging on me, and resting his head on my shoulder. I’m so confused, because one minute he treats me like his sister, and the other minute he treats my like his girlfriend. Any adivce?
#39 by Mayelle Dwyer on May 27, 2011 - 9:40 am
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Hi, first off I’d like to say that what your doing is pretty cool and I was wondering if you could give me some advice on figuring out if this guy likes me. (Beware this is a long message)
I’ll tell you a few things about me before I begin; I am in high school. I have always been told I am mentally and physically much more mature than my physical age would suggest by those who know me. I am often considered an adult by those that don’t know me i.e. bank tellers etc also. ( so I can certainly physically pass for one.)
I am quite shy around people I’m not really close with.
Well we are both in high school he is two years older than me (though very young for his year)and in his final year.
It started when an guy who lived with me for 6 months (we were pretty close like brother and sister) who was friends with this guy dropped a comment telling me the guy said I was pretty (or something of similar nature).
I’d never really payed particularly much attention to this guy before except noticing he was cute, But this started to get my mind reeling and I developed quite a serious crush on this guy.
By then it was the summer holidays, I messaged him on Facebook one night with a random question about something. We started talking on Facebook on chat quite often after this incident.
My brother dude had left at the start of the holidays and we would sometimes talk about him. But our conversations usually were comfortable, long and interesting.
Near the end of the holidays my family got another Student; Alexa. The guy insisted I introduce her to him and his friends (she is 3 years older than me but honestly she looks younger than I do) anyway when it came time to go back to school this guy and I encountered each other briefly on the first day when he was with his friends and I mine; the conversation was pretty awkward and l promised to introduce him to Alexa so i did I found her at lunch and brought her to meet this guy and proceeded to rush out as fast as possible afterwards. ( whenever I saw the guy in the halls or wherever he will always smile and/or wave or say hi and he still does)
This guy and his other friends became close with Alexa and I honestly think one of the other guys has a crush on her. (Alexa and I are very close now too.)
After being so socially awkward with him I felt stupid and stopped talking to him on Facebook for a month or two.
Alexa mentioned one day that the guy was wondering why I had stopped talking to him and told Alexa to say Hi to me. I honestly didn’t think he’d care ( I have low self esteem ).
A few nights later I plucked up the courage and started talking to the guy and he was really happy to talk with me again.
Since then we have had many conversations on Facebook and he has told me I was very pretty a couple of times and that one particular girl who was bullying me that she was really ugly and that he would tell them to F*** Off If I ever needed it.
I know it’s really bad to talk to people online instead of to their face but I find really hard to talk to him when his friends are around, I think I could do it one-on-one much better, But I never get the chance.
Here are some other little tidbits:
He almost always likes my new profile photos
He is always chatty and happy to talk to me
He hasn’t had a girlfriend since before he moved here two years ago
We both have similar interests and tastes and are both talented artists
He often compliments me
He often uses emoticons and smileys (he isn’t a text language person either)
Alright well that’s it, so pretty please write back and give me some advice I will be so grateful to know if I am making something out of nothing or If I’m not then what to do about it.
Thank you!
May
So yeah… Advice?
#40 by NIchole on May 28, 2011 - 1:14 am
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Ok so I like this boy and at school we sat by each other and always got in trouble because we talked so much.Then we had electronics day at school and he gave me his number so we could text and he told me to send him my favorite song so he could use it as my ring tone.Earlier in the school year we had a talent show and I forgot to bring a dollar for it and he found out and insisted to pay for my ticket.Lastly at the end of the year he gave me his number again and he said it was just and case I lost it the last time he gave it to me so we could keep in touch.All I want to know if he likes me.
#41 by Jess on June 20, 2011 - 5:21 pm
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This was very helpful information and i was just wondering and i deffinately think you can answer this for me, so im pretty sure this guy likes me but he doesnt have my phone number and he graduated (hes only 1 year older) and all of a sudden he started to talk to my friend on facebook(i dont have a facebook) and hes never talked to her before..ever..and he knows im friends with her so do you think hes using her to get my phone number? He hasnt asked yet but im kinda thinking he will bring me up soon…what do you think? Thanks so much if you can help me, this has been bothering me for a few days now lol
#42 by Michelle on June 21, 2011 - 1:37 am
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I need a little bit of help. My problem is the guy I like (who i think likes me too) is outgoing. The problem most outgoing guys that i know are very confident so that makes me think the guy i like doesnt like me cuz he wasnt ask about a bf, my number, or if I wanted to hang out with him, but he stares, he teases me every time I talk him, he “hits” me, and his body language says he likes him. I’ve complaited giving him my number but I chicken out every time. What should i do?
#43 by Natalia on June 21, 2011 - 3:59 am
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I’m gonna sound stupid but my honesty is going to be poured into this comment. There’s this guy obviously (nervous laughter haha) umm I met him last year at a Polish gathering and there was dancing all night long, I danced with him at least 4 times. When it was time to go I gave him a hug and smile and told him it was nice to meet him and he did the same, but didn’t ask for my number. So a year passes and without any contact I forgot about him until (dramatic sound effects) BAM this year at a surprise party. We didn’t talk or dance much because of a sadness that came upon me (still dealing with my mom’s death) He did try talking to me in a silly way of saying that he shouldn’t be swirling red wine in his cup over my white skirt, which he did get two drops of wine on me. After that night I creeped him on facebook and added him as a friend. The next day he messaged me “Hey, how’s it going? We dancing it up again this year at Nilestown on Sunday?”. Yes that’s the exact message. We danced only once on Sunday. A few days later I decided to add him to my phone since he had his number on his facebook page. I texted him asking if he was going to the youth group bonfire, he said he was going to a concert. But on the friday the day of the bonfire one hour before he sent me a text saying “Have a good time at the Bonfire. I hope you have a BON time!” I told him that was a good one and it made me laugh. After that I haven’t spoken or texted him, We haven’t hung out 1 on 1 and when I try to get to know him it’s usually me initiating the conversation. Should I text him or have I already initiated enough for him to know that I like him and let him lead the way? Or is he just being nice? I’m sorry I wrote you this comment that goes on forever. It would be really nice to have a guy’s opinion, I’m so awkward with guys, helppppppp! (nervous laughter lol)
#44 by acourt on June 21, 2011 - 3:19 pm
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hi there is this quy that rains with me and every time i walk by he gets up and says hi to me and when we have a water break or time he comes and sits right beside me and we start talking for a while but i noticed that he is to shy to look at me in the eyes when we talk and when we run he runs beside me and gets a convo going and when he listens to his music he always sings to me to make me laugh except it is in russian so i dont understand . so can you plz tell me does he like me ?
#45 by Cortney on June 21, 2011 - 8:01 pm
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I kinda get the jist that he likes me, done the whole one on one but he calls it “hanging out” not a “date” so Im wondering if I should just tell him that I like him or wait for him too?
#46 by CrazyForYou on June 22, 2011 - 7:51 am
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I need help. The guy I like, isnt like most guys. He’s OBSESSED with cod and stupid games like that, and everytime I mention “feelings” he gets all shy and stuff. I dont know if I should tell him I like him, because we are best friends and I dont wanna mess things up… What should I do?
#47 by davina on June 22, 2011 - 7:31 pm
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ohkay i am going to try ur advice but i think that i am already half way there i think ,he’s always showing some good body language but im just not sure what his feeling are for me :/ does he like me as a friend or more then a friend ??? he always smiles when i talk he isn’t always the first to give me a hug i always have to hug him first well he hug me first only like 3 times is that good or bad ?? im always scared to talk to him on facebook and i am soooo chicken to give him my number i had to ask my friend to ask him if we want to hang out with him me and the guy i like i just really need ur help i don’t really no what to do help me pls ?????
#48 by Danielle on June 22, 2011 - 10:05 pm
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I really need help. Now im only in high school so things are really different. The guy i like its really different. I didn’t really like him that way until recently, but me and him were really good friends. he always invites me to his parties that he has often but the party i went to last saturday wasnt really a party. It only ended being me him and any other boy. he boy left 2 hours before i did.
He hit on me when we were swimming and was trying to put his arm around me when we were downstairs. But i dont know if it was a joke because the other boy was doing it to but i know he is trying to flirt with me for real, i just dont like him. But after the other boy left we sat down to watch a movie and around the end of it he started to flick my leg and every time he would do that i hit his foot and after i while i lifted my hand up for him to stop and he grabbed my hand to hold it. And then he started to hug my legs and just stare at me. he let go of my hand and put it around my back as if to bring me closer but then he tickled me so i pulled his arm back from around me and he grabbed my hand again.
first i thought that he did like me. but when i went to school the next day i ran into the other boy and he told me that he guy i like told him that i was trying to hold his hand.
thats when i got confused. Do you think he likes me ? or is just playing with me ?
hes done this to me two times this year were he just played with me. but he never like flirted like me like he did this time. I am really confused?
do you have any advice on what to do ?
#49 by Jessica on June 23, 2011 - 2:20 am
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I have question. The guy i like is my mom’s bestfriend’s son. He is realy nice and gets along with everyone. Just one thing, we see each other a lot after school, but don’t talk at school. When we talk he acts like he likes me. Im just confused cuz we don’t talk at school. What do i do?
#50 by Danica on June 23, 2011 - 4:16 am
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Uhm well there’s this guy (duh) and in the end i think that i need to ask him to find out if he likes me because I find it confusing when everyone tells me he likes me because i dunno it just confuses me. What i would like to know is what are the repercussions of asking him out? Our parents are friends and we see each other at family stuff so would it be completely awkward or could he get over it if he said no/we broke up? And what kind of ways can you ask a guy out or tell a guy how u feel in a very subtle way. What kind of hints can you give him? Oh and he’s 2 years older than me and we only really hang out at family stuff but i stayed at his family’s cottage once and we kept catching each others eyes and looking away and hanging out etc. and the last time i saw him he asked me if i wanted to go to westfest (a outdoor music festival) cuz he had to meet a friend there but his friend never showed and he kept saying oh i dont think he will show up. We hung out at the concert talking till about midnight. Do you think he thinks of me as a little kid or as more? I have his number and i text him sometimes but im afraid of being annoying.
#51 by soph on June 23, 2011 - 12:22 pm
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i need some help. im quite oblivious when it comes to anything that revolves around dating, but im pretty sure that this guy i know might like me. you see, my crush is one of my older brothers friends, and he sometimes comes around to our house to hang out with my brother and his other friends. all of my brothers friends are also my friends, so when they come over we all hang out, and im sort of like one of the guys. but the other night, i was talking to my crush and was whispering something about my brother to him, so he moved over to me and leaned in rly close. he was completley facing me and had his face rly close to mine. he has also playfully tugged at my foot, (i dont know if that means anything) as well as, he has leaned over and purposely touched my hand. what do you think?
#52 by Marlzz on June 23, 2011 - 4:33 pm
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I need some help I like this one guy but he doesn’t like me and I like another guy who has a gf what do I do?!
#53 by Marlzz on June 23, 2011 - 4:35 pm
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Please help
#54 by cassie on June 24, 2011 - 12:15 am
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well mike your site has help me alot . well this boy name rylie that i have a crush on sice 2rd grade well, me and him are now dateing the was not chicken at all to ask me if i have a bf and i said no and now we are dateing now so thank you!!!!!!!!!!
#55 by Lover girl on June 24, 2011 - 2:46 pm
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I seriously need help…
This guy that i really like, doesnt really talk to me and this other girl is obsessed with him. She goes out of her way to put her hand through his hair(BTW: he has awesome hair). It really gets to me and we are in the same class for every subject, but we don’t even sit that far apart. Every day, I worry about the fact that he might not like me too, so I decided to be brave and ask him…(FYI: We hug every day) I was trying to be cool and not to come straight out with the question. So i asked him why do you hug me? He said to say hello and bye bye. I said you can just say hello and bye and then walk away. He said okay. I thought OMG he took this totally the wrong way so i quickly wrote back and said(not really thinking at all just being all in-the-moment-before-the-bell-rings attitude) dont take this the wrong way i still want to hug you because after all i do still like you. And after that, he turned around and said thats cool with me. Then I asked now the question is…….. do you like me? after about 30 minutes of torture with inturruptions with that same girl asking to borrow a pen from him after there are 29 other people who also have pens to borrow……. i went up to him and asked him now for the last time just give me an answer do you or don’t you like me and he said ‘yes i do like you’. i waz soooo happy that he also likes me, so i told some of my closest friends and they took it among themselves and asked him ‘do you like dilshaad?’ and he said yes to everyone and this other girl in my class even wrote my name on his cheek(it was sooo awesome) but now i dont know why he doesnt ask me out? he doesnt even talk to me that often unless i call him over to talk to him…….So one day i thought that i am going to see now what is he going to do. Theres another boy who i also liked for quite a while, that is also his best friend. I asked him to talk to the other boy for me to get the other boy to like me and i would ask him every day what did he do and he would say i told him that dilshaad says hi. thats all and i would say ohhh. Until today i figured out that he wouldnt help me to get into a relationship with the other boy because he liked me….. but i still dont understand why he isnt talking to me that much. thats why i need help…..please ????? I eventually asked him if we could make a relationship work and he said ‘but what about the other dude that you liked’ I said ‘i never really liked him. I liked you’ And that was it he never said anything further because the school holidays just started and i will have to wait 3 weeks for an answer……………………………………….. please help?? advice would be useful at this moment in time
Thanks
#56 by LoveYa on June 24, 2011 - 7:14 pm
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This post really helped but……I really like my best guy friend and he always flirts with me and we have been friends for a really long time. When one of my friends said we would be a cute couple hes said maybe. He always asks to hang out jus tthe two of us and we have a lot of fun together and he like puts his arm around me and sits on my lap
im not sure if thats him being a friend or liking me
#57 by Louise on June 24, 2011 - 8:45 pm
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Hi Mike,
All your tips are great! But I was wondering if there are like any way you can tell if a guy likes you earlier on, like before we become friends?
I have known this guy for a few months and we talk occassionaly but we don’t get to see each other often and I wouldn’t say we are exactly at the friendship stage yet. So I was just wondering if there are any earlier signs that he might like me?
I’ve caught him looking at me a few times if stuff like that means anything?
Thanks x
#58 by Sabrina on June 25, 2011 - 1:27 pm
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Iam going in to grade 7 and i like this guy but dnt know if he likes me. He flirts with a lot of girls but once he said “im joking when i say this but i love you” and talks to me on fb but a few months ago my friend asked him if you were desprate who would you go out with and none of them were me. Also my friend started this thing that we are brothers and sisters because we look alike and now he callls me his sister. But i think he just likes me as a friend, what should i do???????????
#59 by ashley on June 26, 2011 - 1:45 am
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I love your advice! well I kinda like this guy i been hanging out with a few times, we met at the club and he asked for my number and he asks me to car shows out to dinner/ lunch etc and he always introduces me to his friends which is good I know but when i told him i missed him over a text message he said “ash your such a sweetheart” so i got mad and told him to dance with other girls at the club that look interested in him and give them a shot, but now he hardly dances with me but whenever im talking to another guys he watches every move i make! and he looks at me alot on the dance floor, for the past month i would be the only girl he would dance with the whole night, and he always compliments me saying i look beautiful/cute even after we hooked up a few times, just wondering if hes scared to show his feelings, or he’s just not feeling the same way as I am?
#60 by Chandy on June 26, 2011 - 3:15 am
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hey heyy Mike
SORYY THIS IS KINDA LONG, but i need your help, so please readdd
These tips are great! I am currently having some trouble with a guy, and i think about him all the time, so i decided to type into google, how do i know if a guy likes me, and i found this absolutel fantastic page
This is my situation:
There is this boy, lets say his name is Kody. We go to the same school, he is in my year, but we only have 1 class together. At the beginning of the year, I didnt like like him, but i would catch him looking at me. I had him on facebook, so i pretended to accidently say something to him, that was meant for someone else. i apologized and asked how he was and we began to chat.
Every second day or so i would say hi, or ask him something about the class we had together. I still caught him looking at me.
We NEVER spoke in person, and still havent to this day. But then he began to say hey on facebook to me first. This made me feel he liked me, and wanted to talk to me. the convos went from normal to a bit flirty, and he was always saying cute things to me, and he would do lots of love hearts and called me a cutie and so forth. This made me think that he liked me, and i knew he wouldnt ask me because hes a bit shy, so i asked for his number, We then began to talk on facebook and text eachother. he said he missed talking to me, if he was at a friends and he said i was really importnant to him. So i said something, i sent him a hint that i liked him. then we stopped talking for a couple of weeks, I was sad because i enjoyed talking to him.
We still hadnt spoken in person.
then i began talking to him again, and things were kinda good, but different, he never said cute things anymore, and he never said hi first. I felt that i was annoying him so we didnt speak for a month.
I had to ask him a question about class, and then we began to talk again, still different though.
I got a bit depressed about the situation and wrote statuses on facebook about him and he would inbox me and i would say nah its nothing. I felt bad for not telling him the truth. So the next time we spoke and he asked how i was, i said i could be better, Then he is so kind and asked me what was wrong and i didnt name names but he knew it was about him, and he said he was sorry and he didnt like me, and he didnt want a girlfriend at the moment. This broke my heart because i was sure he liked me. I cried myself to sleep 5 days in a row,
The night after i said that, i caught him looking at me, and i pretended to be sad, to make him feel bad because he kind of lead me on, and he knew it.
Things are kind of better now, i still have a crush on him so i couldnt just stop talking to him. He has two girl best friends who are VERY pretty that he talks to all the time, and they take photos and so forth. I said well look at you, you little pimp
and then the convo started he started calling me cute, and we argued about it and that, like we used to.
I think things are going better now, but we still have a friendship online. WE dont even say hi or anything which makes me sad, My friends say all the time that i should just say hi and he would say hi back. But i dont know if this is the right thing to do?? can you help me? does he like me, is he worth my time and heart??
it would be soooo good if you can help me with this one, and im sorry agiain because its really long. Oh and im 15, if that helps hahaha
lovee chandy <3
#61 by Emily on June 26, 2011 - 5:53 am
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Ok,
. HELP ME
There’s this guy I like, but he likes me and another girl, he told me so himself. So how do I get him to like me more? I’m too young too have sex, and I can’t drive. I mostly text him and see him at school, but I feel like that’s not enough
#62 by Elymy on June 26, 2011 - 7:36 pm
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Dear Mike,
Thank you for your sharing, it helps much to figure out what it may mean. But there’s still doubts and here are my questions: We’re classmates and good friends. I know(or believe) he is a good guy and serious in relationships but he just get used to be close or flirt with girls. Well in case I’m one of them. As you mentioned, he will punches in my arms or back, seizes my hands from back, put the hood of the jacket i was wearing on my head, and when i borrowed jacket from him, he gave it to me by putting the jacket on my shoulder from back, and he would touch my hair sometimes. I noticed he was following me several times when i moved to another location alone and he always sit very close to me when he’s next to me , it’s sort of “stick together”, but i found he does these to some other girls too even when the girl has a boyfriend. We’ve been watching movies 1 on 1for 2 times but i felt nothing extraordinary. He isn’t very gentlement to me like offering helps and showing tender. We’re like normal friends in fact but much more closer that other classmates would ask why is he always sticking with me and even say we’re together. But when they are asking such questions and we’re said(or misunderstood) to be couples, he never explain or speak a word while im denying alone.
Im not extremely in love with him but i just wanna know what is it btwn us? It’s really confused.
Sorry b/c it’s abit toooo long. If you do read this, i hope you can leave me a piece of words! at least tell me what do you think and what does it mean when a guy did these.
Thank you! with LOVE <3
#63 by Trisha on June 26, 2011 - 9:08 pm
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Mike,
The guy I like is kinda dating another girl, but him and I always hung out in class, like sat next to each other during study hall when we played on our laptops. He also sat across from me and math and the 2 girls taht sat with us always said “Stop flirting you to lovebrids!” And when they say that, we are always like “Ew!” But they always say taht we would be a cute couple and blah blah blah. Then the other day, my friend asked him why he wouldn’t date me and it was because I was”too tall” but I don’t know what I should do…Please help meee(:
#64 by Courtney on June 30, 2011 - 3:49 am
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My problem is similar, but not exactly. I really like this guy, and he likes me. We’ve been hanging out alone, or “dating”, for around six months now, but he’s shy and hasn’t “made a move”, and I’m too shy to do it! What happens now?
#65 by kenzie on June 30, 2011 - 8:12 am
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Heyy Mike,
I really like this boy almost as like a brother and I am only in 7th grade. When we have texted I asked him who he liked and then he said another girl and then I asked him again weeks later and he said anouther girl so I really don’t know if those are signs of him liking me.
I asked him who his best friend that was a girl was and he said me. But did he say that because he didn;t want to hurt my feelings??
We went to yogurtland but the truth is my friend came with us, and it was alll really wierd because my brother and sister were sitting at the other table and my parents were sitting outside watching every move I made. I didn’t really talk because I was scared and he knew that I liked him and I didn’t wanna say something stupid. My friend, that is no longer my friend, said that everytime I did say something he blushed. Which he did. But at the the time my friend liked him to. We have skyped with all together but my friend has always held the phone and done the talking. He used to text me first but he doesn’t text me first anymore, is it because he thinks that I am annoying or just doesn’t like. My friends told me that he isn’t as good as he looks but I don’t want them to know that I still actually like him. Should I just forget him or should I not care about my friends opinions? After all I would need to like him but I want to make smart moves because I don’t want the boys and girls to talk about me, and I don’t want my friends to stop hanging out with me because I dated him.
He can be a little mean to people at times and I can’t begin to say how many times he has actually said something mean to my friends while I was around. I didn’t want to say something about what he said because I wanted him not to like me because of what he said and how I said that it wasn’t the right thing to do. Please Help I’m going crazy because he is at camp for 2 freaking weeks and i haven’t even talked to him.
I told him I would send him a letter but he doesn’t have the email package so I can’t send him a e-mail. Plz help Mike!
P.S…sorry this is so long I’m just saying what I feel and trying for you to understand what i feel…basically trying for you to get in my shoes for this letter thing or watever you want to call it.
Bye Mike… plz help me. Thx Kenzie
#66 by maddy on July 4, 2011 - 5:34 am
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thanks you giving me an idea
#67 by maddy on July 4, 2011 - 5:34 am
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mike i think a guy likes me but he dosnt give me any signs what do i do
#68 by Rac xx on July 4, 2011 - 2:48 pm
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Hey Mike !!
First of all 10q soo much 4 d time u spend answering our comments !!
so thre’s this guy who happened to be a waiter at my cousin’s wediing. During the wedding reception he stared at me all the time…and i mean like completely staring like he couldn’t keep his eyes away from me.
After a week i saw him again in my hometown. He was with his mates and to my surprise…even a friend i used to hang out with when i was younger was there with him. All of his friends were laughing and staring at me. One of them even looked at me and smiled twice. As he caught a glimpse of me he was like really nervous and kept talking to his mates as if they were planning something. He kept staring at me all the time and i could tell that he was trying to impress me. However…nothing happened. Could it be that he likes me?? Shall i make the first move….but how can i make it myself if i haven’t spoken to this guy in my entire life??!!
#69 by jenny on July 4, 2011 - 5:49 pm
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hiii… i really really hope you reply to this.. i’m in love with this guy from the past 6 years,.. i have confessed in twice… he never replied..right now, he’s in a different state and i’m not able to talk to him.. he wished me first on my birthday over facebook but didn’t wish another girl who also liked him or the girl whom he liked 4 years back… i need him… please tell me what i can do and whether there are any chances that he might like me as well…
#70 by Alexandra on July 4, 2011 - 8:30 pm
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Great article, but im still confused about my situation im afraid! There’s a guy a like a lot and we’ve only known each other for three months or so but we got on straight away and are now really good friends; we tell each other a lot of stuff! I know he fancied another girl about a month ago but fairly quickly went off her and didnt mention her again. We chat almost everyday on facebook and he always starts the conversations and we talk for hours too. I dont see him that often cos we’re friends with different people but on the occasions when we do see each other he always smiles a lot at me and i catch him staring at me sometimes from across the room. He’s always a lot more shy and nervous when we meet up and so am i so it gets awkward sometimes. Recently, I saw him at a dance and he looked at me and did a double-take and then said i looked stunning. Later on it was a slow song so he (jokingly i think) asked me to slow dance and we had a laugh although it was still pretty intimate. Since then, he jokingly (but randomly) said ‘i never got a kiss at the end of our dance!’ – does this mean he’s interested or was he joking??
Basically, we have a lot in common, i like him a lot but i dont know if he likes me in that way! please help! thank you!! P.S. if you think he does like me but he’s too shy to say, how can i encourage him??
#71 by becky jordan on July 5, 2011 - 6:22 am
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okay well im kinda sure this guy dont like me but i can not tell. so we have seen each other around for ages then i finally met him and then added him on facebook we talked and then hooked up on the weekend then i asked him to hang out he said sounds good but will have to wait to i get back from my trip when he got back he didnt really talk to me much then i saw him on the weekend out at the pub and we didnt really talk i messaged him the next day as we had made plans to hang the next day he didnt message back to very late and said yes then i didnt hear from hiim that day and still havent what do you think is he just playing games because i really like him…
#72 by lily on July 6, 2011 - 6:52 am
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okay so theres this guy i have to sit with him in every class and we always talk when the teachers arent looking and he always tells me im his best friend thats a girl and he always makes me laugh sometimes i see him staring at mebut quickly turns away and he also randomnly taps on my shoulders so he moved and i tried to tell him that i had a crush on him but couldnt so i was wondering if he liked me
#73 by itzel gonzalez on July 6, 2011 - 11:15 pm
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well i think that all of this was a very good advise but the guy i have in mine look like he dosent like me but i still think that theirs more ways that you can tell if he likes you and it is true that guys are very chickens but it all deepens of that kind of guy is it like the guy i like is shy so its hard to tell if he likes me or not
#74 by Kamra on July 7, 2011 - 8:12 am
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Your tips are pretty useful but I’m still not sure if the guy I like, likes me back or is trying to be a good friend. The guy I like and I recently became friends through other friends a couple of months ago. After his trip from south America, one night he and his friend decide to come my neighborhood since they live in the neighborhood across from mine. He gets my number from a mutual friend and texts me that he’s in my neighborhood just chilling with his friend. We start talking on the phone for about an hour until I had to go and in our conversation he was talking to me how most girls go for the jerk rather than the nice guys like himself. The next day I texted him and then he suggested that we video chat , which we did for 4hrs straight. On the videochat he gave me polite compliments, wanted know more about me , fixed his hair constantly asking me how he should keep it and even volunteered to teach me how to play the guitar. I’m not sure if he is being friendly or if he really likes me?!?
#75 by Kyrra whodawhatawitz on July 8, 2011 - 2:40 pm
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Your advise is great !! But the guy that I like is a little different :\ like we do text quite a bit but there’s really not much going on , I know someone that he likes but he kept saying there was another person but wouldn’t say it . And I know were both pretty quiet but there’s only a few signed that he may like me , like he asked me who I had a crush on and if there’s was anyone but than again I’m not sure :/ we had this group movie thing that we were going to but he said he didn’t want to go cuz he was scared of my brother:,( I hope I gave u enough info and hope u can help
#76 by claire on July 8, 2011 - 5:04 pm
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you know that corner thing that guys do to see if they like you? where they walk beyond a wall and then walk backwards to see if you are still looking at them? well if a guy does this (to see if you like them), then do they like you? at least a little? because that means they looked online for how to tell if a girl likes you so…what does this mean? it’s not like I even stare at him…i look at him haha but not staring…so he doesn’t think im creepy.
#77 by Cassandra on July 8, 2011 - 5:22 pm
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I have a question… I’m in 8th grade and I have a really bad crush on a guy in my class. I can’t tell if he likes me or not. I guess you could call him the stong silent type… he is really sporty and muscular but doesn’t talk much. We ride the same bus to school, and sometimes I catch him giving me this long (not mean) stare. But if I look him in the eye, he looks away. For example, I’ll be sitting across from him reading a book and when I look over he’ll be leaned up on the wall, just looking at me. Also, sometimes he’ll joke around with me, like ask me if I would like to buy his sister or something. Oh and I guess this is kind of important… he just started this after my best friend, who waz a guy, stopped talking to me and wanted nothing to do with me
. However, at school and around his friends, he makes it seem like I’m the most anoying peson on the planet! So I can’t tell if he likes me or not… what do you think???
#78 by julia renizali on July 8, 2011 - 5:57 pm
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hey mike, i really like this guy but he has a girlfriend. and we used to go out before but it was kind of a long time ago. but i still really like him and i dont know what to do about it. cuz i feel like we would be the perfect couple!! and i have no idea if he likes me. but sometimes it seems like he does… even though he has a gf, and he talks about her alot when im there!!
#79 by noelle on July 9, 2011 - 5:36 am
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there is this guwe used to have a thing until he didnt like me… liked another girl and then we didnt tAlk. and then i moved half an hour away and he didnt get to say good bye 2 me bc he was on vacation… a week after i moved oneof my new friends told me that she met him at a camp and he liked her… but that same day he called me while i was at church and he was just cat hn up… but he didnt know i knew the girl. and he was flirttn with me and stuff… And i cLled him 3 days later and hebwas flirtn with me again and askn 2 go 2 6 flags with him and then he hasnt cAlled and its been almost 3 days and idk wata goin on and if he likes me or the other girl… btw i told him i knew her after he calld me
so can u please help! and can u tell me wat to do and to see if he likes me or not and wat questions and stuff to ask him if he does call?!?! thanks so much!… anyadvice?
#80 by Always A Friend on July 9, 2011 - 9:57 am
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Ok – I usually trust my instinct – but I’ve spoken to my best guy friend, about how I feel about him. We hang out all the time, we text and call each other, we have an amazing friendship. He insists that our friendship will never go any further than that. I obviously must have something wrong with me that we can’t “cross the friendship line.”
#81 by None-ya! on July 9, 2011 - 12:24 pm
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Hi,um… well I like this guy named Tristen. He’s cute and I think I like him. There has been two people on facebook asking me who I like and to be there girlfriend, there desprit,ext. So a lot of boys like me, but I only like one that I live by. He has talked to me at our park where we live. He asked how old I am,my birthday, and what grade I am. Also,who was older, me or my brother. And it is me that’s older. My friend and I both like him and it’s kinda a problem. I have some issues with my friend. Other than that me and her hid on the third stairs in a aptment. We yelled things to him. He did not know how was it. He was in th pool, whipping his hair in a cute way. He just got back from vacation. My friend said he asked if we can both go out with him. That’s kinda a problem. I want to be with him. She has a boyfriend named Sedrick. I don’t want her to go out with him. IDK how to flirt. I never flirted before. Can u give me advice in what to say to him. I’m going in 6th grade and he’s like in highschool but he’s cute. Also, he skateboards. Everytime he skateboards he shows of his tricks near me. I smile a little and get inbarrased. I don’t know if he would like me. I am pretty. A lot of boys like me, but I’m not sure how to get him into me. I have brown curly hair. Brown eyes. I where my hair in a ponytail mostly. I don’t know how to be pretty and nice and normal and comforterable, flirty without being shy. Um,I only kissed a guy once. And I’m planning to kiss and date and hug boys again. Do u think he might have a chance of likeing me? Please write cuz u haven’t wrote for other people’s questions so….write soon!!!!
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#82 by Abbie on July 9, 2011 - 9:57 pm
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Dear mike,
I really fancy this guy called Jack .d. at school he is always starring at me in class and one time I caught him and we both just started giggling like mad I think the biggest sign I’ve had so far is when I went swimming I was in my moms car driving of earlier my brother had said jack was is the other pool I though he was being sacrcastic but when we were going out of the carpark I saw him getting into his sisters car and when he saw me he tripped over and banged his head and when we were at this school trip he was hanging around with me . Just the other day my Bessies Sophie,Alice and Gemma. Were at gym so I hung round with jack and he told me his deepest darkest secret cuz he’s never told anyone his muddle name cuz he hates it I was Gunnar ask Him out then but his best mate was there and he fancies me 2 (sometimes it’s hard being soo popular!) I can tell cus my freind keelan told me but I’m Gunnar ask jack out on wednesday do you think I should
Abbie
#83 by Em on July 10, 2011 - 11:49 am
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hey mike
your advice is great, i have a slightly different problem,
lately me and my best friend (guy) have been hanging out alone, we watch movies and endup making out,
does he like me ? or is he just trying to get in with me?
please help, i dont know what to do!
xo
#84 by Kimi on July 10, 2011 - 1:31 pm
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Hey mike, great advice! But I need some help on my situation. One of my friends is always asking to hang out with me one on one…yet he still has a Gf and knows she isn’t right for him. We almost kissed like twice now but obviously didnt cus of his gf. Any advice on how to handle this?
#85 by Soph on July 10, 2011 - 4:39 pm
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Hey mikeee!
can you help please?
I like this guy but I had to ask for his number… I am the one to text him and talk to him on Facebook but whenbi do it doesn’t seem like he doesnt want to talk to me. He’s been at some of the same parties as me and even at my Bon fire. we went to the park and talked for a hour but I invited him to that too. He uses “;)” and “;P” a good amount of the time but maybe he just sees me as a friend.. Help?!
#86 by Sari on July 10, 2011 - 9:01 pm
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Dear Mike,
Hi! I am thirteen years old and just got out of seventh grade. This year I met this guy two years younger than me. We get along so great. He thinks I’m funny and laughs at all my comebacks. We hang out all the time at the library after school. He always smiles at me and can’t look away. We just seem to really have a great relationship. He also thinks I’m really nice and smart. I compliment him alot and he always beems with joy. however, I still can’t be sure if he likes me. He’s eleven. Are eleven year olds really that into girls yet? I want to be more than just friends with him but I don’t know if he likes me in that way. The last time we talked he asked me about my lovelife. He wanted to know who I had a crush on and said that he liked someone else in the eighth grade. My heart sunk. He was really anxious to know who I liked. I didn’t tell him because it was him. He was the one I truly liked. I just didn’t want to get my heart stomped on. He wanted to tell me who he liked but I said I didn’t want to know. It would just hurt me. I was so nice to him.
#87 by Mei Ling on July 11, 2011 - 12:50 am
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Sooo I like this guy and we have known each other since I was six through church but we never really talked. Recently I’ve gotten more attracted to him and recently my school was playing him in basketball and he recognized me and said hi to me. I’m going on a retreat and he’s coming on the trip too. I don’t know how to act. Whenever we’re around each other we’re always really awkward. We touched arms but it seemed like it was an accident. When I look at him he looks back but glances away quickly. He’s really shy and I don’t know if he likes me or if I’m just wishing he does. Any advice?
#88 by Kate on July 11, 2011 - 2:29 pm
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G’day Mike, thanks for this information, it made a really helpful read.
Without giving my ENTIRE life story, I just wanted to inquire about my own situation, although it’s not the juiciest of them all…
I’m 16, and the boy I’m fond of just turned 17 (just to put this all into perspective). We’re in the same theatre group, and this guy always gets the lead roles appropriate to his age. I only get chorus/ensemble roles sadly… but my point is! I can tell I like him, because (among thinking about him 24/7) I get enormously jealous during the kiss scene of our current show, between him and the girl who got the lead female role of that age. I worry because I’m scared such an opportunity for this kind of contact will make him like her instead…
I do have suspicions already that he takes an interest in me, but I thought I’d check, because I just don’t know for sure…
He teases me often, in a joking way of course, and he is an affectionate boy, so he does hug me a lot and poke me and all that…. He smiles at me a lot (Oh my gosh that SMILE!) and although we don’t talk for hours on end, we do hold decent conversations between scene runthroughs.
Based on my own judgements of his behavior, I have had moments where I think to myself, “YES! I have got got this kid IN! THE! BAG!”, but I have also had the moments of, “who the hell am I kidding… there is NO WAY he’s interested…”
I’ve tried dropping heaps of really subtle hints, but I just can’t get a reaction from him big enough to form an idea of how he feels…
I just don’t know for sure, so I wanted a more definite second opinion. I’d appreciate it if you could get back to me and let me know what you think of what’s probably, not very useful evidence for you! Sorry… :S
Thanks again for your time, Mike!
#89 by Kate on July 11, 2011 - 2:30 pm
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G’day Mike, thanks for this information, it made a really helpful read.
Without giving my ENTIRE life story, I just wanted to inquire about my own situation, although it’s not the juiciest of them all…
I’m 16, and the boy I’m fond of just turned 17 (just to put this all into perspective). We’re in the same theatre group, and this guy always gets the lead roles appropriate to his age. I only get chorus/ensemble roles sadly… but my point is! I can tell I like him, because (among thinking about him 24/7) I get enormously jealous during the kiss scene of our current show, between him and the girl who got the lead female role of that age. I worry because I’m scared such an opportunity for this kind of contact will make him like her instead…
I do have suspicions already that he takes an interest in me, but I thought I’d check, because I just don’t know for sure…
He teases me often, in a joking way of course, and he is an affectionate boy, so he does hug me a lot and poke me and all that…. He smiles at me a lot (Oh my gosh that SMILE!) and although we don’t talk for hours on end, we do hold decent conversations between scene runthroughs.
Based on my own judgements of his behavior, I have had moments where I think to myself, “YES! I have got got this kid IN! THE! BAG!”, but I have also had the moments of, “who the hell am I kidding… there is NO WAY he’s interested…”
I’ve tried dropping heaps of really subtle hints, but I just can’t get a reaction from him big enough to form an idea of how he feels…
I just don’t know for sure, so I wanted a more definite second opinion. I’d appreciate it if you could get back to me and let me know what you think of what’s probably, not very useful evidence for you! Sorry… :S
Thanks again for your time, Mike!
#90 by Monalisa on July 12, 2011 - 3:42 am
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well, i just found this website cause i want a guys point of view on my situation. well i met this guy 3 months ago. And we decided on being friends. well, we exchanged numbers even though we was calling me more. during one of our convos we talked about our past relationships and why they diddnt work out. Well he was deciding to just remain single, and since i just got out of a relationship myself, i decided just to be friends with him, well he would text me good morning and try to call me on his break. when i was having trouble trying to move all my items from my dorm back home, he offered to drive my things home which is 3 hours away from his home. He recently told me that he liked me but when i asked where we stood he wanted to stay single and try to figure things out. now when we talk he tells me how much he wants to see me and he even wanted me to spend the weekend with him. it seems as if he is concerned with my career, and he is different from the guy i would go to. we have many things in common and my aunt thinks he a catch… what should i do??
#91 by Addie on July 12, 2011 - 4:33 am
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Hi Mike,
So I really like this guy. We have been general acquaintances for years but I started to get to know him just this year. He waits for me at my locker sometimes, walks me to classes if he’s in them sometimes, says hi to me and smiles when He sees me in the hall ways, has stood up for me a couple of times and we never seem to run out of things to talk about. He joined a team I’m on because I asked him to because I thought he would be good at it(and he was). I also catch him staring at me sometimes. Do you think he likes me?
#92 by Maddie(: on July 12, 2011 - 4:58 am
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Heyy(: your tips are REALLY helpful! But this guy I like is nothing like other guys… He is amazing.. We have dated once but we broke up and I miss him.. He likes my neighbor and he thinks he has a chance with her (ps did I mention he only likes her cuz she’s hot) I mean he told me a couple days ago that he didn’t like her. He is still my friend and he has been texting me alot more since he told me he didn’t like my neighbor. He is a really good friend of mine and we tell eachother EVERYTHING. He tells me stuff that he doesn’t even tell his best friends. I wanted to know if he likes me or if he would ever take me back.
I would really appreciate it if u answered me back
#93 by jacky on July 13, 2011 - 8:14 am
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well this guy that i like is a year and a half older than me and hes my friends cousin ive known my friend since we were born we grew up together and we lost contact a while ago finally we found eachother and i got to meet her family again the that i like never really talked to me until i took the initiative and talked to him he was very nice and when i was talking to him he was playing a video game at the moment and he paused and looked at me when i was talking to him we only talk when were at my friends house only when i go to family party’s with my friend i see her cousin there and we dont talk i talk to his sisters but there a couple years younger than me i really like him but he doesnt talk much our arms usually have contact with eachother and our legs too. but im not sure he likes me
please help me!
#94 by jacky on July 13, 2011 - 8:17 am
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well this guy that i like is a year and a half older than me and hes my friends cousin ive known my friend since we were born we grew up together and we lost contact a while ago finally we found eachother and i got to meet her family again her cousin never really talked to me until i took the initiative and talked to him he was very nice and when i was talking to him he was playing a video game at the moment and he paused and looked at me when i was talking to him we only talk when were at my friends house only when i go to family party’s with my friend i see her cousin there and we dont talk i talk to his sisters but there a couple years younger than me i really like him but he doesnt talk much our arms usually have contact with eachother and our legs too. but im not sure he likes me
please help me!
#95 by jacky on July 13, 2011 - 8:21 am
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oh and he usually turns around looks at something else and then looks at me when im at there family party’s he looks at me almost every 10 mins
#96 by Braevyn on July 13, 2011 - 7:43 pm
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Mike,
I noticed that you have not really responded to any of these in a while but I’m just gonna jump on the bandwagon and through my issue out there as well.
Me and this guy at work have a thing going on between us. for a long time now i might add. We havent dated or anything but there is definately feelings between us. The only things really holding me back are the following: 1. He’s younger than me by 3 years and is still quite immature. It bothers the crap outta me how immature he can be sometimes. 2. He tells his family EVERYTHING. The couple times that we hung out the next day I come to work and his mom (who works here also) asks me how our night was, and I’ll say I had fun or whatever my answer is and she’d say “oh yeah thats what Kyle told me too.” I cant stand people being in my personal life besides me and the guy. So should we date (like his whole family insists because they want me to “straighten him out”) or should i just say eff that and keep the “just friends” card on the table?
#97 by Brenna on July 14, 2011 - 12:34 am
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Hey love the articles but I have a problem! So this guy I have liked for a year now had a girl friend who didn’t treat him right but she broke up with him a couple of days ago, ever since I can tell he’s been giving me signals. Except hes npt over this girl no matter how much me and his frie nds tell him he’ll find some one else. I have a good feeling he likes me how do I make him sure though I’m the one. I’ve already tried talking to him about his feelings and complimenting him giving him hugs but i need more! Any advice on getting him to b mine and how to get him over his mean ex?
#98 by Ash L. on July 14, 2011 - 4:20 pm
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So my boyfriend and I have been going out for 5 months and I can tell he’s still interested, but I just found out that he’s liked other girls and he flirts with other girls. Should I be worried? Or is this just a guy thing?
#99 by Kaitlyn on July 15, 2011 - 2:49 am
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Hey, I know this might be stupid but there’s this guy I think I like and we’ve been great friends for a while(I’d guess 5-6 months) and recently we’ve hung out quite a bit. At first it was in groups of at least 2 or three people but after he asked me to stay for dinner. I did, of course and he seemed to be really nervous. After we went to his room and somehow the conversation ended up with me asking who he likes and he kept on refusing to tell me. He e-mailed and asked to hang out the next day and we went swimming together then walked all over town and finally went back to his place(He walked me home too, even though I live over a Kilometre away, how sweet ^^) Yesterday we watched movies at his place and I was sitting on a couch while he was on this fold out bed/couch thing and he asked me to come sit next to him. The movie was pretty boring and we eventually ended up in a tickle fight(I lost of course) and just last night he e-mail me and asked to go see a movie without mentioning any other people coming with us.He also keeps saying that he feels bad for not getting me a birthday present and as soon as he gets some money he’s buying me a bouquet of roses even though I tell him not to waste his money on me he says “You’re worth it”. I know I’m probably totally stupid for asking, but do you think he might like me? And how do I take things to the next level? Please answer!
#100 by Mia on July 15, 2011 - 7:12 am
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Hello:) I really like this guy and I have a feeling he likes me but then idk lol, My bestfriend likes him and he said he doesnt like her that way, and she is really jelouse that he ignores everyone else and talks to me, he constantly tells me he loves me and sometimes says I love you sis, because were super super close but thats rare.. He knows I like him! Recently Idk how but he either got into my facebook or something and found out I was dating a guy, he was disappointed in me because who the guys was…and My friend goes Im getting mad because everytime we talk he brings you up and just talks about you constantly and I wana talk about just us but he somehow always brings you up! So Idk and also he Says I have helped him so much and I am an amazing person and a sweetheart and Im the only person that cares about him and I proved that to him! That he is grateful and Im different from other girls! I remember once My friend wanted us to date, but we didnt like eachother and he told me privately.. your an Amazing girl and I love you to death and nothing or no one can brake it or our bond but your too young! He is 19 and I am 15
Idk if he likes me but or what, It seems like mixed signals:/ Im too scared to ask him and it took me4 years to fall for him!
#101 by vanessa on July 15, 2011 - 12:55 pm
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there’s this guy i work with in the same company for abt 9 months now but we actually got close abt 6months ago when we realised we’re attracted to each other. this whole thing started as a joke initially but we got emotionally attached to each other along the line. the thing is he has a gf which i knew from the onset. we’ve shared several initimate moments except the actual sex. it was fun hanging out with him and all that until abt a couple of months ago wen i decided to opt out of the relationship cos i couldnt stand having to share him with his gf anymore as i was falling for him. this guy wouldnt take no for an answer and he gets jealous wen he sees am with other guys or happily chatting on the fone. am not seeing anyone at the moment. his actions confuses me a lot cos eventhough i knew he really liked me alot when we first started, its not the same now and we fight occasionally. he stil dsnt really want to let go of me and he’s still with his gf anyway. pls help me mike. am confused.
#102 by Jo on July 15, 2011 - 2:28 pm
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hey great tips but I still don’t know.
there’s this guy I really like. He lives about an hour away but I met him at his place at this horse camp thing his parents ran. We wrestled on the trampoline heaps and during hide and seek he took my onto the roof of his shed and we were talking for hours until it got too dark. I’m a twin and usually people go for her instead so I was alway’s conscious of his body language and stuff. We talked on facebook for ages after the camp and alway’s played the question game (where you ask each other questions you wouldn’t normally ask and have to answer honestly). We played the dirty version. He’s a real ladies man and he alway’s talks about sex and testosterone and stuff. A while ago there was another horse camp that we both went to. My sister was riding and he and i both didn’t have a horse at the time so we spent the two day’s talking and stuff, usually the question game. I remember how he was alway’s really careful of his body language around me but with others he was more physical (like whacked them playfully and stuff) it was only at the end of the 2 day’s that we wrestled heaps in this piile of sand and got really physical. So we’re kind of just friends but I really like him and I don’t know if he likes me back. he never makes a move except for asking me if I’m jealous, or missing him some of the time. If he is into me how do I get him to make a move especially because we don’t see each ther very often? We’re both 14.
#103 by Jocelyn on July 15, 2011 - 4:05 pm
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Well I got to say this is VERY helpfull I thought it wouldnt be Because all the other website were not ! I like to hear from a guy but My boyfriend is nice and I like him soo Much it is our second time being together But He broke his phone we can’t txt he doesn’t get on facebook or anything So how do I have comunication and I Call his home phone But he is never home so What do I do? I don’t really mind that But one time I called him He answered and we havent hung out in like a month and I asked him Wanna hang out he was Like what do you mean ? >:( I am mad at him Because I wanna see him And stuff How do I ask him ? And Also I somtimes think that he likes other girls But I am not sure Since I havent seen him
Can I get help ??
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#104 by Aleece on July 15, 2011 - 11:44 pm
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I love your tips and I wish he liked me, and I think I would know it if he did, but he has a girlfriend and lives a few towns over! We went on a vacation together (with my dad, uncle, and cousin) (He is my cousins best friend and I’ve known him since we were 5) but I only caught him glancing at me, he barely ever talked to me and when he did it was to ask me to do something. I really like him and have for a while, but i just don’t know how to get him to notice me if he has a girlfriend! Is there anyway to get closer to him or should he just stay my cousin’s best friend?
#105 by Kennedy on July 16, 2011 - 5:30 am
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Hey mike
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So this website helped a ton but I’m still not 100% sure… I’m 14 and the guy I like is 16. My brother is in the same grade as him and they are pretty good friends so I should worry about the age diff. right? Anyway, I’ve hung out with this guy a couple of times and I’m pretty sure he keeps hinting that he likes me but I get so nervous when I’m around him that I don’t know what to say! I’m a really outgoing funny girl but it’s like a cats got my tounge. /: I’m afraid I’ll be too immature and I’m not sure how to let him know I like him back… He hasn’t asked for my number yet but we havent hung out but only 3 times so I’m just wondering if he wants to get to know me better but how can he when I’m to scared to talk to him?!? Help
#106 by Dee on July 16, 2011 - 8:47 pm
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Hey Mike,
Now that I’ve read through this site multiple times I figured it was q&a time. There’s this guy (never heard that one before huh?) and I really like him. We met oddly enough through my mother as she knew his father and hired him to do yard and pool work for her. We met, and hung out some and things seemed to be going well I guess. He works at a Publix near my house so I see him there all the time and unless he’s really busy he always stops and comes over to talk for a bit. When he does text me, everything is great, but then he goes for days at a time ignoring me and I don’t want to seem desperate texting him all the time. My friend keeps telling me how he “lights up” when he sees me, but I’m not so sure. I know how IIIIIIII feel, but he’s a mystery giftwrapped with mixed signals. He’s definitely a gentleman, so I guess my question is how can I tell the difference between him just being nice to me and gentlemanly or genuinely being interested? SOS!!!! Help a girl out here haha. Thanks!
#107 by lexi on July 17, 2011 - 4:51 am
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hey ok so there is this guy who lives a couple houses away from me and we hung out be fore then we didnt for a while then the there night we started texting me and we hung out the next day and played card games from 8 till 10:30 and he kinda seems like when i mention another guy hes like yeah and umhum like hes not paying attention is that jealousy? we hung out by walking to the store today and then he came out front and played card games with me and another girl then he left after an hour cuz everyone had to go then we just hung out for an hour but i cant tell if he likes me we laugh together alot and i like him but i am to freaked out to ask him if he likes me cuz i dont wana ruin our friendship plus i see him every day so it might be awckward if he dosent like me then we couldnt be friends!he also says every time after we hangout text me tomorrow and we can probably hangout! WHAT DO I DO?!?!?!?!? pleae help me figure it out!
#108 by Kayla on July 17, 2011 - 6:34 am
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So me and this guy I REALLY like have been texting for a while now and it just so turns out that my mom likes his dad so we spend the night at his house sometimes. It’s just me and him in his room all night and all we do is kiss and made out once! I like he likes me but he also likes another girl. Who is way prettier then me! How do I get him to like me more then her? Why didn’t he try anything else when I spent the night!?
PLEASE HELP!!!
#109 by Alexis on July 17, 2011 - 8:35 am
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what if your a little to young for the sexual stuff? i mean i liked the other information but what if were nnot olld enough??
**Beila selene**
#110 by Marie on July 17, 2011 - 3:31 pm
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Hey Mike,
So i like this guy a lot and i read your article and well he asks to hang out with just me, but when we talk he will now and then mention another girl like an ex or something. im confused on if he likes me or not cause if he did like u said he wouldnt bring up his ex. i just want to know cause i really like him like alot. please help Mike thanks
#111 by Tanya on July 17, 2011 - 5:24 pm
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Umm….hey i just read all these articles but i guess some facts really are’nt helpful to me so i was wondering if u wud help me out …….thers this guy whom i like very much , we were friends before but i told him that im into him after that i really dunno what happend to him…in class he stopped talkin to me and but when a guy used to talk to he wud get really angry and flirt with a girl . now we are’nt friends anymore but i figrued that he din’t like me so i started dating this other guy but suddenly he started texting me again and he calls me these days asking about that other guy and sometimes he askes this stupid stuff which is really annoying sometimes he tells me that he likes me too…but the next day he shows that he doesnt want to talk to me …its making me crazy and im confused so would you help me please ! his making me crazy i dunno what his upto so will you pleeeeeeaaaaaasssssseeee help me !!!!!!!!!
#112 by Angelia on July 18, 2011 - 4:54 pm
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Hey, I have a best guy friend. Everyone says he likes me.. Even my dad! I’m already like a second daughter in his family. But it’s weird because my dad and his dad have been bffs for 33 years! So were “like” cousins. But I catch him staring at me and he tries to find a way to touch my arm or any where for that matter. He helps me out… And sometimes teases me in a playful way.. And he annoys me on purpose sometimes. We can talk for hours and never get bored.. And he compliments on my accomplishes alot. We have alot of common interests and goals and we both have brown hair and see through blue eyes. Sometimes I wonder if he loves me as much as I love him, but he’s shy.. And I wonder if he loves me like a Sis or cousin. What do you think?
#113 by Casey on July 18, 2011 - 5:14 pm
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Hey mike!I have two situations. I REALLY like this guy but I’m dating another guy.it doesn’t feel right.but any way the guy I really like,let’s call him Jim, seems like he likes me!I was at local park with a friend for another friends soft ball game when be came up to me and stole my ice tea and jokingly said “I hope u don’t have herpes” as he took sip. I then sarcastically said “yes,yes I do have herpes.”and he laugh and said “as long as it’s from you its okay with me!” so I blushed and did my stupid ass laugh I always do and he goes away.he comes back MINUTES after and takes my iced tea and I run after him with my friend and I said “oh he’s gunna put it down his pants..” while I was saying tht he put the bottle down his pants!I could not stop laughing!so I thought “for sure he likes me too!” so I asked if he wanted to hang with me at the Festiville at my school. He said maybe but he never did.he’s always hanging with popular girls who are ugly little fucks and BLAAH! It makes ms jelous.I want to hang with him again and I wish he would like me and ask me out but now I’m dating someone who lives in Missouri when I live in Ohio…how am I gunna do this mike!!?how do I try to make “Jim” want me like I want him!!!?how do I let my boyfriend go!!?this is the third day we’ve been dating.HELP!!
#114 by Jill on July 18, 2011 - 5:16 pm
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This may seem seriously “not needed”….because I have been dating this man for 7 months. A month into it we mutually decided to be exclusive. I get “good morning sunshine” messages every morning we are not together….we talk every night….and try to see each other once a week. We live almost an hour apart…..are both Chef’s so we have crazy schedules but try to make time for each other. I am mad for this man….and am sure I am falling in love with him…..but I have not said anything yet. I guess I just want to ask….how can you tell if a man is into you for the potential long run? He is 40….I am 43……..I have never had a relationship like this and tend to overanalyze……while he is the better scorpio and is laid back and relaxed. I would love any and all advice for how to keep things moving along as they are…..but not get complacent. Thank you. Jill
#115 by Ashleigh on July 19, 2011 - 8:08 pm
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hi
i have this situation where i think my ex boyfriend still likes me. we broke up a few months ago and i want to be friends again, but i think he may still like me. i also still really like him. how do i find out if he does or not without being to pushy. we go to camp in a few weeks and i dont want it to be akward. any advice would really help
#116 by Nicole on July 19, 2011 - 10:39 pm
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I love your advice! I just need a little help! There’s this boy and I’m not sure if he likes me or not, we flirt a lot! And he tells me I’m amazing and he said he wanted to go on a date with me in 2 years cus I’m not old enough to date yet! And he also uses
alot, But I really want to know if he likes me or not! Thanks(:
#117 by Jackie on July 20, 2011 - 10:52 pm
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Hey so i go to this summer camp and there is this really cute guy that goes there. But all my friends including me like this guy
. I’m not sure if he likes me but it seems like it. So when we went rock jumping he was walking behind me and he stepped on my ankle and i turned around 2 see who it was and he was smiling at me. Also we were on the same volleyball team and he kept staring at me and wherever i would go on the court he would follow me there and stand in front of me. Annnddd lastly we have this cheer off and since i was the only one that could do a front hand spring they nominated me to do it. As i was practicing he was staring at me the whole time. But i broke my toe so i cant do the hand spring at the cheer off 2morrow
What should i do about myy friends?? and do you think that he likes me?? btw there is also a dance in 2 weeks and i want him 2 ask me what to do ??? 
PS him and his friends keep rating us whenever we walk by and his friends gave us 9′s and he gave us 10′s
#118 by wiki on July 21, 2011 - 10:04 am
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hi there is this boy i really like and i think he likes me too but he keeps giving me mixed signals like sometimes he shows off in front of me because me and my friend was walking home and he walked at the back of us and then he says to my friend tiara stop picking on me but tiara never touched him but it got me laughing and when ever my friend is around me and Jacobs there he always picks on her in front of me and me and him chats on Facebook and he added me as a family member but i wanted to be more then that to him and when i see him my heart starts to beat so fast and he non stop makes me laugh . the things i like about him is his personality and he brings laughter to my life ,so i was wandering if he will like this poem or if its to desperate ? i wrote this poem for him but im not sure if i should give it to him
k here it go’s
YOU STAND BY ME LIKE AN INDULGING DOVE
GLISTENING AND BLOSSOMING WITH PURE LOVE.
YOUR LIKE A LIGHT THAT SHINES SO BRIGHT
THAT TWINKLE,THAT STAR,THAT SHIMMERING LIGHT.
YOU ARE MY ANGEL FROM UP ABOVE
MY ONLY MAN ,MY ONE TRUE LOVE.
I LIKE THE WAY YOU DO THE THINGS YOU DO
I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU MORE AND FOREVER TREASURE YOU.
MY LOVE FOR YOU WILL NEVER END YOU WILL ALWAYS BE APART OF ME AS LONG AS TIME KEEPS ON PASSING BY
YOU WILL ALWAYS BE MY BABY BOY.
i hope you comment bk to me please cause i can really use Ur advice and sorry if the poem i made up is to mushy but it was made up on the spot so yea thank you heaps.
#119 by Love on July 21, 2011 - 3:13 pm
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Hi!!!! Ok all of these tips help me heaps but I have a couple of other questions ok well this guy I like he told me he likes me but I’m not completely sure, anyway we always talk other Facebook and text lots but I’m still wondering whether or not he likes me. On Facebook the other night I was talking to him and I was joking around with him and he was joking around with me anyway I accidentally said something that might have upset him I was sure why but it did so he wanted me to give him a hug the next day and I couldn’t find him and so he said tomorrow but I was going away so it wouldn’t be for a while and now I have to give him two hugs and I don’t know whether I should or not. he asks me about my love life and stuff but like when he is around he friends he is completely different and when I talk to him on the phone and stuff he is another person and I’m afraid that if he asks me out I wouldn’t know what to say cause I like the person who I talk to on the phone and hang out with 1 on 1. As you probably already know he did ask me for my phone number on the begging and he always calls me sexy and babe when I talk to him just not around his friend.
I hope you can help many thanks
M
#120 by Abby on July 24, 2011 - 3:38 am
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i like this guy who is really religious.he stares at me alot but when his friend asked him if he liked me he said no.hes always quiet around me. he gets kinda shy when Im around but his sister says that he’s always like that. I’m really confused because his friend who is my best friend won’t tell me anything.oh yea he always smiles at me but I think it’s because he knows I like him. I’m so confused your my only hope he’s not easy to read.
#121 by Ashley on July 24, 2011 - 8:03 am
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Okay Mike, I know you’re a busy guy, but I’m hoping you respond to my post… I’ve dated a lot and I’ve had a couple of long relationships, but this one (guy) has got me more confused than I’ve ever been before about a guy. I’m 27 and he’s 34 years old-FYI. I’ve never gone online looking for advise, but here I am. Anyway, I met this guy over three years ago in a 80′s dance club. I still remember the night, it was that memorable for me. I’m not sure if it was for him, but that’s just the start. So, I met him there, we had a fun night (no, I didn’t go home with him…that night). He asked me if I wanted to hang out sometime, and we did a few nights later. We hung out a few times over a couple of months time period. We were both busy then, but he was especially busy, so he said. I wasn’t sure if he was just playing games or what, but I kind of got sick of him saying he was busy, etc. etc. So, I decided to not really talk to him anymore. I didn’t think it’d bother him in the slightest, because he came across to me as someone who “got around” a lot or was a “player”. However, when I stopped talking to him and started seeing someone else, he started texting me and calling me wondering why “I dropped off the face of the earth”. I told him that it seemed he only wanted one thing from me and that he was too busy, etc. He ended up telling me that he didn’t appreciate that I stopped talking to him with no explanation for some time. I was just shocked that he even noticed. He’s very attractive, he knows it, so I really just didn’t think he cared! By this time I was seeing someone else, and we got involved. Well, that didn’t work out. So, just about three years later, I was still kind of thinking about this guy from the past, so I wrote him. I sent him a simple note, “are you still alive?” He wrote back and said “yes”. This led to more talking, and him making me convince him that I wouldn’t fall off the face of the earth again without any explanation. This, again, surprised me. I convinced him and we eventually met up. Then we hung out the following week, and then after that he asked me out SEVERAL times and BAILED on me over the next three months. All of his excuses were actually believable, but at the same time, I was wondering why he wasn’t making the time. After that much time went by, we finally got together again this past Thursday night. I went to his house, had dinner and the rest is history. He sent me a text on Friday telling me that his buddies were giving him high fives becaue I was over Thursday night. I thought that was kind of “highschoolish” but kind of cute, maybe…. Anyway, so after all that, I DON’T know if he really likes me. I don’t know what to do from here. I have no idea what he’s thinking. I’m pretty positive he’ll text me again sometime, but it could be tomorrow or likely in a week. Ugh..! Advice?? I actually like him, but what’s going on here and how do I find out??
#122 by Charlie on July 24, 2011 - 8:30 pm
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Hi Mike.
I just stumbled across your website and need advice. I am currently in a 2 year relationship. At first the relationship was fun and exciting but now i hardly see my boyfriend (only for 4 hours on a sunday). He cancels plans on me at the last minute because of work and sees his friends a lot more than me. He never replies back to my texts and we often have conflicting views. So, it is no wonder that a guy at work and myself have been flirting. He has only been there for a week and he also has a girlfriend who is 16 years older than him. He says they are having trouble in the relationship. He is always smiling at me talking and flirting with me saying ‘so when are we going to run away together then?’ ‘when are you going to leave your boyfriend for me?’ he compliments me on my figure and my smile. Last night it was just the two of us left over from work and an awkward silence came over us and he started talking jibberish to me about cleaning products LOL then he watched me walk to my car and asked when i was working again and seemed pleased that we would be working together on our next shift. It’s only early days but i dont know……am i reading too much into it?
#123 by abby mcclane on July 25, 2011 - 9:12 pm
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how old are you mike???
#124 by Cotton on July 26, 2011 - 10:58 am
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Hi, I really need this answer. There this guy I liked secretly about 3 months. And one day we hang out and it seem like he like’d me. Like he hold hands annd pick me up. I knew that moment he like’d me. But then the day next day he texted me saying “What would you do if I kiss you” I didn’t reply (He was in a relationship at that moment) 1 week later he broke up with his girlfriend. And now he act’s strange everytime we hang out at that time. 1 week later he had another girlfriend. I was really upset and thought he like’d me. Than .. couples week later he and I had fight cause of what I am. Now we’re not friend’s. Everytime I get on my facebook. I start seeing his comment every where on my friends and he even added some of my friend’s he don’t even know! o; God! I blew my chance when he was in the relationship with his girlfriend .. i asked him if we could date .. but i was like high and wanted to see what he will say. And than he said “Only if my girlfriend doesn’t know” . I smile but than i didn’t wanted him to cheat. And now look at us ._. apart. He was my bffs! What do I do to tell him I want him back and show him I love him? I tried everything! Well not everything. I even told him the truth why I change. I want him back badly he’s make me stay up and cry at night of what he have said.
#125 by N on July 26, 2011 - 1:23 pm
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Um….no. See, i’m 13, not some stupid bimbo who wants to have sex :S
And i’m not considered a nerd, but i’m not popular,and i am smart, and he fails half his exams, he isn’t a troublemaker though. he’s popular. And behind. he’s meant to be in the year above.
#126 by Keira on July 27, 2011 - 7:07 am
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Dear Mike, I love your advice. So I wanted your advice on my situation.
he said he was comfy. When I buckled my seat belt he had already finished but he kept his hand there until i moved mine. Later I caught him smiling at me a lot and we were both constantly smiling when with each other. He gave me a hug good bye. And added me on facebook later that night. I messaged him first but he put an exclamation point and a smile when he replied.
I met this guy 4 days ago at an all nighter party.
He always sat next to me even if the seat was made for one person. He teased me and we joked around a lot. He complimented me. And there was 8 people in a car and 4 of them were squished in the back that only fits 3 people. He had like 6 inches beside him but stayed squished next to me
I feel im looking into things way to much, but everyone I’ve told the story to thinks he likes me. If you think he likes me, do you have any advice on what I should do?
Please, I really appreciate it.
#127 by lotte on July 27, 2011 - 8:16 am
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I really hope that this will work coz i am CraZy for him but i dont know if he feels the same way about me coz he has shown all of the signs. Can you tell me a good text to send him to ask him on a date PLZ???? Thanks mike
#128 by Red Head7 on July 27, 2011 - 2:07 pm
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I really like this guy, but He lives in Tenesee, and i live in Georgia, He told me he liked me so i told him i liked him, and every one says long distance relationshipe don’t work out. . . What do i do now?
#129 by Abbie on July 27, 2011 - 11:14 pm
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Omg mike i havent had a chance 2 ask him out and i called him but he didnt awnswer he called me back about an hour later ohh i fell like such a bimbo when he did cal i just put on a deep vouce and said i think you have the wrong number and hung up anotherthing is that when me greg mark and jac were messing around mark pushed him into me and saud go on kiss then and greg started pushing me into jac and jac looked at mark and started blushung then whispered somthing into his ear can that mean anything please reply this guy means tge world to me!
#130 by Abbie on July 27, 2011 - 11:17 pm
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I am such a bimbo he tried 2 ask me out over the phone and i hadnt awsered back kuz i wuz scared i just put On a deep voice and saud i think u got the wring number
#131 by Kelsey on July 28, 2011 - 5:20 am
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K soo theres this guy, i went to the same school as him and we also go to the same gym. I haven’t talked to him cuz he’s just that “hot gym guy” so i really haven’t tried but the more i see him the more i feel like we’re wanting to talk to eachother but we think it’ll be creepy…we send mixed signals to eachother and we always show up at the same times at the gym and we ALWAYS catch eachother staring when we’re working out, so i decided to add him on facebook…he never added me back, its kind of likely this is all ME and he just thinks i’m another creepy chick from school.
yeah thats my storie so my question… does he like me? if he does, why wont he add me back…?
#132 by Crystal on July 29, 2011 - 4:09 am
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I would like some advice on this guy. He flirts with me all the time, but he also flirts with the “popular” girls. He goes out with these girls repeatedly and flirts with me repeatedly. We always skype and talk. I dont know if he is just a player or if he actually likes me.. Help?
#133 by Hayley on July 29, 2011 - 6:53 am
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Hi Kike, I was just reading some of your tips on how to “pick up guys”. I do have a guy in mind and had a crush on since lastyear. I realize that thi scan be a long and hard process, but I consider myself to be a shy person as well. About this guy, he’s really nice, great sense of humor, blonde hair, blue eyes
, any good traits you can think of. I am familiar with some of the “symptoms” to tell if this guy likes me or not. I can tell that he likes me because he told me jokes, even sexual jokes. He heard two co-workers talking about being on top of things and he says “That’s disturbing” ANd I turned to him and said “What is?” And he said that if Amanda was on top. And I just smiled and laughed. I know he likes me (DUH), but I’m just wondering why he would tell jokes like that? He’s even helped me in alot of situations at work. One night I had trouble lifting a heavy box and he noticed and he just came over and he got it for me instead of me doing it.
I even hung out with him a few times before, and I wanted to go walking with him, and he was heading home. He doesn’t have a car. He got off his shift and I walked up to him and said hi and how are you, just to start it out. Then I asked him if I can go walking with him and he stopped in silence for a couple seconds and he said “I don’t mind”. The toughest part with the two of us is holding a conversation with each other. I don’t know if that’s typical when we run out of things to say, like you said in your website of good advice. Then it starts to feel get uncomfortable after a while and trying to think what I should say next, or talk about the nice weather, your birthday, family, work, etc. He’s 26 and I’m 19. I didn’t get his number, he never gave it to me. I didn’t ask for his number. Should I give him mine?
I’m nervous to ask him out, or if he wanted to hang out sometime.
What should I do? Help me LOL!
#134 by Dailyn on July 29, 2011 - 2:54 pm
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hey mike, i am 13 and my problem is alittle more difficult then what your website can provide me. I love you advise and i will use it ,but here’s my problem:
I live in SC (summerville) and i came up to NC to visit some family during summer break. Well i went to this bible school thing for church. It was from sunday to thursday. I was a helper/teacher and i made some friends with some other helpers. Well the helpers that were my age were Carmon, Kritsta, Will, Bryce, Jakie, and sam. ok im going to get to the point. i became friends with bryce on wendsday and it ended thursday. On thursday we talked all day and i ask him for his # and he gave it to me so i gave him my #. We agreed to talk the next day. When i called him we talked about our familys and camp and that kind of stuff. He said at 12:30 he had to leave to go to patton pool. I wrote down the name of the pool on a piece of paper my mom saw it and said we could go. So i told bryce ,but we still kept on talking. He said he likes talking on the phone with me and i said it back. We hung up the phone and both went to the pool. When we got there we didn’t reconize each other but he reconize my sister so she told me he was there and we swam.The next day he had to leave for georgia so he told me to call at 7:00 am. We talked until 8:30 but then had to leave. The problem is that we both have alot in common about EVERYTHING. I really like him ,but i am going home to SC soon and i am afraid i will never see him again. I would just ask him if he likes me but im afraid that he will be freaked out and won’t want to talk to me. His friends carmon and krista thinks he likes me ,but i’m not sure. I really like him because he has every thing in a guy that make me happy. He’s nice, swet, funny, cue, smart, down to earch, he’s himself, he isn’t annoyed that i like to talk or that im hyper, he’s jusst everything. And im pretty sure that doing a good blowjob isn’t the answer. If your still alive please help.
p.s.
i don’t check my email so if you could comment back that would be nice.
#135 by Katelyn :) on July 29, 2011 - 3:46 pm
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YOU are so right!!! YOUR website is hilarious, amazing, and genious!!! Telling everyone about this!!! Good stuff! Definitely going to get that book too….can’t wait actually hahahah
#136 by Katherine on July 30, 2011 - 6:02 am
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Hi. So there’s this guy who joined my bio class at the start of 2nd semester and I went and sat next to him one day and ended up sitting there the rest of the year and we always sat next to each other. We run in the same friend circle and so we hangout together on weekends a lot but mostly in bigger groups (around 10 people). He always seems to end up sitting by me when were at our friends house and were all sitting on multiple couches. I think he always seems kind of cuddly with me but I’m not sure. At our end if the year dance he danced with only me and I only danced with him and my friends seem to also think he likes me and we talked a bunch during our biology class but he is a flirty person with slot of people so I just don’t totally know what I should think because I don’t want to get hurt if he doesn’t like me. Thanks!
#137 by Maria on July 30, 2011 - 1:08 pm
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there’s this guy that i like and i ALWAYS see him looking at me. i’ve asked many times why he does and he either changes the subject, laughs it off nervously or said no. I feel like he does like me but wont say anything. am i right?
#138 by Alexis on July 30, 2011 - 5:26 pm
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hey mike,ssing?
well i hvae been tallking to this guy for two weeks im guessing? but he has told me he likes me but just yesterday we went to a water park and i had my two frineds and he had his two friends and he didnt talk to me barely at all but he talked to his sister (my friend) and my other friend? the night before we were hanging out just talking and snuggling laughing and all that other flirty stuff. but now i havent heard from him since?? he normally always textes me first thing in the morning but not today? does he still like me?
#139 by clarinetz on July 31, 2011 - 3:41 am
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well, um… >/////.< Is he just shy or something or does he not wanna talk to me?
#140 by Emily on July 31, 2011 - 3:26 pm
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Alright, Mike, first of all I want to thank you for creating this site. I’ve read a lot but yours is the most honest and I dig that. So onto the issue I suppose. The guy I’m currently into is actually my ex. This sounds tricky but we really never developed our relationship… It really went like this: we got together, said hello when we passed eachother in the halls, he waited to walk with me ONCE, he slowly stopped talking to me and grew distant, we broke up. At first I wondered if it was because of another girl but I don’t believe that to be true. So now we are right back where we started, good friends who have broken the touching barrier. We are both completely comfortable wrestling, picking things (fuzzies) off our clothes, confiscating oneanothers pocket contents etc. Now I still like him and my genius friend told mento kiss him which I’m planning to do but he isn’t making nearly as much contact with me as we did… We don’t hang out as much and I’m worried if I’m losing/lost my chance. I know he has some feelings for me still (I had some spy work done). He says “I don’t know if I still like her but I’m pretty sure she really likes me” so, Mike, is this a lost cause?
#141 by Daisey on August 1, 2011 - 7:53 am
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Hey, Mike
I am so head over heels for this guy at work. We have a mutual friend, and our friend has told me that he has asked if he thought that I am ‘family orieented’?? Also our friend has also asked me if I thought that “mr” would make a good father?? What do you think??? Cheers
#142 by Shannon on August 2, 2011 - 5:40 am
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Hi Mike!
lol and well when ever he asks me to hang out with him his voice becomes like all serious and his movements becoem rigid andstiff like he does when he’s nervous in class :/ plus over this year we have become the best of friends and he’s the sweetest guy so I dont know what is him just being the sweet guy he is or signs! Pleasxee help!
Your site is really good and ik you said that there has been so many commetns and emails you can’t get back to them all but I thought id try! Alright well I’m I have a twin brother and he alwaysss goes out with my friends including my best friends however I have always been friends with his firends but nothing more. Though this year has been diffrent, I’ve seriously started liking his best friend and we talk all the time and we hang out but its always with my brother there so its never 1 on 1. Now before I even started liking the guy he’d talk about the bro code and how it means you can’t date a best friends sister . But I think he might like me with all these signs I feel he’s sending, like how when we go to the movies just him me and my brother and my other friend he asked me to move up with him and at the end of every movie we wined up sitting alone togetehr and he’d always ask me if I wanted his sweatshirt cause I was cold or one time I was cryign ccause it was a sad movie and he asked if I wanted his sweatshit to wipe my tears away and even tho id say no he’d still give me his sweatshirt and he always steals my phone to read through my messages (which let me tell ya can be come verryyy annoying!)
#143 by Laura on August 2, 2011 - 1:07 pm
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So I work with this guy and in our line of work we have to contact eachother by phone everyday we relieve eachother from whatever shift. So neither one of us had to ask or give numbers but we only work 3 days a week and every since the first time we worked together 3 weeks ago we have texted eachother at least once a day. When we are face to face tho he gets really shy and it seems I have to initiated the conversation.does he like me like “that” or are we just coworkers that bs while away from work.would love to know
#144 by Alex on August 3, 2011 - 6:08 am
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So on Facebook there’s this guy that I like but he thinks I hate him and so I don’t want him to know I like him and so I’m like why did u add me and he laughes at every thing I say. Dose this mean he likes me
#145 by Ashely on August 3, 2011 - 1:58 pm
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I’m not old enough to have you know what. So is there a different way to know if he like me.
#146 by Bella on August 5, 2011 - 7:10 am
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umm… theres this guy that i have likes for a really long time and i dont know what to do. last time i thought he likes me he liked my best friend. and now i like him again and he is showing a couple of signs that you mentioned. the only thing is that when he smiles it fades away, we talk only sometimes he tell me how hot my friends are and i dont no if i should go up to him and ask him if he likes me or not. but i really want him to like me. plzzzz help
#147 by ana on August 5, 2011 - 2:42 pm
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hey i have a question i dated a guy named tim two years ago he was the best boyfriend i ever had and i really liked him a lot. i was forced to brake up with tim because my parents thought i was too young to date. he and i got together again last year but it didnt last long because he started college and both of us didnt think it would be wise to keep along distance relationship. after a few months i started dating this other guy for a while because i heard tim was dating some one. when i broke up with the other guy tim kept asking who i liked and when i asked him why he wanted to know he would say because i am your friend and i just want to know every time he comes to visit my friends tell me that when ever he sees me his face lights up and that his voice becomes very gentle. the last time he came he wanted to spend some time one on one but i wasnt able to go out at all. i think he likes me but at time i fell like i annoy him i dont know what to do please help me i really like him. i have never felt this way before.
#148 by anonymous on August 6, 2011 - 4:58 am
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mike i had a question
this guy i recently met on camp im kind of crushing on and he goes to my university my friend managed to find him on fb etc etc and last week me her and him hung out in our common spare just so that we can get to know him a bit better and on that morning before i came to uni he said ‘i might be runnning a little late because my lecture finishes at the time we are to meet so here’s my number…..’ im not sure if he is just being friendly or not?i dont know him too well and i would reallly like to go out with him. help!
#149 by PLEASE ANSWER MINE, MIKE! on August 6, 2011 - 2:15 pm
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Before I continue, let me just say that it takes me a while to realize that I like a guy. That is, I would have given the guy signs that I like him without realizing it. and just like most girls, I give mixed signals to protect my self and keep my cover. I have a feeling my best guy friend likes me. I’ve known him for 2 years and I’ve never gotten this close to a guy, I trust him so much and he knows a lot about me as I do about him. When we’re around each other, we sometimes act like we’re together. He sometimes holds my hand, we hug and he kisses me on the cheek, hand, forehead and nose but never on the lips. He playfully asks for a kiss on the cheek sometimes and I give him one. We’ve even spooned once after watching a movie together. My friends think he likes me. I’m worried that if anything is to happen between us it will ultimately ruin our friendship. So, 1. Does he like me? and 2. If anything is to happen will our friendship be jeopardized?
Thanks in advance
#150 by Branigan on August 7, 2011 - 5:34 am
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Hey! This website helped so much and I think this guy is really into me I just had to have to make sure and not screw up our growing friendship, but there are some things that I didn’t find….
Okay I’ll start at the beginning: I go do school work (I’m 17 and he is 22) and read at this place and that’s where I met him. He is funny, sweet and really outgoing and we are so loud and have a blast when we talk. I have read all the hints and he is into me(I think) but he is older and has a girlfriend and it is possible he is moving in like a year or two, i don’t know if him being out going made some of these hints fake or not. Like he makes eye contact and he flirts with me the whole time I’m in the place where he works and he will even come sit and talk to me when he isn’t busy. He even came in when he wasn’t working because I told him i was doing school work the next day!
Help!! Should I forget about it? Is it possible that my match is a fake and I am just seeing these hints because I want to?
I would LOVE it I you could help me!
#151 by milz on August 7, 2011 - 11:21 am
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Hey Mike,
I was hoping you could help me please? I really really like this guy lets call him… Derec, but I don’t know if he likes me back, there is two years between us and he is in the “cool” group! anyways. I have been having mixed signs by Derec
*He looks at me in the corner of his eye!
*He sometimes asks one of my friends how I am and Where am I!
*He shows off infront of me, and pretends not to know my name!
*When I walk past him all of his friends stop talking and Derec puts his head down!
*His Cousin and Antie think he likes me!
*He body language seems really tense/awkward when Im around?
Do you think he likes me?hates me? only likes me as a friend?
Do you think he would be embarrised to tell anyone that he likes me, because he friends would take the mick?
If you could help me that would be great, Thank you x
#152 by Abbie on August 7, 2011 - 8:56 pm
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Omg i really think jac likes me he can speak fluent italian he texted sonething to me in italian i went on google translat and he had said “sorry i havent texted u in ages i can speak fluent italian that joke u played on everyone was so funny we should have a game of socer at the park now i know ur not scared see u soon jac” se i pulled a prank on every1 that i had a phobia of soccer for 6weeks man it was funny do u think i have a chance Abbie ps im 13 jacs 14 alice is 14 gemmas 13 and greg and mark are 14 hope this helps
#153 by August on August 8, 2011 - 2:58 pm
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I see you haven’t been on in forever, but I’ll ask anyway.
I’m going into 8th grade, and, like all boys at this age, they are impossible to read. There’s this guy, and he’s SUPER popular. I on the other hand…. Not so much… But here’s the thing. One day, my friend said he asked about me, and I was like “Who’s he?” Days went by and before I even knew it, I was in love with him… Another one of my friends says that of course he likes me. Well, I have my doubts. He does take short looks at me, but we’ve never even said one word to each other. My best friend, who I can totally trust, said that one day on the bus, there were no other seats, so “he” sat in front of me. But before he sat down, my best friend said he stared at me for like 5 seconds while I was looking out the window trying to hide my blushing face. I have had so many “claims” of him doing something suggestive, like hanging around my locker when I already passed it (one time), talking to his friends, and sharing a quick glance at me (SEVERAL times), but I’m always saying “Ok, so he did that, but it doesn’t prove a thing…”
What do you think?
Anybody have a clue?
#154 by Kathy on August 8, 2011 - 11:04 pm
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I met a great guy online , he found me through skype and liked me so he chatted with me and now we are going strong he lives in New York I am in Seattle, we both have busy schedules, the chemistry was unbelievable and still is . he tells me he loves me, he is everything I have been looking for and the same for him . He is very sexual and calls 3x a day. I wan tot make it last should I make him come here or should I go there to be with him? I am going crazy over him!!!!!! help
#155 by Charlotte the Confused on August 9, 2011 - 5:17 am
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Mike!!!
okay so i think i have a bit of a problem. Theres this guy i met last year at school and we instantly became best friends. after a month and a half i realized i really liked him, he’s generally a nice guy so it was hard to tell if he liked me but after reading the signs like: walking me to class, hanging out with me all the time, staring at me when he thinks im not looking, waiting for me every morning before school alone just so we could talk, and he even joked about how he wishes his girlfriend acted more like me.. i was convinced. So, i took a chance and voiced my feelings hoping he’d return them back, only i really didnt get an answer. He just asked why i would like a guy like him and when did i start to like him then changed the subject completly…ever since then i haven’t brought the subject up again and niether has he, i want to but i dont know where to start or if i did something wrong or if i should talk to him about it at all because even if he doesnt like me, i still would like to keep our friendship intact as much as possible…what do I do? does he even like me? or was i completly wrong?
#156 by Kayla on August 10, 2011 - 1:38 pm
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Mike, I need your help!
Okay, so I like this guy. He’s really sweet, and he is soo kind! We dated a couple of months ago and did I mention he’s like, my best friend? Okay, so I ended it because I thought that if we got into a fight, it would ruin our relationship as friends. A couple of weeks later, one of my other friends(who i confide to in everything) told him that I still liked him. And he asked me out, I said i dont know, and then a couple of days later I told him yes. We dated for about a week and then my friends started thinking that I was saying things behind their back, so he broke up with me because they are his friends too. I still really like him, but with our past, I dont know if he likes me. I guess you see my predicament now. If you could please get back to me, that would be awesome.
#157 by carolina on August 11, 2011 - 12:23 am
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omg thanxk you so much!!!!!,,,>3
#158 by Marina on August 11, 2011 - 1:31 am
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Well..I’ll try to make this short and to the point. There is a guy from school that at first I forbidded myself to fall in love with..but I couldn’t stop staring and now I admit I am in love with him. I know he’s noticed me staring so whenever our eyes make contact I just try to be the nice person I am and smile. He reminds me of myself on the inside…but I love how n the outside we are both total opposites. Blonde hair, brown hair. Blue eyes, brown eyes. Pale skin, tan skin. Short, tall. You get the point. So on the last day of the school year I give permission for my friend to go up to him and hint I like him. She says “Hey, hey (his name), I know this cute Mexican girl that likes you!”SO then later on in the day at the last moment possible I wave at him and he doesnt wave back but stares. He’s not stupid so I’m pretty sure he gets the message. But now it’s summer, I still like him, what do I do when school starts again??!!
#159 by Janine on August 11, 2011 - 1:52 am
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Thanks for writing such an easy-to-understand arctlie on this topic.
#160 by Julie on August 12, 2011 - 1:02 am
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Mike. I like this guy and he knows i do, in fact he likes me back but he won’t ask me out! He told my friend he was a afraid of getting rejected. We talk all the time and I really like him. How do I get him to ask me out?
#161 by Eyllin on August 12, 2011 - 3:49 am
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So this guy I met at work, I wasn’t introduced to him but he just started saying hi everytime he would walk by my cubicle, smiling everytime. If I actually see him face to face he will say hi and give me a kiss. Sometimes he walks by talking with other people and stops talking to them to say Hi and ask how im doing. Not sure is he is just too friendly, cause he says hi to other people, but he says Hi to me and smiles every time he sees me. Also he would say hi how are u in the morning and then later in the afternoon give me a kiss and ask the same. Im shy and im divorced, the only bf i ever had was my ex and we had long distance relationship so all this is so new to me I dont know how to read him.
#162 by Dee on August 12, 2011 - 8:45 am
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Hey Mike! I just happened to stumble upon your website and as I read through the past comments, I thought to myself that this is a great website. Anyway, here it goes. Some time ago, I use to do community service with my friend. On my first day there, there is this librarian. he is really nice, talkative, and social. One day when my family came late to pick me up from the library, he offered himself to stay with me. He told me that it’s very dangerous during night time and who knows what may happen. (I was almost afraid of my life because I barely knew him). We talked for a very long time until I got picked up. He began to stay with me till late a few times after this. Although not personally interested him, I was wondering if he is interested. Otherwise, I just want to stay as friend. He is in his early twenties and I’m 16. Thank you.
#163 by Sam on August 12, 2011 - 8:01 pm
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Hi Mike…
So in one of your posts you write:
“Whether he likes you or not is not the most important thing – the important thing is that you figure out how to seduce him and keep him for yourself. And that’s a completely different ball game.”.
Well?
How do we do this?
xx
#164 by Kelsey on August 14, 2011 - 5:48 pm
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Okay, I have this slight problem. I just broke up with my boyfriend; but its not like it was serious; I’m only young. And, well, I guess I dated the wrong guy. See, my ex was always rude or very negative towards me. But then there was Alex. And, well, Alex is the nicest guy I had ever met. But this is the problem. I really think I’m in love with him, but…. But he’s my ex’s best friend. It just gets on my nerves because I LOVE Alex, but there’s Chris (my ex) who would kick his butt for dating me. Don’t get me wrong, Alex and I have hung out a lot, but I’m just so confused. Help, please?
#165 by JaeMin on August 14, 2011 - 6:41 pm
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Ok so there’s this guy I like that I hadn’t actually seen in two years. My bffs who know I like him forced me to hug him on Friday when we started school. He hugged me back and blushed when I pulled away. He often smiles at me and he teases me A LOT!!! He also gives me help when I need it. Problem is, he’s got a gf, although he never mentions her to me he does to everyone else. So here’s my dilemma: does he like me, or his gf?
#166 by miss liz on August 15, 2011 - 8:18 am
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hi!
i love your site, and this totally helped me out,
i really like him, and im like 99.9% he likes me, he is always commenting on my fb and every time we see each other at work he says hi, even if its like 5 minutes since the last time we bumped into each other, and if im in a group he will say hi looking at me and thats it
the problem is he hasn’t asked me out, which is why im not at 100%, and he knows im single because i told him (not in a weird way, it fit into the convo a group, he and i were in, was having) but it still hasn’t happened, and i wouldn’t mind dropping some hints but i can never seem to get him alone he always has a friend or a co worker with him… im at a loss of how to get him to ask me out
#167 by morgan on August 15, 2011 - 4:32 pm
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can you please email me? like im kinda scared to use this because i dont want to be like spammed or anything….and im kinda to the point where i think i can trust this site but you never know.. its the internet. I am one of those girls that really has a lot of friends but most of them are people who would backstab, so i dont tell them much. also i have one friend who i would trust with all of my secrets she just isnt really into boys yet so she wouldnt be much help…..please help me and email me?
#168 by Zora on August 16, 2011 - 5:44 am
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There’s this guy I like but I can’t tell if he likes me or not. He’s not exactly normal or anything but anyway he didn’t really do anything very obvious but once in class we were doing writing so I was just thinking and looking around the classroom and wheni looked his direction he was looking at me than he looked away almost immediately and at a school dance he asked me or my friend who was next to me to dance with me and lily said yes than he asked me again later when I was alone and I kind of hurried away after we danced because I discovered there was gum on the bottom of my shoe! But he didn’t know and then he found me again and said sounding hurt you ran away. Another time at lunch a bunch of us girls were sitting around the back of the class and making daisy chains and he kept on coming back there and once he was like hey babes to all of us saying that maddy said that she sometimes called her friends babe but when he said it he looked at me and kind of did a little smile. Also he doesn’t flirt with me or anything but he doesn’t flirt with the girl he says he likes. So do you think he likes me or not???
#169 by Joanne on August 16, 2011 - 7:47 am
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i gt 2 here. O.O!
tis guy, he always take care of me, & is a great person. bt recently… he did something i felt so weird… he touches my ear & thn just nw he lightly touch my shoulder whn im not feeling well… sometimes, i use e ‘clock’ method. & i turn i found tt he’s looking @ me, we gt eye contact & he just raise his eye brow… thn, whn i was lying on upper body on my desk, he laid down beside me & evn move closer.. i really don’t know whether is that guy having any feeling towards me…
this happened to me and idk how to react…
this guy, A secretly took pictures of me and edit it into real beautiful pictures, i only know this when his frenz tell me.
once, i was alone with another guy B, and A had sth on, so he has to leave. but instead of leaving immediately, he loiters around.
thn, he often text me a morning msg.
and, he grabs my hand and draw things on it…
we aren’t that close now but i heard from his friend that he took pictures of me secretly…
so is he…?
i don’t think that these two guys likes me… I’m not pretty…
#170 by Kayla on August 17, 2011 - 12:24 am
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The guy I think likes me and I want him to like me always ask if I am texting my boyfriend or calling him when I am on my phone, I don’t have a boyfriend and everytime I say no. So that could mean he likes me?
#171 by Ashley on August 17, 2011 - 2:27 am
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I like this guy…we talk a lot. He smiles and I am getting the vibes that he likes me…but I don’t wannah tell him cuz I’m not sure if he has feelings for me and I don’t want to be embarassed.
#172 by Serena on August 18, 2011 - 4:13 am
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So I was at my friends house and I met her new neighbor who is three years older than me. We’ve become really close friends and we talk all the time. The problem is I know for a fact that he likes my best-friend. Everyone tells me it seems like he likes me also. I don’t think he does because sometimes he texts me asking about my friend wondering things about her. He also knows more about me than most other people and tells me a lot of personal things. I really like him but I’m not sure if he likes me because he still flirts with my friend even though she’s not interested and I am… He also locks eyes with me and we always spend time together, but usually my friend is there with us. But we are usually the ones to talk. Sometimes he does stuff to make me think he likes me and others he’s off flirting with my best-friend.
#173 by Eyllin on August 19, 2011 - 1:44 am
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Ok so to add a few more things that have happened lately, I went to get water and he was in the way talking to someone, so when I passed he moved, hold the door for me said hi and rubbed my back as I passed, then when i came back he did it again. He hit my cublicle when he passes so I look up and then says hi. Today he was in the cubicle in front of me and he extended his hand so i gave him mine and he squeeze it. A couple times as I was going to sit I looked at him and he looked at me and made a face raising his eyebrows. But then when I was leaving not sure if he ignored or was actually busy talking to a guy but didnt reply.
#174 by Jackie on August 19, 2011 - 5:55 am
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I like my guy friend and I don’t know what to do. My friends all say I should tell him how I feel but I’m scared and he already has a girlfriend. When I hang out with him we hug and watch Tv together I use his shoulder as a pillow he doesn’t shrug me off. One of my friends thinks its a sign that he likes me. I’m pretty sure my feelings are obvious since I’m stuck to his side when we hang out. I would really like a response since he’s coming into town next week.
#175 by kris on August 19, 2011 - 7:35 pm
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Hey mike. I have a question for u . There is this guy that i like. I saw him one day while hanging out and it was like wow. His sister said that after that day that he was thinking about me. A couple days later he told his sister to invite me to the bbq but she didnt til later that night. I went over there and we were all in the pool. Later on i stayed to hang out longer. We were sitting on the couch and he kissed me. I hung out with him again the next night too. We text back and forth and tell eachother to have a good day. I just cant seem to read his mind if he likes me. I told him i liked him and he said he could tell. But how can i tell if he likes me. His text messages back seem so plan.
#176 by kris on August 19, 2011 - 10:24 pm
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So there is this guy io like, and we have hung out a couple of times. The other night we were sitting on the couch and he leaned in and kissed me. We hung out the next night also. We text eachother but his texts are just so plain. I told hikm that i liked him and he said he has noticed that. How can i tell if he really likes me? His sister thinks he does. I want to hang out with him but i dont want to make it look like im desperate or anything. How can i tell if he really likes me? His sister also said hes been looking for a nice girl and im a nice girl. Help me ASAP
#177 by Sally on August 20, 2011 - 12:14 pm
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Hey mike, is there a way I can send a private message? I don’t want people reading about my problem
#178 by Kayla on August 20, 2011 - 5:14 pm
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Hey there, so the guy I like we were hanging out on a dock at night, with two other people, those two people left and it was just me and him, after that we talked for an hour and a half, I’m not sure if he was just being nice and not leaving me at the dock by myself, or if he likes me, that was the first time we had talked, but he asked if I have ever hung out with guys, if I’ve had any boyfriends, and if I had a boyfriend right now, so could he like me?
#179 by Brittney on August 21, 2011 - 4:08 am
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So I like this guy and I think he might like me because he always calls this other guy that I hang out with a nerd and said I shouldn’t talk to him. But he has two personalities and it changes when this really violent girl is around but when she’s not there he’s sweet and cares and actually listens to me. I wasn’t sure until today when we were talking he compared riding a razor scooter to ice skating and I told him I hadn’t been ice skating since I was six and he told me he was going to take me ice skating… like we were dating. He does that all the time and half the time I don’t know if he’s joking or being serious. What do I do?
#180 by anonymous on August 22, 2011 - 11:20 am
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hey mike you never responded im disappointed. i ended up giving up on the russian guy
and kayla, there is a possibility that guy could be interested in you
#181 by Kristen on August 23, 2011 - 12:05 am
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Hey Mike,
I’ve read A LOT of your blogs and I think they are fantastic! But, what do you do when the guy you like flirts with EVERY OTHER GIRL? How can you tell then?
#182 by suzete on August 23, 2011 - 1:58 am
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I am so confused by this man I like. When we first meet he told me I was beautiful and I thought we had a great time. Second same thing we laugh, watched tv, talked, and I thought we had a great time. A couple days later he said I blew my chance with him not really sure why. Then about three weeks later he asked me over and it was back to me coming over to his house and just being together. I feel so comfortable with him, at ease like I can be myself around him, I have always felt butterflies in my belly when I am around him. But I m scared if I ask him if I have a chance with him he will leave again and I really like him a lot and don’t want to lose him. We have texted til the early morning hours when he was on vacation, he always makes eye contact with me when we are together. Although we have never gone out in public on an actual date I don’t really mind that. Can u help me.
#183 by Tori on August 23, 2011 - 3:45 am
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Hey mike I love this!!! So helpful gonna try it out tomorrow even though most people would thunk he likes me he’s a sort of player. Well here’s my story
This guy I like I’ve known since 5th grade(now in 8th) used to playfully tease me. Now we in the same class again and the teachers make us sit together cause our names are next to each other on roll and he’s all like awesome when that happens. Everyone now and then I’ll see him staring directly at me (he found out it makes me uncomfortable) but idk if he’s just hiding his feelings. I laugh at like all his jokes and anything he does (yea I like him) and he smiles everytime I laugh. My mom saw him on school orientation and was like, he likes you, but idk cause he’s flirty with me but idk… So like I’m gonna see what happens tomorrow, you don’t HAVE to answer, but it would be nice(: ~~Tori~~
#184 by kat on August 24, 2011 - 12:50 am
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its my second day of seventh grade and during lunch i was talking to this girl about my great grandpa when this boy started talking to me about his family and when ispoke he turned toward me and listend to what i had to say so can you give me a hint if je likes me or not please thank you so much
#185 by curiosityunfulfilled on August 24, 2011 - 5:23 am
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i’ve read just about all your posts about guys trying to figure out what to do about my ex. See him and I had dated for 4 years, about three months ago we broke up because i left to help out a family member and long distance was never really our strongest area. We recently started talking again. We (at least what I thought) were working things out. He started to tell me he loved me, i was uneasy about it because he, at the time, was dating another girl. He broke up with her and then we pretty much got back together. Things were great, we’d see each other on mine and his days off, tho we still live three hours from each other that didn’t seem to bother him. Then about a week ago his cell phone had gotten turned off, so we went to facebook and his house phone to keep in touch. The house calls stopped coming, then I hadn’t heard from him in two days then I received a facebook message from him saying he was sorry he hasn’t called and that he has been hanging out with another girl a lot lately. I asked him to explain what was going on after (what i thought) us being back in a relationship and he said “idk” We did have a conversation a while back about not really being together because of the fact that we were still on a kinda long distance relationship and we’d start slow and build from there, but he seemed to just kinda jump right into, saying he missed me and saying i love you so much first. It’s just all very confusing. Any advice?
#186 by jessie on August 25, 2011 - 1:43 am
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OKay so he stares at me and calls me funny and the coolest girl he ever met and he said im good at the piano and wants to introduce me to his friends and asked me to a party but i I couldnt go and i didnt know if it was a date anyways. He even made up a cute nickname for me and when his brother was teasing me and called me fat one day and he said dont worry you really are NOT fat at all (and ima size 0 but still it was nice to hear) and anyways his friend was over when i was with my family and he asked me to go fishing with them and i said its okay if he really didnt want me to hang with him so he coud have some guy time but he said “its okay. your cool. LIKE ONE OF THE GUYS!”
DOES THAT MEAN HE ISNT INTERESTED????
PLEASE REPLY THIS IS MAJOR IMPORTANT TO ME.! i really care about him..
#187 by Cat Dieckman on August 27, 2011 - 4:02 am
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Mike,
At my school, I like a guy named Tommy.
He always looks over at me about 5-7 times a class.
I really like him, but do u think he likes me?
He always texts me and sometimes will just email
me personally
#188 by Annie on August 27, 2011 - 12:26 pm
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Im 14 nd im wondering if it wuld work 4 me? me nd my bf had sex b4 but i wana kno if this would keep him. we have been dating since we were 11
#189 by Diddlybop on August 27, 2011 - 4:36 pm
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Hey mike,
I am in serious need of some help cuz there is this guy that I really like and I have dated him in the past but he broke up with me for another girl and the other day she broke up with him…so before that happened bmy recent bf broke up with be cuz I was scared to hold his hand and now this guy that i like now is holding that against me so now he doesn’t know if he wants to sate me cuz he says that I’m too chicken to do anything…just yesterday I texted him and told him that if he doesn’t want to date me cuz he says that I’m too chicken to do anything then he should just forget about me and he never texted back so what do I do?!?!?! Please help
#190 by leslie on August 28, 2011 - 10:26 pm
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Hey Mike! I like this one guy a lot. So I used to hangout with him a lot but lately a different guy told me that he liked me. Now anytime I get near the guy I like the other one comes over and tries to talk to me. What should I do?
#191 by Anna on August 29, 2011 - 2:15 am
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There’s this guy who sits behind me in class one day a week. Last year we sat by each other in one of our classes. He would always do things like poke me and mess with my hair, which I see guys do a lot, but sometimes he would set his hand on top of mine, and another time he “attempted” to hold my hand. Now I’m a freshman in high school, and even though school just started, he’s started again with his… “old ways”. I just can’t seem to figure out if he likes me, or if teasing me (although it was hardly verbal) is just his way of being funny. I know people always say that if someone teases you or playfully picks on you/ is playfully mean to you, means they like you, but I just don’t know! Please help!
#192 by Anna on August 29, 2011 - 2:22 am
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whoops I gave you the wrong email address this one contains the correct one. Sorry! p.s. please PLEASE email me I need help!
#193 by Grace on August 29, 2011 - 4:23 am
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Dear Mike,
There is this guy I like and think is cute. His little brother is on the same soccer team as my brother. I seevhim alot amd whenever I see him I see him right at me. I feel like im always asking where is he, he is so cute, and does he like me back. I want to ask him because he is shy and i feel like I need to because I need to take a risk. He shows some signs but not alot. Ps im in 7th and he is in 8th
#194 by Sarah on August 29, 2011 - 2:30 pm
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very helpful tips! but i’m really worried about the blowjob bit, i’ve never given a blowjob before, will the guy dump me if i’m not that good at the start??
#195 by Mike on August 30, 2011 - 10:28 pm
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NO! Definitely not. I didn’t dump my gf at all for giving lousy BJs, let alone the first time. Not only with BJs but the first sex between two partners is inevitably the worst – you are not used to each other etc. etc. It can only go upwards from there so don’t worry
#196 by daris hayes on August 29, 2011 - 7:28 pm
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ok so im a 15 yr old girl . i jst met this boy last week . but last night me my friends and him all went out to an arcade and hungout. he was very quite most of the time and when i whould walk away he would be all wild and crazy!lol . my friend was about to txt him and tell him that i thought he was cute and i got nervous to i jumped up and walked over to him and said “i think your very cute!” he said ” thank you very much”. but then later my friend txt him and ask him if he would go out with me he replyed ” possibly
” and he also said that i was hot . but he wasnt really saying much around me and he would txt on his phone alot or check his facebook and he also did that look at me and once i look at him he turns his head looks the other way the turns back and looks at me. plz help me im really confused!!!
#197 by Lacey on August 31, 2011 - 12:20 am
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Hey Mike, I have a guy in my grade I have found SOOOO attractive. I need help though. We have worked together on Science fairs. You know shit like that! I have asked my friends and they pair me up with him or my Ex who cheated on me. He is a couple months younger. We have kinda held hands like we grabbed each others hands and interlocked fingers. But, I have asked him if he likes me and he says no. That makes me lose ALL hope.
Once my ex cheated on me. I asked him to hang around me. (My ex was VERY VERY abusive) He kinda protected me. I just don’t know!!! Please help me! I am NOT looking for anything sexual! I am only 13. So you know please get back to me Kay thanks ~Lacey
#198 by Vanea on August 31, 2011 - 3:18 am
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Hi mike i need some help on this guy i like he is very nice to me and cute and well cute i thhink he likes me but im not sure but his sister and brothers and my friends say he does. But we are in the same school team swim team and my class last year. During our fifth grade graduation my little bro gave me one of his signature stupid face and Nick punched him in the stomach and i just smiled at him and he smiled back. And he LOVES to talk to me alot oh and he asked me for my number but i just think he was being nice to me
#199 by Vanea on August 31, 2011 - 3:37 am
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I need to know what you think oh and he said at my pool party that he wants to go to university of florida like me and be a marine bio like me but his sis said he wants to go to michigan
#200 by andrea on August 31, 2011 - 11:54 am
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A few days ago,a guy ask my number and he tells me that his friend wants to know me and he also wants to go to the prom with me.So I gave him my number and the next day he text me asking a lot of things bout me.He keeps texting me everyday until last sunday when I say I can’t text with him cause i was busy.After that day,he never texted me anymore.I don’t know if he’s angry or the fact that he’s no longer likes me.I’m not sure whether i like him or not,I mean I feel comfortable when I text with him,but I don’t even know how he looks like.Sometimes,I could be really shallow what if he’s fat,not good looking but I’m pretty sure that he’s a nice guy.What if i met him again and i don’t know what to do.Help me,please.This is awkward.
#201 by Alexis Cohen on August 31, 2011 - 8:21 pm
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Hey…thanks for the advice! it really helped!
One question….
if the guy your talking to keeps looking away and back and away and back, does that mean he’s nervous talking to you and likes you? Its happened to me a lot with the guy i like and i want to know what it means!!
Thanks:)
#202 by andrea on September 1, 2011 - 6:48 am
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A few days ago,a guy ask my number and he tells me that his friend wants to know me and he also wants to go to the prom with me.So I gave him my number and the next day he text me asking a lot of things bout me.He keeps texting me everyday until last sunday when I say I can’t text with him cause i was busy.After that day,he never texted me anymore.I don’t know if he’s angry or the fact that he’s no longer likes me.I’m not sure whether i like him or not,I mean I feel comfortable when I text with him,but I don’t even know how he looks like.Sometimes,I could be really shallow what if he’s fat,not good looking but I’m pretty sure that he’s a nice guy.What if i met him again and i don’t know what to do.Help me,please.This is awkward.
#203 by rachel on September 1, 2011 - 11:07 am
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Okay….soo I guess I’m just gonna get striaght to the point. The guy I like is my cousins best friend, and mine too. He knows everything about me ;when I have a problem I turn to him. I’m afraid that he just thinks as me as one of the guys. Hes with a different girl about every few weeks but he never really sticks around after a month. He’s constantly telling me he’s. Always there for me(my cousin was prank calling him off my phone one night and at like 2 am he texted me and asked if I was okay.) and that he knows for sure I have one friend. We argue all the time about stupid things but its playful. If one of us makes a comment the other one cimes in. I dont know if he’s just an amazing friend or if he might feel something for me. He always wants to know about the guy I like if I kinda bring it up in a waay. I was telling hime about how my cousns wouldn’t leave me alone becausei was talking to a boy and they thought I liked him and he wanted to know if I did. Am I reading into things that aren’t even there???
#204 by Estella on September 1, 2011 - 8:06 pm
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Hi Mike
I happened to stumble upon your site and thanks so much for the share and opinions.
Well, I recently came back from a vacation and somehow, I just couldn’t get over this guy. He is a tattoo artist and I got myself a tattoo from him. Well seriously, when I first saw him, I got this ‘shot into my heart’ feeling. Funny as it may sound, I’m not sure if he feels it too. And well, we didn’t exchange contacts cause my friend was there with me and I think he was shy. But there were a few points that you highlighted that seemed to apply. Like the one where he sorta sat down on the bench before tattooing for me, he had his legs in between mine and we sorta brush against each other. But I moved slightly away as I was nervous. And also, how he faced his body towards me and lean in when we took a photo and also how he continued the conversations..yea. But well, I’m just sad that I don’t have his contact but I’m trying my luck to contact him through this paper bag which had the email of his shop (I think?) Well, I’m not sure if he likes me because my holiday went real fast and I didn’t exactly have the time to be with him (in a sense) So yep. I’m kinda stumped but I doubt I’ll forget about him
#205 by mackensie on September 2, 2011 - 9:57 pm
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uuuugh well i’m going to start off by saying i have a crush he’s new and he is not in my classroom so i only see him at recess (sometimes) and at parent pickup, he only cares about football and playing soccer wit his friends so he doesn’t talk to me at recess and i’m way too shy to talk to him at parent pickup, i trusted my friends and i told them that i thought he was cute and guess what they told him, my friends have been saying that he said he likes me but i don’t know if they are lying what do i do? please answer
#206 by Jessica on September 3, 2011 - 10:04 pm
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There is this guy, we dont talk much, but when we do its always something nice or funny. i find him staring at me a lot… i like him, but i dont know if he likes me……
#207 by Randi on September 4, 2011 - 2:34 am
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So the guy that I have feelings for is also one of my best friends. When we really started to become close, we were both in fairly serious relationships. We both have broken up with our boyfriend/girlfriend and seem to be getting even closer. He has talked to me about how my ex was “such a jerk” (his exact words) and has wanted to spend more time with me but with friends. My fear is that I am already in the “friend zone” simply because we HAD to start out as friends. I have thought about just telling him how I feel but I am afraid that I am just confusing “feelings” for just being a good friend. A lot of these signs are present with him but they are wayy more subdued. I don’t know if it is because he is just fearful, like I am, about ruining the friendship or that I am just looking to into this and that he really isn’t interested. I really could use some outside advice on this one!
#208 by Nene on September 4, 2011 - 5:15 am
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Hey Mike,
Could you help me out here I’m beyond confused. Okay so I like this guy. I’ve always liked him. Everytime I talk to him I smile and laugh so much. He means alot to me. Whenever we talk we talk for hours, longer than intended. He’s kinda a flirt with friends but I’ve never seen or heard from friends about him flirting with others like he does with me. My other friend likes him too and he never flirts with her the way he does with me. See I would try your 3 tricks to see if he likes me but the thing is theres a little bit of a distance issue. He lives in New Jersey while im up in California. My friend lexi likes him and he told me clearly that he doesnt like her (i didnt ask him) and he told me this “I could see her trying to act like you to get with me. But its not like someone like you would ever want to be with me, Im not good enough for you. But she wouldnt be a good you, Your special” I wasnt to sure what it meant but, I replied with.. “not true!” (because i wud want to be with someone like him) and he said “yeah it is” and i said “You dont know that.” and he said “well whats that suppose to mean” I whimped out on telling him so i said “I dont know what its suppose to mean” Im to affraid he doesnt like me back or even would want to be with me because of this distance issue. He seems to laugh at my jokes, one time i said “oh i know i am funny arent i” and hes like ” Funny Sexy and sweet<3" He always seems to be throughing compliments at me, but i never know if he's serious, He joke flirts all the time with others so I can never tell if hes serious when it comes to us. I really like him and I'd be willing to make this long distance thing work if i know he likes me. But one thing I dont want is to make our friendship awkward if he doesn't like me. What do you think? Suggestions as to how I should approach this? or even oppinions would be very appreciative and helpful!
Thanks!
#209 by Nicole on September 4, 2011 - 5:56 am
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Heey Mike, I’m kinda young to be on this site but I’m looking for some answers and you seem to know what your talking about! I really like this guy and he acted like it too but one of his best friends told me hes still in love with his ex and I told him anyways he said he didn’t know :/ so he never gave me a straight answer anyways a week later he starts dating her… this ticked me off of course. a couple days ago he broke up with her and an hour later starts to actually genuinely care about me and then today he sends me this long message saying hes sorry for not telling me the way he felt and that he feels like a jerk and etc I messaged back saying its alright and then hes like we should talk more cause your sweet.
I was just wondering what this means? a rebound, did he realize that he made the wrong decision or does he just wanna be my friend and if so is there anyway i can nudge him into falling in love with me ? Thank you so much Mike ! if you could answer that would mean the world to me !
#210 by Hermione on September 4, 2011 - 8:25 pm
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Nice tips but I’m still confused. My bff told
Me that the guy I like treats me different than everyone else. I also see him staring at me a lot in class. Thing is he has a girlfriend. So here’s my dilemma: does he like me or his girlfriend?
#211 by Hermione on September 4, 2011 - 8:26 pm
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Oh! He also told me that he was the King and I was Queen.
#212 by Alyssa on September 4, 2011 - 8:38 pm
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Great info! Thanks so much, but I still can’t tell if he likes me. We always hang in class but at recess we have lots of things to do. We love the same music, and we always talk when we can. We always sit looking at eachother, but there are three ppl in our group. He asks me for help, and just recently (on friday) we were talking and he mentioined his ex, but after that we sang a shows’ theme song. We always laugh, and. He’s showing me how to scream (hardcore) and he accetently touched my hand like twice.
#213 by jade on September 4, 2011 - 8:58 pm
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Hey mike
My name is jade, I have a situation on my hands, I’ve known this guy for 9 months now I didn’t like him more than a friend at first but he kept telling my mum how he likes me and will give me the world to me eventually his friends started telling me he likes me. So we started spending time together and the more I got to know him the more I fell for him and every time we together his been showing me he likes me a lot well anyway at 1 time he told my family he likes me and gradually wants to get to know me because he wants to settle down n he kissed me infront of my mother which he will never do. I did the first trick about making him jealous about talking nice about another guy and he said”no way jade he drinks too much his going to have a drinking problem” which was totally irrelevant lol but the problem is when we together his all affectionate but when we not his distant and we spent the past weekend together with my family and now he says he wants his space for just this week and started telling me commitment freaks him out and he tried this dating thing but it does not work for him. I’m starting to get frustrated because apparently he does like me, I’m so confused!!! Any advice on what to do? Thanks!!!
#214 by mesa on September 5, 2011 - 9:03 am
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GREAT ADVICE, BUT I STILL NEED HELP! i have been friends with this guy for about 2 weeks. he always sits by me rather then someone else, and hes always close to me. he even got me a “friend gift” he told me that i was really cool and he always smiles at me and gives hugs ect. but he also calls me “kiddo” and “bud”. he is also 2 years older than me….it gets worse….his best friend is apparently “in love with me”.
DOES HE LIKE ME?
#215 by Chloe on September 5, 2011 - 2:31 pm
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Ok so here is the deal: I like this guy a lot. And I know he likes me because his pupils dilate every time he looks at me and he blushes when I talk to him. I’m not an idiot and its pretty obvious that he likes me especially because everyone says he does and even he told me.
But the problem is I’m dating someone else. I should’ve ended this relationship a while ago because I have no feelings for him whatsoever. But he is still totally in love with me and I hate hurting people so how should I break up with him? And then these both of these guys are friends so should I wait awhile to ask out my ex’s friend that likes me? Or should I just go for it?
Thanks!
#216 by Jasmine on September 6, 2011 - 1:59 pm
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Ive been seeing a guy for the past three months. Its kinda hard to tell if he’s into me or not. He owns his own business and has a full time job. So we get face time maybe once every two weeks. I have met and hung out with his sister a few times and have met and hung out with him and several of his friends! The sex is amazing every timeand he always cooks for me. I initiate text conversations more so than he does. But either way he always continues and responds. There’s been a few times where we made plans to hang out and he didn’t follow through. Once he fell asleep the other he got drunk and couldn’t drive to my place. He later made up for both incidents by takungme out and apologized. I guess the obvious question is he interested in me? He never leaves my side when were out together and always offers to help whenever he can.
#217 by monique on September 7, 2011 - 12:50 am
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this guy is really sweet he asks for hugs all the time when i talk to him he pays full attention we talk all the time. when this guy asked for a hug from me he said no those are my hugs i dont know what this means his really nice too.
#218 by Rachel on September 7, 2011 - 8:50 pm
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Thank you for the tips! They actually helped me in getting a guy. The internet needs more websites like this! Thank you!
#219 by Ariel on September 8, 2011 - 1:13 am
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I really like this site! Anyways.. My situation is kinda different.. I met this guy on a social website. We talked for about a week. I was moving into a dorm at the same college he went to so we decided to meet. We have been talking for close to a month now, but he keeps saying that he isn’t ready to have a relationship. He broke up with his girlfriend in April.. After 2 and a half years. But we spend a lot of time together and we sometimes sleep at each other’s dorms. He seems to really enjoy spending time with me, but when I talk about making things more serious he kind of shuts down. The other day I went to dinner with my roommate and when I asked him what he was doing he said that he was hanging out with his ex. I dunno if that should worry me, but it does. Um.. Later that night he came to my dorm for about an hour and told me that it meant nothing and he cared for me and would never do something like that.. But I felt weird about it. Does he like me or is this just to pass the time? I really need help! )-:
#220 by Jamie on September 9, 2011 - 2:41 am
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Ok well my mom works @ my school and this guy i just strtd likeing a few months ago was in there. So i actd cute amd tlkd to mi mom and him a lil bit. When i left i said goodbye to mi momand she was like ” ur not gona say bye to ( the boy i liked) and i said ” he never talks to me lolz. He was rite their too. So him and mi mom r very close and she was like ” u dnt talk to mi girl?? And he laughed and was like i never see her and if im lucky enough i c her in here.
Since he said lucky enough does that mean he likes me or is he just saying that cuz he is tlkn to mi mom…. I really like him so plz respond!
Thanx, by the way im young so ya im not a groen up
#221 by Ashleigh on September 10, 2011 - 12:01 am
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hi mike im a first timer on this site and i dont know if a guy likes me or not im 11 and so is he
#222 by lauryn on September 10, 2011 - 4:53 pm
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i like this guy a lot but if i try to make a ‘move’ he makes it all awkward. and he also talks to the girl next me like i am not there. i dont know if hes trying to make me jealous or if he likes her. and last year i felt like we had a connection, but then we didnt see each over this summer but he still remembers the conversation we had last year. and i dont know how to get him alone to talk with because hes always playing basketball or with his pack. help.
#223 by Ellen on September 12, 2011 - 4:32 am
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hello mike
there’s this one guy i have a bit of a crush on, and he’s 6 years older than me
xDD he’s never dated anyone before despite his age of 25 and also a virgin
he said that he thinks that romance should be a one time thing and thus wants to marry the first woman he dates and yea xD
i never really went on a 1-on-1 date with him before but i do chat often with him via msn
we go along really well, but he told me that im like a little sister to him (he only has a litttle brother tho xDD)
we talk a lot about sexual things but our relationship is not sexual xDDDD
well… to make things easier to understand…hmm…we’ll talk about tentacle rape and laugh about it, kinda? xDDDD
…he did say that he often forgets the fact that i’m female-_-;;
um…what should i do? T_T
#224 by vigrogirl on September 12, 2011 - 6:40 am
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I met this guy a year ago + he gave me his card + It took me 3 months to email him + his response was what took me so long + he called me and we saw each other that weekend + we had sex that first night + it is something I NEVER do + we saw eachother again a few weeks later + we had sex again + he was being cold and I left his home and never spoke to him again + I’ve never been the same + I still think about him… We’ve never called each other since then…
#225 by Eliza on September 13, 2011 - 1:44 am
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Hi mike,
Ok so I really like this guy. I have known him for 3 years. We are in a choir together. He always talks to me and hugs me looks at me etc. I have asked a couple of people who go to his school, wether this is his normal behavior, and they said yes. Im wondering wether they are trying to cover something up for him. He doesn’t act like that to any of the other girls. I know you probably think I’m stupid or something, but I really want your advise.
P.S. We don’t go to the same school.
#226 by Eliza on September 13, 2011 - 3:30 am
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Let me add to my last post. When I catch him looking at me he raises his eyebrows. I find this a little weird. We also only see each other once a week, but lately he has been telling me that he misses me. We are singing in a festival on the weekend (not together) and he suggested that we catch up. I know that you probably think I’m stupid (like I said in my last post) but I really want your advise. The thing is I’m not sure if he does like me, because I’m not very pretty. . . . . . . .
#227 by Kiwikiwi on September 13, 2011 - 4:06 am
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Oh jeez. Ok. So basically, this guy and I have been really good friends since elementary school. I just recently acquired feelings for him and he is sending me mixed signals. He did ask me to hang out, and we did, although it was just as friends (it was never made clear that it wasn’t a date, but I assumed it wasn’t). He texts me almost every day, and we talk about different things. He has not been acting the way he usually does when he texts me. What I mean is that he usually texts me in the “bro” way. He is much more secretive now and gives me less detailed responses. I don’t want to ruin a friendship by telling him I like him and him ending up not liking me back. I need to be sure when I bring it up. Do you think he likes me.. Or is it something else? PLEASE HELP.
#228 by Katie on September 16, 2011 - 2:55 am
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So this guy I know told me he likes me, but I can’t really tell because he invited me over to his birthday party and kind of ignored me around his other guy friends. I was the only girl there. Then when I got home he texted me and told me that one of his friends likes me and he gave me his number and encouraged me to text him. Then, later I was talking to him on the phone and he said that he had wanted to kiss me that night. Later on, I texted him and he wouldn’t text me back. I texted him like 20 times, over the course of about a month, and was afraid that I was coming off as clingy, so I asked him if I was annoying him and he finally texted back. He said that he was just really busy with work, but that is obviously a lie. Does he legitimately like me or was he just toying with my emotions, because he tends to do that quite often… Thanks so much for the advice. I’m completely clueless when it comes to guys.
#229 by Katie on September 16, 2011 - 3:12 am
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Oh, and also, I read in one of your articles that said if he liked you, he wouldn’t mention other girls, but that’s all he did. It sounded like he did it on purpose because everytime the subject was changed, he’d bring it back to girls. And he shows off a lot, laughs at everything I do, flirts with me and usually tries to make sure I’m happy, but, like I said, at the party he totally ignored me. ???
#230 by Paislee on September 16, 2011 - 7:20 am
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this was a great article but it didn’t help out all that much for me… i sit next the boy i like and he used to talk to me and ask me questions all the time but now he…doesn’t. he even used to do this thing where he would flick his pencil (if this makes sense) when i would do it… and now he doesn’t… i made a terrible mistake too… he walked by in the hall and said hi and i was in such a rush not to be late to class that all i did was smile but the thing is i don’t think he saw it… i can’t stop thinking about this huge mistake… but it’s not like a would have had a chance with him anyway
#231 by Emily on September 16, 2011 - 1:53 pm
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So there’s this guy and I don’t really know him that well. We go to the same college and we have several mutual friends, but we have a class together and he waves at me every day, and says hi to Ne everytime I see him. Today at breakfast he came and sat down at my table where only I was sitting and we started talking for pretty much the first time. We talked about a bunch of stuff and then he asked if we could walk to class together later, and I said that we could. So when I went to leave he told me to text him when I was ready to go and I told him I didn’t have his number and he gave it to me. He recently got out of a relationship, but I kind of like him. Do you think he likes me back?
#232 by Christina on September 17, 2011 - 3:42 am
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I like a friend of mine. We aren’t great friends, but we are friends. His friends painted his car with my name and hearts and we were all at a barbeque and they kept acting wierd and trying to leave us alone. Me and the guy flirt and stuff but we don’t text a lot. He never texts me first but when I text him he usually always texts me back and we talk for a while. We’re neighbors and we’ve known eachother for forever but I don’t know what to do. I want to tell him how I feel, and my friends think I should but I don’t want it to be awkward.
#233 by Sabrina on September 17, 2011 - 3:21 pm
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Ok so theres this guy i really like he says he wants to get to know me better and he gets mad when i have other guys around me or i hug other guys but he tells me he has girls he wants to date and he says im one of them but he says idk after all of that and then he says im trying to make him feel guilty idk please help mee!
#234 by Shelee on September 17, 2011 - 4:03 pm
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Thanks for the advice…however I need a bit more. This guy I’m interested in shows small signs that you talk about that he may be interested, but at the same time I feel like we are in the friend zone and I am not sure if he wants to get out of it. He is very wishy-washy, one moment he wants to hang out and texts or calls, and then I won’t hear from him for like a week…any advice on what I should do to better understand him and his intentions if there are any?
#235 by Kalani on September 17, 2011 - 4:44 pm
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If you tell a guy that you like him & he says he doesn’t feel the same way or he doesn’t like anybody but yet he says you pretty & he holds your hand & hugs you & smiles whenever you look at him & Stares at you & is shy , what do you do if you reallly like him alot ?
#236 by Caroline (Gwen) on September 17, 2011 - 6:35 pm
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Hi everyone!
Well, I’m just going to get straight to the point.
I REALLY, REALLY like this guy in my class! As in, he is the first thought that enters my head in the day, and my last thought before I drift away at night. He’s all I dream about, and I always see his face on the street! And lastly he never fails to give me butterflies!
The problems are, I’m afraid he only sees me as being average, I can’t tell if he likes me, and he’s popular, so many other girls like him as well! Finally, how do I get him to like me as much as I like him?! I’m very shy and scared to death about being rejected!
We’ve known each other for about one and a half months. We are friends. He talks to me every single day for quite a while. He always smiles and laughs at whatever I say, and I always catch him stealing glances at me at least three times a day! He even gave me his pencil! (I know that’s not much, but it made me happy)
Also, he talks to me in the hallways a lot!
Sometimes he doesn’t even look at me.
Once he said that he doesn’t know me well enough to tell me something.
He once walked around with me on the track at school!
But one day I was terrifyingly cold in class, as in shaking, and my teeth were chattering.
And my friend told me to “steal” his jacket.
Being the nervous person that I am around him,
I say, “Can I steal your jacket?”
And he just looks at me like I’m an alien!
Then he smiles like he’s in love with me, his eyes twinkle and everything! And he continues on with his business.
I’m just scared about what I should do next! Does he like me? And if he doesn’t, what should I do to make him like me?!
Please help me!
#237 by Katie on September 17, 2011 - 10:11 pm
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Hi Mike! So theres this new guy at my school and I think he’s REALLY cute. We have one class together but in a different class on the first day, first block(class), he sat beside me. Im pretty sure there was plenty of other seats but in stead he still sat beside me. After a couple of minutes past he asked if this was fourth block auto when clearly it was first block. I told him it wasnt and he left. Yesterday all the auto blocks went to the racetrack and he raced his own car. I asked if he could take a passenger and he said yes and then i asked if i could ride with him and he said yes but i had to ask the auto teacher and so i went and asked and signed a waver thing and then i went an told the guy i could ride with him and as i got to the car there was these guys about a year younger and they said to him “so she can ride with you but we cant?” and so im assuming he said no to them but yes to me. Anyways when we were in the car together i initiated small talk and he didnt talk alot but he did make and kept eye contact with me??
What should I do?! What does this mean?!
Thanks in advance Mike!
#238 by Abby on September 18, 2011 - 8:28 am
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Hey Mike, I’m so confused about a guy at school. Last year we didn’t hang out a lot, but this year it’s our last year and he has gotten really touchy-feely with me (I’ve known him for a year), and talking to me about a lot if personal things from himself and me. My friends sy that he likes me, but I’m not sure. He also mentions that the relationships he has had were really bad, and he always wants to work with me on projects. He also talks about how other girls like him. He also kind of notices my appearance ( like how I’m not girly, don’t wear thing that other girls wear, etc.) he also gets easily offended. What should I do?
#239 by kelley on September 18, 2011 - 5:07 pm
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hi mike,
i read this and i kinda like this guys i have to classes with him and for our second class its just us and we help each other out plus we sit right next to each other and thursday he sat there like messing with my keybored to the point were i kept grabing his hands and when we talk he looks me straight in the eyes and he makes me laugh and giggle do yu think he likes me???
#240 by Flo on September 18, 2011 - 7:43 pm
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so i think this guy likes me he asked me to go to a parade thing but i couldnt & then every day at school he talks to me first and always playfully bumps me & i was telling him about a guy i like and he was like eww wtf. & at lunch he most of the time sits by me. but he also said something to another girl like asking her if she was going to be somewhere i guess he was also going to. so IDK
#241 by Samantha on September 18, 2011 - 10:33 pm
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Hallo, I read this atricle, and I think it will help me in future situations. However, I cannot tell whether this one guy likes me or not. You see, he is in my choir and algebra class. Whenever we see each other in the hallway, he most always acknowledges my presence first with a “Hey Samantha” and then he smiles. I’ll always acknowledge back with the same thing. One day in choir, we had to mix up sections and he wanted me to sit next to him. We’re also going to have a choir lock-in, and he wanted me to go to it when I said I didn’t plan on going. I am now. In algebra, he usually only asks for my help even though there is a really smart guy in our group. I told him he should text me if he needed help on homework, and he said “Oh, I don’t have your number, can you write it down?” I did. But he totally forgot about it that weekend. I have helped him in the morning by explaining algebra to him just one on one…I purposely sat on the same side to get closer. He didn’t seem to mind at all. However, we hardly text, maybe because he is busy doing other stuff, and the fact that he has a job might be a part of it. In the beginning of the 3rd week in school, he started walking with me and waiting for me to get stuff from my locker so that we could go to our classes. I could really use your help Mike, vielen dank!
#242 by Maggie on September 19, 2011 - 2:22 am
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Hey! This article is really helpful!!!!
But I need further help please!
This guy in my college class is very sweet and funny but is respectful with everyone (all girls) but not totally in a flirty way and he is always looking at me andwhen he tells a funny joke and everyone laughs he checks to see if I laugh. And he is a good guy, and I will usually would have confronted him by now but he is soooo intiminating!!! I hace never felt this strong Of an atrractikn before in my life! It Is so crazy! Lol ! But can you jet me advice on how to see urbe limes me And how to procced getting him!!!!? -thanks:))
#243 by Kayla on September 19, 2011 - 6:17 am
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so my best friend said that the cutiest boy in scchool likes be but i dont believe it. so she sent him a text and he said as a friends what should i do? and scence she said that he liked me i started liking him now he thinks that i like like him and i dont really cuz he is dating my other friend to make me jelouse i guess.
#244 by jacky on September 20, 2011 - 1:17 am
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so theres this guy that i really like and he say he does too
but he always expecting me to go make the move? why would he do that
#245 by Colbinsane on September 20, 2011 - 5:39 am
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Hey mike!
I need help, I have known this guy for a while now, as a distant friend. Im in 3classes with him, and half the time I glance over at him, he is looking at me. Then we both kinda smile a bit, an look away quickly. Then after class he walks with me to our next class and brutally teases me likevhe did when We kinda had a HATE-friend relationship, but he never looked at me before and these mixed signals make it all hard. If I tell him, and he rejects me is it really as bad a everyone describes?
#246 by Em on September 21, 2011 - 8:20 am
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I met this guy last monday at university and we spent most of the night together dancing and we kissed, the next morning he text me and we met up and he cooked me dinner and I saw him again on the wednesday. We kept texting eachother all week until we met up on saturday again and kissed again, but since then we havent really spoken/text that much or seen each other so i dont know what that means, I did think that maybe he did like me but now I’m not so sure.
#247 by Diana on September 21, 2011 - 7:49 pm
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Hey Mike I LOVE you tips..lol..so of course as any girl I need some help. So there’s this boy that I met in college and he’s shy and after class we talk to each other and have small conversations and when i say hi to him he blushes and his eyes get big. I complimented once on his eyes and got red and and kinda smiled. I mean i get a vibe that he likes me but I don’t know if he’s just shy and friendly. Should I ask him if he wants to hang out or something and see what happens or should i just let it go..im not good with boys so i need help. Please and thank you.
#248 by Tiara on September 22, 2011 - 12:54 am
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hey mike
… i adore this boy and everytime he sees me in the hallways, he smiles and makes some funny gesture to me to wave at him even when hes with his bros. i don’t really know if he has a girlfriend or not but if he doesnt then well… i dont want to ask him out or get him with me someplace and ruin this badass friendship you know? what to do!?
#249 by cheyenne on September 22, 2011 - 2:34 am
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hi mike i have moved to a new school and on my 4 day there i got asked out by a kid i was going out with some one else at the time and it was his best friend. i am not going out with any one at the moment but i realy like him and he still likes me a girl in his class nose he wants to ask me out agin and she is my best friend. so how could i ask him out????
please help
cheyenne
#250 by Sarah on September 22, 2011 - 4:02 am
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The guy I like brags a lot like about how many girls he has on his phone and stuff… is he trying to make me jealous?
#251 by Cassie on September 22, 2011 - 8:33 pm
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There is this guy at my school I really like, I’ve known him for 3 years and we’ve been just friends you know. But recently I have started to get a liking for this kid, and I don’t know what to do.
Its wierd because were friends and I’m not sure he likes me. I mean he tells me I need to get a cellphone all the time ( i dont have one yet ) and he looks for me in the halls to talk to me. We laugh and joke around all the time, and one time he just popped in my class just to say hi and leave. Were not in any of the same classes, but I feel like he’s only nice and stuff like that because were friends, and he probably dosen’t like me like that considering, that I’m a freshman and he’s a senior.
So what do you think?
#252 by Keira on September 22, 2011 - 8:39 pm
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Hey Mike,
This guy I like isn’t hot; he’s ADORABLE. He walks like an ultra-cute baby penguin, he always cracks jokes and has the face of an angel; I honestly think I love him. He doesn’t know it yet, but he might just from common sense. In Drama he sits beside me from his own choice even when the guys are on the other side of the room, he sometimes looks at me in French when he purpously mispronounces things for the laughs, and checks if I’m laughing too. I always smile at him when he’s being the cute dork he naturally is, and he always catches every one. He plays the drums really well and demonstrated in Music today; I was amazed and impressed. He was kind of watching me as he played though. I’m pretty sure he likes me, but I think he’s too shy to make a move and I’m even shyer! Help? D:
#253 by Misty on September 23, 2011 - 3:59 am
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This is EXACTLY what I was looking for! My family and some friends think my guy friend, Nathan, likes me because he asked me the day before me father came home, “Do you know how to skateboard?” My reply was a flat out no. Followed by a “I’d love to learn though!” His answer was, “Then go to the skate park tomorrow.” I was thinking like, ‘Okay, he’ll teach me. No biggie. That’s what friends are for, right?!’ So I told my family and they think he likes me. I told my one of my friends like a month after. She slapped my arm and said, “Duuude! That was a date!” I’m like think, ‘noo! It can’t be! He doesn’t like me!’ Then I asked over facebook to him, “You wanna hear something crazy?” He said yeah. My answer was, “My family thinks you likee me!” His reply after like 3 minutes, “;/” So I’m like, “Crazy, huh?
” He was like “Yeah!” Now we don’t really talk that much.. I kinda like him.. So if I totally know he likes me a bit, I’ll ask him if he wanted to hang out at the skating rink with some friends sometime. Does that sound good? Like, not too obvious?
#254 by Anji on September 23, 2011 - 7:46 am
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So, I just wanted to say that I quite enjoy your advice, but I need some personally. This guy I’ve liked forever had finally decided to hang out with me and my friend. We spent time alone in his car, and he was goofing off and being funny, making me laugh. We went to the club and he stuck by my side, and then we went to eat. We sat down, and he was like, “by the way, this isn’t a date.” The rest of the night was interesting because we talked about personal stuff, and he would speak ‘figuratively’ about my dating situation, saying things like, ‘ if a guy likes a girl and he acts a little interested in her and then he backs off a little bit, and she dates jerky guys to make him jealous, what does that accomplish?’ and ‘on a date, its better if a girl drives because she’s more relaxed and talkative’ (I was driving), and then at the end of the night, he says, ‘see you later homeslice’. usually, he comes and hangs out with me when I ask him to, and he’s constantly touching me and looking at me. Mike, I’m so confused about this guy, so please please help me…. If you think you can. Thank You!
#255 by Clara on September 23, 2011 - 8:32 am
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very helpful! thank you so much! but i have this one problem. there’s this guy i like and he’s my ex but it was a secret when i was going out with him. he’s one of those “popular” kids and he barely talks to me at school. at school i only have one class with him which is P.E. and every time we play a game, he always walks near me and gets really close, but hardly talks to me. when he does talk to me it’s always about strategies for winning the game… but he just stares at me and not the weird creeper stare, but when he stares, i can feel his eyes burning a whole into my head if you know what i mean. also, i can see him staring at my boobs when he talks to me. when we were together, the only thing he would talk about is the size of his… and sex, nothing else. i keep getting mixed signals when i see him. some days, he looks at me with really kind eyes, then the next day he wont look at me. he really confuses me, and im too scared to ask him out front or even to ask him to find me after school cuz he’s always surrounded by people… AGH i dont know what to do!
finally done with that. but really, thank you sooo much for those wonderful tips! its really nice to hear this from a guy
#256 by Someone on September 24, 2011 - 12:47 am
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Hi Mike, So there’s this guy at my school that i REALLY REALLY like. So my friends know about my BIG crush. and they pushed me to write some notes to him. and all of the grade above me(his grade) practiacally knows! I’m ashamed and embarrased. Should i be or no? because now he knows that i like him and he acts like it sometimes because we txt alot and he looks at me like all of the time. But i overheard him talking about me with his friends saying: HIS FIRENDS: Hey i dare u to kiss her. CRUSH: Yea..for 50 bucks. HIS FRIENDS: like a hug or something. HIS FRIENDS: hahah . Then i heard my name and i knew he was talking about me. Is that a bad thing? PLEASE HELP ME!
#257 by Camila on September 24, 2011 - 3:17 am
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Hi ! umm.. Therez this one german guy in my class and i have a huge crush on him. he smiles when he walks past me and says hi or waves at me. we barely talk but i wanna get to know him better… i want to tell him i like him but maybe its to soon?
i’ve asked a couple of my guy friendz for advice and they dont explain very well. lol.
what should i do?
#258 by noelle on September 24, 2011 - 10:38 pm
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hey i dont know what to do. i like this boy and my friend told him for me and for a year he hasnt talked to me everytime i walk in the hallway i can see him staring at me but when i look at him he looks away. hes not really expeirienced with sex but we’ve never really talked. were friends but not really thaat close. so he knows i like him but i how can i tell if he likes me or ot
#259 by stacey on September 25, 2011 - 11:26 pm
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hey mike
so i like this guy and he gave me his number. when i got to my friends house that night she called him up twice and left the most embarising messages. after that he still showed intrest but he also showed disintrest. he still talks to me and invited me to join him in p.e. but hes more distant in the hallways and during lunch. what should i do? please help!
#260 by stacey on September 25, 2011 - 11:38 pm
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hey mike
so i like this guy i go to school with. he showed intrest and then he gave me his number. so that night i called him and left the two most embarising messages ever. he backed off but he still shows intrest but he also shows unintrest. just yesterday he invited me to join him when we finnished running laps for p.e. and our hands acidently touched and he didnt pull away. does that mean he likes me or not? i need your help please!
#261 by kristen on September 26, 2011 - 2:08 am
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ok so there’s this guy I like but I have a really hard time talking to him and when I do talk to him he will laugh at my jokes and our conversatoins only last like 2 min I have no clue if he likes me back and how to carry on a conversation (ps I’m really shy)
#262 by Alice on September 27, 2011 - 5:54 am
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Mike?,
So there’s this guy at my school and we used to be neighbors and he was in my class last year. For whatever reason, my teacher made us sit near each other for alot of the school year. He used to act really weird and steal my stuff. He even “proposed” stupidly with one of his friends to me and some of my other friends. On the last day of school he signed “elmo” in my yearbook and tried to shake my hand. This year he is in my math class. On the second day of school we did origami ( don’t ask me how that relates to math) and I sit in the front of the class. The papers were in the front too and he said “hi” on his way there and back. Before class started, he said “hi” or “hi hi hi hi hi hi hi hi” periodicly from then until recently. I was waiting to go inside once and I was talking to my friend and he came up and said “hey, best friend!” I sort of ignored it… He hasen’t really done much since that. This has been eating away at me for like two years and I really want to know. Some of my friends thought he liked me too last year. Does he like me?
(and just so you know, I don’t really like him, I’m just curious.)
I hope you can help,
Alice
#263 by anna on September 28, 2011 - 1:39 am
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Ok so there is this guy that i think likes me. Like during PE he ALWAYS stares at me but not like a your a freak kinda stare but like he’s studying me but when i look at him straight on he just kinda wonders his eyes away. And then in art he said that my dragon was sweet and asked if i traced it ( of course i didnt trace it i was sighting it. )in the hallway he always has a reason to come by my locker and my table at art…….. ppPLEASE reply i dont ever know if hes just trying to be nice or actually crushing on me
#264 by brianna on September 29, 2011 - 2:16 am
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well .. At the beginning me and this guy was hanging out with me a lot we would eat lunch together and he would leave his friends to be with me and we would hang out after school.He would tell me he liked me but he played around with me a lot so i wouldn’t believe him. Then we got into an argument over something stupid and we stopped talking . After like 3 weeks he started talking to me again and my friend asked him what he though about me and he replied with “she’s cute” and also said “When i told her that i liked her she didn’t believe me.” I have been trying to talk to him and hang out with him but it isn’t the same. I can’t tell if he still likes me and my friends tell me just to tell him I like him but im to scared to
#265 by Trinity:) on October 8, 2011 - 12:47 pm
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Ok, there is this really cute guy and I want to go out with him and all my friends tell us we would look perfict together and I believe them. But what can I do to get him to believe it too. And I think he likes someone else but I really hope he doesnt
#266 by Maria on October 8, 2011 - 10:56 pm
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Me n this guy had been best mates for bout a year n I started liking him but when I eventually told him how I felt he wasn’t sure if he liked me cos we had been friends for so long (even tho he had done some of the things you suggested a guy would do if he liked you) n eventually his friends convinced him to go out with me but after a month he broke up with me because he didn’t like me in that way. It is now a month or so after n he has told me that he is wondering if he made a mistake dumping me but he isn’t sure whether he likes me or not – any tips on what I should do or what could help him decide? Thanks
#267 by rose on October 9, 2011 - 4:26 am
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i am from india and here people are generally shy about their relationships.i am in high school(last year).there is this guy in my class who has exactly same interests as i have.both of us are the best orators in class and so on.once during an interschool competition he sat next to me in the auditorium and his friends were sitting on the other side of him and my friends were sitting behind me.he constantly kept on talking with me .the music was too loud and we were almost talking cheek to cheek.only once or twice did he talk to his friends.he told me his likes and bragged about himself and stuff.i told him that our school dance was the best but someone had stamped the national flag by mistake and so there was a rumour that we may not get the prize.i was worried .he consoled me.acting as if he was talking to a guy next to me,he leaned towards me as if hugging me.we dont have each others phone number.both of us are pretty much conservative families.after this we didnt talk much.but he teased me a few times.recently i caught him staring at me.few of his friends are my close friends too.plz…help me….
#268 by Melody on October 10, 2011 - 3:04 am
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I really like this guy and I think he likes me back but im not sure.Last year(9th grade) when we went to the zoo for a field trip we hung out with a couple other people.At one point we found an abandoned cart that they have drinks in and we grabed some of the ice.He wound up putting in down my shirt right before the teacher walked aroung the corner.The first day of school this year we had to be at school and hour early.we passed eachother walking around and when I said I had nothing to do he suggested going to starbucks across the street.A couple weeks later we wound up hanging out at starbucks again for about 4 hours. He was suposed to go met his friend at about 4 but my ride wasnt there yet so he decided hed wait with me saying that his friend wouldnt mind.While we were there he told me about how he was going to haunted trails in a couple weeks and when I told him that id never been but really wanted to some time he suggested that i go with him.We went a couple days ago and we hung out at his house for a few hours befor hand.His brother walked in and called me by name even tho wed never talked before he might have known me from his others friends though.Later in the car on the way to haunted trails his brother said thatd hed said he liked me but he covered up by saying he was just talking about how wed hung out at the zoo.Another one of his friends that was a girl came too.While we were waiting to go inside a trailer for paranormal activity came on and when i turned away and said that it scares me he strated jokingly trying to turn me around but gave up. I held onto his arm the whole way through the trails and the other girl held onto his other arm so it was kinda annoying but there was nothing I could do about it.And then today he posted on my facebook wall with a truth is saying that im really fun to hang out with and that we should hang out more.I really like him and i think he might like me back but I’m not sure.If could give me some advice it would be really great.I typed up this whole thing and then for some reason only half of it was in the comment so i had to re type it so im really hopeling you reply back with some advice and your opinion.Please and Thank you.
#269 by Maria on October 10, 2011 - 3:39 pm
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Plus today I accidently told him I liked him n I have messed with his head even more – I havnt ruined it have I???
#270 by Rachel p on October 10, 2011 - 8:10 pm
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Thanx Mike your tips are really helpfeull and my case is similar just that we just meet at work and we have talked a few times and I really feel that attraction between us , we smile everytime we see eachother and I even gave him my phone number and he just dosen’t call me. I’m really confused!
#271 by Amyy on October 17, 2011 - 1:24 am
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okay so there is this guy who i might be in love with but i want to know for sure that he feels the same way we’ve kissed a few times and hes held my hand and given my the sweetest hugs and he flirts with me all the time but he also flirts with other girls and he is always giving me mixed signals what should i do to know for a fact that he likes or loves me??? please help
#272 by kaci on October 19, 2011 - 4:12 am
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hey mike im in a predicament
i like this guy and most of the things u were saying were a yes i personally think he likes me but he is such a bit.. that he wont ask me out
he txted mme saying that if i wwanted him to ask me out then i needed to tell my friends to stop asking him out for me ( which i wasnt doing anywayz)
but i cant tell
does he like me or not
and is he saying that he was gunna ask me out or not
im in 7th grade and understand alot of stuff BUT NOT HIM
wat do i do
scinceraly
kaci
p.s. this is my first time reading ur blog and im luvin it
#273 by kaci on October 19, 2011 - 11:28 am
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he also told me hat he cares about me llik i said i think he likes me
weve hugged but thats about it and that was before he knew i liked him
idk what to do or say
i sit by him in 5th hour and its really awkward cuz im the only girl in the class
i pretty much LOVE HIM
pleez help
#274 by emma on October 19, 2011 - 7:46 pm
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theres this kid hes really hot and nice and shit but hes kinda a loser…like not like nobody likes him but like his friends r weird…what should i doo?!?!?!?!?!?!?! i really like him and he likes me(his friend told me well sorta he said some one likes u and he got really pissed at him so im kinda assuming) please help meeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i love him!!!!!!!!!!!
#275 by Shyanne on October 20, 2011 - 1:43 am
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Ok so there’s this guy I like in my PE class and I ne’er pay anyattention to signs if he likes me or not. My friend says it seems like he does but I’m not so sure. Ok so my hair used to be an ugly orange color cuz my hair dye faded and him me and all of my friends were talking abOut hair and when I told him my natural hair color he seemed upset and asked me why I changed it, then I redyed my hair back to my natural and he said he liked it. He’s also tried to take ne away from my dance partner, talks to me or says something to me at least once a day, choose to be in my group when his friends wanted him to b on there’s, randomly said I look good running, when we played football he was always playfully teasing me and apparently i did something he said he thougt was hot, and when he says something to me and I can’t understand him he NEVER resays what he says. What does all this mean?
#276 by nole on October 23, 2011 - 1:24 am
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will he looks at me talkies to me and he like bumps me when were in the hall way he says stupied thangs to talk to me he told me one of hes secrits and idk if he likes me HELP ME
#277 by ashley on October 25, 2011 - 8:53 pm
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im a freshmen and the guy i like is a senoir. i only see him last period of the day at school and i cant tell if he likes me. I mean he smiles at me and says my hugs are better then my friends but he hugs my friends right in front of me. Is he trying to make me jealous or does he just see me as a child because im a freshmen? Like hell talk to me a lot and he even gave me a piggy back ride today but i dont know if he likes me or not. PLEASE HELP ME. i really like this guy and i hope he likes me to so please help me out mike. ive read through all your stories and tips and its like AMAzing but i just cant tell if this is what the guy i like does around me. i am starting to get desperate on what to do because this is the first guy that has ever made me feel so happy and aliv
#278 by Maria on October 27, 2011 - 5:09 pm
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Hi mike,
I have a crush on this guy at school, and I’m afraid to tell him because he might not c me like I c him. I don’t want to screw up my grades because I have a crush on a guy that I can’t get over. My mum is religious so I can’t tell her or she will murder me!!!!!!!!!! please help I’m suffering I don’t know what to talk about with him we’re just so different and I times we just stare at each other in awkward silence.
#279 by Madison on October 28, 2011 - 4:26 am
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So there’s this guy and we just really started talking this week, but I can’t tell if he wants to be just friends. I mean since we’ve met we talked to each other everyday, at first we were just joking around but for the past two days we’re getting to know each other. Throughout our conversations he will say stuff like if you ever need someone to talk to you have me, and that he’ll be rebelious with me, and that i should never move away because i can do everything I want from here. And whenever he sees me he’ll do this thing where it’s like he knocks on my back twice so I know it’s him. The thing is he has a lot of friends that are girls so I don’t know if he likes me or if he does this all the time.
#280 by Hanzita ( my nick name) on October 28, 2011 - 4:56 am
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Hey mike,
There’s this guy I like and i don’t no if he likes me. Every day he Kira picks fun at me and also makes me laugh. He also sometimes does favors for me( for example he wiped down my desk after art class for me. Very quickly at dismissal on Monday, he kinda touched on the subject of me giving him my number but then said for prank calling when he saw that I started looking weirded. Out. He Also steAls my pens and
Stuff just to make me mad. Also a few years ago, when iwas in third grade. ( 6 th grade now) he was crushing on my BFF so idk what do to. My friends don’t know that I like him cuz he’s kinda always acting like a stalker creeper around my friends and me. And He always tries to impress me by telling me all these military and gun facts and saying he wants to be in the army. He also pokes me alot and pats me on the head and shoulder. And one time we got stickers and he put mine on me for me then almost made me put his on him for him. Does he like me? I just need an answer!!!!!
#281 by Mallory on October 29, 2011 - 6:11 pm
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Hi Mike Let me just say I found your site this morning and have read EVERYTHING on it… Ok so there’s this guy I like, which is kind of obvious seeing as I’m commenting here but… Anyway, so I’ve liked him for a few months now and about 3 weeks ago my friend told him that I like him (as well as told him to talk to me numerous times apparently (according to other friends))! The first week after that, nothing happened. That I noticed at least (I’m not very observational nor can I tell when people are looking at me or trying to hold eye contact with me). The second week, we ended up having to go to the computer lab for our history class and were able to pick our seats. My friend and I came late(er/ish) and when we came in we realized that there were only two seats that were open next to each other and they happened to be right next to where he was sitting (he sat at the end of a row of computers in front of the row with all of his friends in our class). Let’s just say I ended up getting the seat next to him <3 Well, everyday that week he talked to me first (nothing really ever long or special or anything) and occasionally I would say something to my friends and I swear he laughed a little (like the quick choking laugh you have when you’re trying not to)Then for a few days the next week we were back in the classroom and I swear I thought I saw him looking my way a few times (he sits on the opposite side of the room) and one day when we were leaving he made a comment about the string hanging in the door (Most of our conversations since he learned I like him have started with his commenting on something). I wasn’t sure he was talking to me though or if he was talking to the kid in front of him… We had gym together the next day and we were on the same soccer team and I was goalie and there was a group in front of me fighting over the ball and he kept saying my name trying to get me to block it…..The next day we were back in the comp. lab and we didn’t talk at all but then the next day well the exact opposite happened. First he commented on the book he was using because it was too new and wouldn’t stay open and we talked about that for like 30 seconds then later he asked me where the Aztecs lived (he’s writing about them for our class) and I told him and we talked about that for a minute or two. Later I asked him a question about my computer and he gave me an answer (more like said “hmm…*thoughtful pause* you press F11 I think?”). Then a few minutes later, one of my friends came over (who knows I like him) and was talking to my friend who sits next to me about their topic and turned to him and asked him why his face was so red and he kinda choked up a bit and was like “Oh, well I was reading with my face on my hand” and she said that both of his cheeks were really really red(they were ) and he kinda got a bit nervous again and said “Maybe I’m just catching a cold then or something…” really kinda awkwardly. After that I turned to him and said like “Oh! By the way good job today running the pacer!” (We had to run this fitness test that day in gym) and he smiled and said thanks then starting telling me about how last year he had run until he was seeing spots and we talked for a while (a couple of minutes after that). Then that night (actually, it was last night but… yeah) we had a school dance and both of us were there and he was walking around (what he usually does during dances) but kept walking by me and my group of friends and looked my way whenever he’d walk by and I waved at him once and he kinda said like “hi” back but then walked away and I dunno… I keep getting mixed signals from him. Like he talked to me first and all but not when we’re not in the comp lab and he looks at me occasionally but not all of the time and I dunno :/ I’ve never had a guy like me back who I like so I dunno what to look for and I’m completely in the dark with this guy. (sorry it's so long! I didn't know how to condense it XD)
#282 by Tia on October 29, 2011 - 10:09 pm
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Hey Mike!
Ok, Well, I’m in year 7 and I think this guy may like me. His girl recently broke up with him, because she didn’t even like him and his grand dad died the day before. I was the one who told him the true reason about his girl and now I think that he likes me. He tells me his secrets and He keeps staring at me and talking to me in class, and is also really nice to me. I was at a friends party and we were going through a haunted house and he kept touching my back and saying “Go on. Keep going Tia” And stuff like that. Help? Advice? PLEASE.
#283 by Shyann on November 2, 2011 - 12:35 am
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This is great advice but I’m still not sure if this guy likes me or not… at first we were just texting cause we started talking on facebook and I was new to the school and he would always say “I saw you today” but yet he would never say hi…then one day he finally did and he seemed really in to me saying that I looked hott or something like that…he would walk by me and like tickle me or hug me or grab my arm or something…but then he like stopped texting me and then he asked me for my BFF’s number…and I found out that he likes her…but then homecoming came around and he danced with me…then I would be outside the school and he would call me over and hug me and just stuff like that and kinda pick on me in away…And when he would hug me it was like a really tight squeeze kinda hug…but he still talks to my friend but not as much…but I was just decided to stop going to him as much and kinda let him come to me…and now he does…sometimes and I’m just getting mixed signals and I can’t tell if he likes me for sure or not????
#284 by Marie Johnson on November 12, 2011 - 8:20 pm
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Hi Mike!
I really like this sophmore in my math class (im a freshman) and i wondering if he likes me back. I often find him staring at me and when he realizes i caught him looking at me he quickly looks away. One time i saw looking at me all the way across the courtyard. When we see each other he always gives a little smile. He is kind of flirty and seems embraced when his friends make jokes. We talk more and he wanted to play the question game with me. I am always posting statuses that are supposed to be directed to him and he never like them…maybe he is just to scared to. He is really funny and sweet. I really feel like he does like me, but i want to be sure. Does he? and if he does how do i get him to show he likes me and potentially ask me out or something?
#285 by lexi on November 14, 2011 - 2:25 am
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okay so im in high school. I like him but he is a redneck so im not sure what to talk about. i am shy and he is shy too i have made eye contact with him and hes looked at me a few time as i pass by him in the hall. but he is always in the hall with a big group of redneck friends. im not sure what to do a little help here?
#286 by crash24 on November 23, 2011 - 5:35 pm
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Your advice is the best, but not exactly wat I am looking for…You see I like this guy and u guessed it, not sure if he likes me back. I visit his locker everyday and talk to him and he would be okay with it. I told him he looked nice in navy yesterday and he said thanks and his ears turned slightly red. but then later that day, i screwed up. I asked him to give a book to one of my friends ( a guy friend). I had borrowed the boook earlier that day and my guy friend (the one I borrowed the book from), his locker is two down from the guy i like’s. I asked him if he knew him and he said no and then I told him that his locker is two down and asked him to give it to him at the end of the day, or when he sees him. He seemd a bit upset and he asked he kind of annoyed, what do you want me to do, carry it around all day? and I said no, keep it in your locker and he seemed really mad and he said sumthing under his breath, sounded like damn it, or god damn this, or something along those lines and he took the book, put it in his locker and just left, without saying another word. didnt even say bye. the one thing I noticed tho throughout our convo was that he was smiling the WHOLE TIME! didnt even drop that smile when he was annoyed (well, it seemed like he was) with me. So, did I really mess up? apart from this tho, he talks to me, and is nice to me. Also, my friend always sees him looking at me when I talk to other people. So, what does all this mean? did I mess up?
#287 by Ali xxx on November 23, 2011 - 7:47 pm
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hii mike x
your tips are great but I was just wondering there is this guy who I kinda like but im not sure if he likes me. I mean he stares at me all the time when ever i’m in a room with my freinds he always comes in with his mates and tries to join our conversation and he seems to like talking to me on facebook , but I just find all this really awkward and my freind says I should ask him out but Im really not sure what to do. he has my number because my freind gave him it. HELPPP !
#288 by rina on November 26, 2011 - 9:21 pm
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i like this guy. he is my best guy friend.his best friends have been trying to get us together but i dont know if he likes me. he is not trying to resist when his friends try but i resist alittle cause im scared
pls pls pls help me
#289 by LuAnn on November 27, 2011 - 9:12 am
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so there is this guy I like, whom is a year younger than me. Well, I really like him. I have for quite sometime now, but the problem is, like so many other girls it is hard to tell if he likes me too. I always catch him staring at me in class, he tries to get my attention and when I look at him he looks away. He has showed off in fromt of me before too. However we dont really talk.talk. Well he’s tried to talk to me but I always get shy and dontsay much. And when I talk, even if it is not directed at him, he just stares at me. I think he likes me but it is hard to tell, especially because he has a girlfriend. But at a dance a while back he couldnt take his eyes off me and he did ask me to dance. But plz just help! Haha
#290 by Natalie on November 28, 2011 - 10:46 am
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This is really helpful and I will be looking out for some of these signs. I have a question and anyone can answer this. I shop at my local supermarket (anyone in the UK? Waitrose?) and a few months ago this man appeared out of no where, and I really mean it, he just appeared out of the blue. He walked past me and sort of brushed my shoulder, but when he walked back he looked me straight in the eye and smiled. Once I had paid, I went outside and he was sitting in his van smiling at me, I don’t even know who he is. Anyway, he has appeared a few more times since then, 7 more times in fact. I was renting a DVD out from blockbuster, and he was in front of me and he must have heard my voice because he looked over his should once, smiled, then looked away and then back again smiling. About 5 weeks ago, I was shopping and I didn’t see his van or anything. Anyway, I was looking at some Halloween things, and when I went around the corner, his friend who is always with him popped out of no where and then he appeared! Well, I legged it and went to look at something else but when I looked, he had followed me around the shop to see where I was going and he started smiling and then he turned his back to me, but kept looking over his shoulder and talking really loudly to his friend. I went to look at the cookery books and he again, followed me and said to his friend “Let’s take a wonder around the shop… but let’s go this way instead” and his friend sort of, made a ‘ugh do we have to’ sort of noise and replied to him by saying “Where are you going? are you getting a drink?” and then he replied by saying to his friend and waving his arms up in the air, “Yeah, I’m gonna go and get a drink!” I was shopping with my mum and like mothers usally do, they get in the way and as she got in his way, he walked past her and looked at me and said “Women!” but then smiled! Anyway, I just laughed and walked off but before I went I said I want some chocolate, so we went to get some and who just happened to be by the chocolate? HIM! He looked at me, then his friend and then smiled and walked towards me. Now, this is the strange bit for me because I know that he ALWAYS pays at the back entrance because his van is parked there, but he didn’t he paid at the front because he knew that was where I pay and he knew I would follow him. Anyway, I started to put my things on the check out and he watched everything that I did and said, because me and my mum started having a disagreement about something and he laughed at me. He kept looking at me and when I looked back at him, he just stood there and smiled then ran his hand through his hair, which made me nearly faint. Anyway, he paid and then he left. When I was outside, he always turns left and because he saw me, he turned right. In his van, it looked like he was on his phone, but I don’t think he was. As he was driving past, he slowed the van down and WAVED! And I haven’t seen him since, now I just think I was being stupid because I think I have fallen for some stranger who I don’t know, but there is a connection between us, I can feel it. Please, can anyone just give me some advice? I’ve been told that he’s just a stalker but it must mean something, surely?
I’m SO sorry that it’s really long, but it’s having a huge impact on my life I can’t stop writing about it, I even created a blog about it! Please help me
#291 by Ally on December 4, 2011 - 1:44 pm
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This guy talks to me a lot and we lock eyes in the hallway a lot. When I have like a project for school or if I need a partner, he says “yes” right away. Sometimes when he has like a bag of chips for lunch or like candy, and I want it, he gives it to me and no one else. I really think he doesn’t like me because he hangs out with another girl. Does he like me?
#292 by Alley on December 7, 2011 - 11:42 pm
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Hi
ok so theres a guy at school i like Steven. He’s in drama and choir. I want to know if he likes me but not sure what to look for. A lot of my friends said that a guy in drama club is usually gay. Help!
#293 by violet on December 19, 2011 - 6:27 am
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*EMERGENCY*help!
im so confused and i really want to know if someone likes me.
*situation*
so he does most of what you say he wants me to laugh and hes always a gentleman to me he always wants it to be just us 1 on 1. he loves everything i do he comments on how i look. we held eye contact for 5seconds. he raises his eyebrows, eyes dilate.etc but! at our church lock- in there was this girl there he spent 24-whole hours with her. but for a few mins she was gone he came over to me and wanted it to be just us then she came. he wanted to sit near me but she followed him EVERYWHERE. and another girl him and her made a picture frame together and he loves it. but now he always wants to be my partner and he wants to be with me. and his dad said he enjoys my company alot. im so confused!
does he like me or those girls?? (btw hes 13 so idk if your advice applys to him also) help please ;(.
#294 by Emily on December 20, 2011 - 1:28 am
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hey mike,
so I started a job two weeks ago and from then on my boss has been really flirty. I don’t know if he’s really flirty because he’s older or just because he likes me. but we can sit there and talk about nothing and when I told him something really personal he told me he’s always there for me even though I don’t know him very well. plus we play fight and he trip me but when we play fight he”ll spin me around and put his hands around y waist. so I don’t know if he really likes me or he’s just being nice and a flirt but I’m 18 and he’s 23
#295 by kristin on December 20, 2011 - 4:30 am
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heey,
so i have this guy friend who i really like we text from when we wake up till we go to sleep, but im not to sure if he likes me or not. when we hung out 1 on 1 it seemed like he kinda liked me but when we text its like hes a totally diff person, and its really confusing me. when we hung out he was very touchy and we were looking into eachothers eyes for like 10 seconds but i looked away first and he wishpered in my ear that its not a bad thing that i looked away first.. so im just wondering what you think about this?
thanks
#296 by Raylen on December 20, 2011 - 5:29 am
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Blehh… What About Me, Theres This Guy, And Everythime He Messages Me on Facebook He Tells Me To Come over, He Says He wants To Have Sex, But We Are Both In 8th grade And IM Sill A Virgin! Im Also Scared He Will Tell People. And Do Guys Care What You Look Like…(down there) Tahaha;P And Idk If He Likes Me, Or Just Wants To Use Me./: Please I Need Some Help
#297 by Erin on December 23, 2011 - 6:12 am
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Well, I like this guy. And I don’t know if he likes me. Whenever I talk to my friends, I can catch him looking at me and smiling at the stupid jokes I say. Or whenever I look him in the eyes, he freezes, and then I just turn my head and walk away. He talks to me like we’re friends, we’ve dated before, I think I should mention that. I’ve told him I still liked him, online, and he said he didn’t like me back, well, he didn’t say anything, we just talked about it, and I guess he told everyone else he didn’t like me. But, still the behaviors continued, making himself look like an idiot when I’m around long enough. And doing weird things to try and get me to laugh. And when I laugh, he just smiles. I don’t know, he confuses me. I hope you can help! <3
#298 by hannah on December 30, 2011 - 12:22 am
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ok so i like a guy, DUHH. But he’s realy hard to get, i don’t get to c him too much…he’s n my youth group. and he’s a yr and 1/2 oldr But his bro and another guy hav picked on me jokingly: “Awww so concerned about Will…” “Always looking out for him??” He’s confusing, like he asked to look through my sketches, he calls me ‘stubborn’, he taut me ‘footbal teqniques’, he purposly annoys me w/ brite lights on a dark campfire nite, he jokes w/ me. but he dosnt always… i’v seen him around and neither of us say anything bt then i remember those other times and go WTH!?
So…. is he just puting up w/ me?
Friend awsom to him?
does he like me?
#299 by alyssa on January 12, 2012 - 12:01 am
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hi mike your advice was really helpful but im not sure still if this guy likes me…ive known this guy for a while.. we met our freshman year and we both do the same two sports. we always looked at each other and stared but never really talked to each other. everyone always teased us about likiung each other. we talked a litttle bit at the end of the year, but ot much. he moved to texas that summer. now it it is halfway thru our sophmore year and he moved back. were like back on the same track. we stare at each other and look at each other, but not much else. so he moved back a couple weeks ago, and it feels like he is making an effort to talk to me and be near me. the other day in class he was like right next to me at the teachers desk. him and his friend were turning in a project, and it felt like he kept getting closer to me. then they left and his friend patted him on the back. so he just like talks to me kind of and looks at me a lot. im so confused that hes shy or just doesnt like me. he acts like he does, but he doesnt do anything about it! im so confused. i really really like him, but im way too embarassed to talk to him. i feel like he probably thinks im obsessed with hm or something because of things that his jerk friends have told him. i just need to really know if he likes me, and like how can i tell. especially if hes shy. what should i do? ive been waiting for him to do something but i like him ttoo much to keep waiting. please help!!!
#300 by jaydubbs on January 13, 2012 - 6:43 am
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I know this site hasn’t updated in a while and has been a ghost-town.. but I’ve only recently found this site, read everything, and LOVED it.
Idk if you will ever reply to this but here it goes..
There’s this guy I like (of course). I’ve only just recently started dating him and I think I’ve spotted some of those clues you pointed out.. It’s just, I don’t know if those hints I spotted were strong enough to actually be hints, or just him being nice and me mentally turning it into something romantic..
This guy and I only talk when he’s not around his friends, and when I’m not around mine. We both come from completely different social circles. However we both stay after school late and our moms are close friends so I’m out his house here and there. Every now and then he’ll greet me in the hallway, start a conversation with me, but I’ve noticed.. he’s never really around his friends or anyone in particular when he does this.
That’s when the doubt starts kicking in. Does he just talk to me cause he’s bored and is trying to be nice? I get no signs when he’s around his friends, but when it’s just me and him, a TON. Like I find him talking about the stupidest things around me, asking me questions out of the blue, and even some physical contact he tries to sneak in.. I’ll even find him starring at me. One part of me says he likes me, the other says I’m over fantasizing this and he’s just being nice..
#301 by Kat on January 14, 2012 - 2:21 am
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Hi Mike!
Thank you for being so awesome.
I have a very complicated guy for you to explain to me, if you would. I feel sortable desperate having to ask someone I don’t know about something like this, but its come to that point. Guys might as well be another species as far as I’m concerned. But you seem to know what you are talking about, of course, since your a guy.
This guys name is Matt. We first net at the beginning of school, which has been about 7 months now. He started talking to me from the start. Always about school work, stuff I knew he knew, or just simply unrelevent things. I remember one time, he jumped up three stairs just to fall in step with me. The next day he sat beside me in the lunchroom. He waved. I waved. And he quietly ate breakfest while I talked to my guy friend, Chase. Bad move, I know. After he toke his tray he sat back down somewhere else. I felt so so very bad. I knew I should apoligize, but honestly, I couldn’t get up the nerve. Honestly, i didn’t really realize intill Matt got up that I was the only one at the table who knew him. I was so surprised by his confidence to sit there with me. Then, of course, I fell for him, really though all ive done is daydream. I don’t know how to start over with him. I think i really hurt his feelings.
Yesterday, He seemed like he was having rough day. So I managed to say Matt, hey! But all he did was look at me out of the corner of his eye and wave while still walking, away from me. Then today he didn’t look at me as much. Our eyes almost caught once but I looked away. He’s very handsome, and hangs out with the preppyier, wealthy kids, because he is one, and I, well I’m nearly the opposite. I know that there’s aloft of signs that he likes me, but I cant think of one reason why he would. It almost feels like he is mocking me, even though he seems or seemed legit. Also today while I was walking in the hallway a caiuple of his friends ran past and almost knocked me over and he said “Dont knock Kat over!” Like he was taking up for me, or something. But then he just kept walking and didn’t even look at me. Hes so confusing.
So. How do I let him know I like him,that I’m sorry?Did he ever like me? Does he still like me? For what reasons do you think a guy like him would like me? What does how he’s acting now mean? should I even try?
You’d really really help me if yohcould answer these questions, totbebest of your ability for me. Thanks so much, Mike.
#302 by ashley on January 16, 2012 - 12:46 am
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Im new at school. And he didn’t talk to me at first but I would I always see him looking at me he trope me when I get up and asked me who I liked I just don’t know if he does like me? Healso picks on me a lot
#303 by Alyssa on January 16, 2012 - 12:53 am
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Dear Mike,
I REALLY NEED HELP! There is this guy that I liked when I was younger. We were friends and he had a crush on me but i didnt tell him how i felt. Then we didn’t see each other for about four years I forgot about him. Then about last year he’s back. I’ll see him once and a while and I think that i really like him. But all he does is sometimes look at me strangely and try to scare me. He might like me but I don’t know what to do. So im writing you because I’m NOT good with boys. Mike I REALLY like this boy but I don’t know how to show it or how to ask him out.
Please help me!!!!!
#304 by Alyssa on January 16, 2012 - 1:05 am
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Oh and hes friends with my best friends brother. So I’ll be watching a movie with her and at random times he’ll come out and just stand there then go away. If any of that info helps.
#305 by Mary on January 17, 2012 - 10:18 pm
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There is a guy i like and he always starts playing with what i have in my hand or what im using. He looks at me in the eyes sometimes but looks away as soon as i look. Then some days he will just try not to make eye contact and try not to talk to me. Does he like me?????
#306 by Jeni on January 21, 2012 - 6:08 pm
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Fabulous advice! Well, everything but the blowjob thinggg. haha since I’m only 15, but anyways! So this guy and i danced at a party for like 3 hours, and i gave him my number. We texted a bit, but we dont really talk at school. Then I finally just went up and talked to him and then he texted me that night! But i mean im not sure if he likes me because he might have only wanted what he got at the party. But when we talk or text hes really flirty! But then would it be awkward if we dated because of the way i met him? hehehe thanks
#307 by Klaha on January 25, 2012 - 7:28 am
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Hi Mike.
I have a question to ask you, but I’m pretty much afraid that you might not be able to answer it, so I’m gonna make this as short as possible, kay?
So, I don’t know if I’m overreacting or something, but my instincts kinda tell me that that guy I like does like me back. I really want a really really really good confirmation before I “ask him out” or anything because I am quite a sensitive person, and suffering from a rejection or heartbreak will be as bad as accidentally falling off a tall building.
I’m not saying that the things you mentioned didn’t help at all, in fact, it did! To a very large extent I must say!
But you see, the guy I like is much older than me (about 10 years, I suppose?), and he is also my hairstylist in fact. I’m like 14 and he could be like… 20 or something? The thought that I might not be able to get him to like me, very much because of our age difference, holds me back and brings me down every time.
However, I do find him as a pretty nice and sweet guy (much sweeter than most other guys, I must say). So I’m not really sure if the way he interacts with me are “signs” that he likes me, or maybe he just wants to be a really great friend. He is a hairstylist after all, so he has to touch some parts of my head or face somehow… right?
I’m okay with the whole “being great friends” thing, but what I REALLY want is to be his girlfriend. He have never mentioned having a girlfriend before, and neither have I heard the other hairstylists ever mentioning him having one (they are pretty close in fact, like a family or something). So, I’m ASSUMING that he DOESN’T have a girlfriend. Or maybe he just doesn’t want to show off…?
I don’t know. I’m pretty sure that he considers me as a “great friend and loyal customer” already, but I want him to consider me as… something “more”. He’s the sweetest guy I’ve ever met. But I just hope that he can truly show his affection for me someday.
Thanks, Mike.
#308 by Krynn on January 29, 2012 - 8:49 pm
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So I met a guy while doing volunteer work at a cheerleading competition. We were both assigned to work concessions for almost 7 hours straight together. I was talking with his mom, who was also working with us, when I keep noticing him looking at me, but when I looked at him, he just looked away. Throughout the day, he was literally standing shoulder to shoulder with me, and randomly rubbing his elbow against my arm. He kept reaching around me to put stuff away, and would sometimes grab my leg or rub my back. He wanted to know my entire school schedule and favorite music. He also asked me if i had a boyfriend. Right when I got home, he added me on Facebook. Now according to your articles, I’m assuming he likes me. But, what do I do now?
#309 by Em Kay on January 30, 2012 - 8:41 am
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So I read one of the previous comments about a girl who texted a guy that she liked him. You responded saying that she shouldn’t have done that and that it could have drove him away, in other words he said “NEXT”. I did something similar on a social network. My friends told me I should “Take the risk! Guys like it when girls make the first moves!” So I typed a message, still unsure if I would send it or not. In my mind I thought that the guy would think I was weird and too forward. But my friend said I should do it, what i wrote was perfect and pressed send for me, so I thought too late to turn back now. It’s been about two months since I did that (clearly seeing it was wrong now.)
What is good is that he doesn’t think I’m a freak for it, but what is bad is that I am pretty sure I ruined any chance that I originally had. Here is my question. I know I messed that up (which I mean okay things happen), but is there any way at all that I could like revive myself? Bring back that original interest? Clearly it won’t be a guarantee, but any advice on this would help. I tried getting over him, I mean there are plenty of fish in the sea, but for some reason I can’t with him. When ever I see him I get butterflies that just won’t go away and they come whenever I think about him too. He’s extremely attractive and possibly one of the nicest and warm-hearted guys that I have ever met. I really don’t know why I can’t move past him. I think back to that message and I am so embarrassed by it.
I realize that you haven’t commented back to any of these messages in awhile and if you don’t get to mine I understand. But I could really use some advice from someone who knows what they are talking about.
Thank You
#310 by Stacey on February 4, 2012 - 5:53 am
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Hey Mike! Love the blog! It’s really down to earth.
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Could I get your opinion? ^^+
It’s a really long story–sorry. I guess I’ll just start at the beginning. So, I’ve been friends with this guy for about ten years and I really like him. I know he had a crush on me a few times when we were younger but for the last couple years he’s been in a different state with his now ex-girlfriend. We didn’t keep in great contact during that time because a couple years previous he kinda started ignoring me and we sorta became more acquaintance-friends and also she was the jealous type and I didn’t want to cause them any trouble. They broke up about six months ago so we’ve been able to hang out again (he moved back). So basically I just got back to good-friend status.
I get really mixed signals from him. There was one time, right after we started hanging out again, when he hurt his ribs playing football so we kinda just sat on a couch and watched tv and talked all day and we kinda cuddled…. sorta… We were sitting RIGHT next to each other and our legs and feet were touching. He also said that if he weren’t hurt so bad he would have put his arm around me and he didn’t have a problem with it when I asked to lay on his shoulder.
Another time he told me about how he went on a date with this girl and ran into my Dad (Scary!!! My dad’s not a fan of this guy…) and he told the girl, “Hey you know that girl I told you about? I just ran into her Dad.”
And when I tell him we should hang out more he agrees and seems really sincere.
But about two months ago he told me that he still had some feelings for one of his ex-girlfriends and couldn’t stand to see her with her fiance (not the girlfriend mentioned above, this is another one. She’s cool btw.
And I haven’t really heard from/seen him in about a month. I text him but he doesn’t text back. But I also know that he gets distracted when he texts people and forgets to text back (even with the girl above that he likes).
So, I’m really confused and I’m afraid that If I tell him how I feel that he’ll reject me and we’ll go back to being acquaintance-friends and I won’t be able to see him (he’d feel awkward seeing me) and I worry that I’m being clingy by texting him when he isn’t texting back and that I’m scaring him off but I really want to see him again (and go out with him
Thank you, btw, for helping me (and all the other women who’ve commented). That’s way nice of you.
#311 by Mickey on February 6, 2012 - 2:56 am
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Hi mike,
So there is a boy who I think adores me but I’m not totally sure yet here’s why:
1. He flirts with me like constantly
2. He teases me (playfully!)
3. He touches my waist and face
4. He stares deeply into my eyes when I’m talking or he is talking
5. He sits next to me whenever he can
6. He try’s to hold my hand
7. And he once gave his din!!!!!
Please give me your comment(s) it would help a bounch!!!! And I’ve also taken quizes that say he loves me and my friends say that and his friends say that he wants me (not sexually) but that he wants to date me
So your comment(s) would really help me and him out thxz a bounch!!!!!!
#312 by Liz on February 9, 2012 - 3:19 am
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I’m so shy about doing this… But my situation is a bit weird… Okay, so I just recently got into a break up… Like almost 6 days ago… Then… I began to crush on a good friend of mine… Monday, after school, everyone else had to leave but us… At some point I think I may have mention I was cold… So he hugged me, and it was one of those long hugs… He kept messing with my hair and petting my head… We stayed like that for awhile until he had to go home… The day after that, pretty much the same thing happened, except this time I spent more time with him. I even went to his house, and he was going to sit on me, but apparently my lap was too small so he made me get up, and he let me sit on him. When I sat on him, he held me close. He only really ever hugs me like that and does all that stuff is when we’re alone, but he does tend to lean on me a lot and poke me while were in a group of people. Today, he found out about my crush on him. He got quiet, and said, “Oh…” and then a friend interrupted us, then he left… By the time I went back to where my crush was, he had to leave. He didn’t say anything, but there were tons of people around us. All he did was hug me for a bit. The thing about this is, he likes this one girl who’s a good friend of ours, but she doesn’t like him back (she’s not into dating at all). I’m really confused at the moment…
#313 by Gwen on February 12, 2012 - 3:14 pm
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Ok so there is this boy. My friends say he likes me, he helped me with my clay project, he talked to me about random things, and we laught together only sometimes. We used to text alot but a couple of nights ago I texted him all day because I was bored and I wanted to talk to him, he said ok what so you want. And I don’t know if he was being mean Or he just hates me.
#314 by lakota on February 14, 2012 - 12:18 am
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hey mike
I like this guy, but I’m not sure if he likes me. I’m a major tom-boy and I hang out with guys a lot and most of the time I know when a guy likes me but he treats me like I’m one of the guys. I’ve told him that I thought he is cute but I don’t think he thinks the same. I’m scared to try to flirt because he’s always with his friends or when I’m alone with him he still acts like I’m one of the guys. I can’t seem to stop blushing in front of him, it’s like… I can’t even explain. I’ve hugged him but he hugs me like all the other girls. I’m just really confused at the moment…
#315 by Roseyemma on February 19, 2012 - 4:12 am
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Ok someone please help me! There is this guy who goe to my church. Me and my brother are twins and he is my brothers friend so he is like a year older than me. We are still in high school. Well he comes over like almost every weekend to hang with my brother. And one day I was bored and I wanted to hang with them and he was like she can hang with us like no problem. Then there was a fair going on later that day and I wanted to go and he said to my bro if she wants to go to the fair than lets go. Also we were playing monopoly and he kept on teasing me. Like stealing the card out of my hands. And we were playing GameCube on the wii and we had controllers that plugged into the wii and me and him were using those controllers and he sat on the love seat couch with me. And he helped me put something away when I was too short and ignored my bro. He said I had cool trucks what meant shoes. He laughs at me constantly and calls me stupid. He poked me and blamed it on my friend. He talked to my bro about me but I don’t know what he said. And we were playing tennis one day and his friend was like he loves you but his friend is the kind of guy that jokes around all the time. I feel like I am getting mixed symbols though because he also talkes about how hot girls are around me all the time but he never talks about me and my looks in front of me. Someone please help me! Does he like me!!!???
#316 by Roseyemma on February 19, 2012 - 4:24 am
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Oh and I forgot. He and his friend were talking about how I don’t have good eye contact. So I decided I was going to have extra good eye contact with them and I did. So now I find that he is having problems keeping eye contact with me now that I am actually making eye contact with him. Other times he stares right into my eyes. And when he talked to me he is like really close. And in other conversations he is almost always facing in my direction. But yet so is his friend who I also think might likea me too. Oh I almost forgot. And he invited my bro to go see a movie with him and only his guy friends. He said to my bro that if I wanted to I could go to even though I would be the only girl.
#317 by jen on February 19, 2012 - 8:05 pm
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so im still not sure if he likes me because we only talk a few times whenever we have practice together. my friends told me he likes me since he kept looking at me every practice we have but i dont believe them , so i tried catching him if he looks at me and i caught him looking MANY times so i pretended im lookin at someone else because i felt awkward . one day i was changing and THE GUY asked my friend if he could have some water so my friend gave him some nd she asked him , hey do u like jen ? nd he nodded .. i didnt believed her so i got my other friend to msg him on facebook asking same question , but the guy said ; “i aint tellin
” .. so i started thinking he likes my friend , i got so sad . then the next day we went swimming , he was there obviously . as im with one of my friends i huged her then he came huged us soo tight and he threw us to the water . i got mad but liked it since his arms was around me
. he tried making conversation with me even though he may say stupid things just to keep it goin . i really like him , so what do u think ? does he likes me back ?
#318 by jen on February 19, 2012 - 8:18 pm
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so there’s this guy and i like him , my friends told me he likes me back but im not sure cuz sometimes he looks at my friend . most of my friends told me that he looks at me all the time whenever we have practice , and he was looking for me when i came late to practice . i told my friends he doesnt like me cuz i havent seen him looked at me so when we had practice few days ago i was lookin if he ever try to look at me . i catched him MANY times and i pretended to look at someone else cuz i felt awkward . whenever we talk its always about stupid things just to keep the conversation going . i got my friends asking him if he likes me one of my friend said he likes me cuz when she asked he nodded . my other friend said maybe bcuz he said; “i aint telling
” .. so the next day we went swimming , he was there , and he hugged me and my friend and threw us to the water , i was mad but some how ok with it . something was bothering me that day , he kept looking at my friend and going near her but one of my friend said he was looking at me and they think he’s making me jealous . other thing that bothered me that day was theres this girl who kept flriting with him . i tried not to worry about it , but i cant . whenever we talk we always say stupid things to keep the conversation going . although i still doubt that he likes me , instead he likes my friend . any advice or thoughts if he likes me back ?
#319 by Jennifer on February 20, 2012 - 6:07 pm
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Hi Mike,
I would love to know your opinion on this one. I asked a guy if he wanted to hang out after school to do hw and he said yes. after about 20 mins i asked if he wanted to ditch and go for a walk. we did and it was good, but i was really awkward. idk. then i texted him later and said we should hang out again soon and he responded maybe and gave an excuse. i texted him again the next day and he kept making excuses to not hang out for that day. its been almost 5 days now since i texted him and he hasnt texted me at all. but when we hung out we got along really well and i though he liked me cause he always sits next to me in math even though there are a million other seats in class. i feel like i have already been too foward and messed it up. does he like me? and what should i do? please :/
#320 by Sarah on February 25, 2012 - 3:33 am
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i have a guy friend, and ive known him for about 3 years now. i wonder if he likes me cuz he always smiles at me different then others, he closes my locker shut and when i close his, he does the weird smile also he always stares at me and when i notice he says he was looking at something behind me. PLus one of his friends told me he likes me but his friends are always joking around. now he talks to me a lot cuz my bff is going out with his bff. but anyways he always asks me for help on things he already knows . he also gave me his number the day before yesterday and i gave him mine and we were texting till like 1 in the morning like two best friends would. so i was hoping you could help me and tell me if he likes me.
#321 by Vicki on February 26, 2012 - 3:33 am
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I absolutely love your tips! I have tried them out and I think the guy I like may like me back.. but I still don’t know. See, this girl he’s liked since 4th grade said she would be going to a different high school next year, and I dont know if he knows this or not. We have alot of one-on-one time together, and he does flirt with me alot, but I think he maybe is just being friendly. There have been quite a few times where his guy friends asked if we were going out while I was there… Any more advice?
#322 by Frances on March 4, 2012 - 3:28 am
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Hi, me and my friend (guy). We have been friends over a year. We knew each other by a course. After the summer vacation I was in Asia. I have just writen once Hi to him when I saw him on facebook.
Before summer I wanted to know him better by testing him a lot to see if he would be a closefriend to me. Something went wrong I got interest on him.. I dont really want any relationship therefore I dont told him.
After the vacation I come home, I have already wrote to my friend Wei I am back to his Fb.
He did not answer , I wrote him when I am back was to be well after I had not heard of myself in 2months. We seem to be very good friends and good contact before summer.
I thought I will see he at the first schoolday therefore I waited until then. To say Hi face to face.
After the first schoolday I did not see him. Then I wrote a message, hello friend, how are you? How was your summer vacation?
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I have not answered in 3 days. Which I felt something was not right, since we had a period before summer a message period , reason of the schoolworks and as a friend contact way.
I dont really know what’s wrong, therefore I wanted to ignore him to if he dont see me after he did not have answered my message and some feedback at fb.
Then the third day of the school started I met him, to be honestly I did not want to meet him again since I have my jetlag after the trip. I had no mood to solution any problem I had no idéa for why there would be ignoring my texts and stuffs from him..
I pretended very ignoring too, then I needed go to the teacher room he was into ,cau I needed to ask the teacher something. When he heard it’s my voice he turned around and with a big smile Hello. I did not have any thought then thought quickly teacher said what I wanted to know and let me be left this room so quickly it would …
I : Hi as so cold and not pretended to sound happy or in mood to say hi..
That made him saw me that strange with his eyes. I knew he wants a hug from me but I pretended I dont get that.. Since our hug habit was always he who hug first. I did not really want to change the habit from my side to I take the action first, especially I dont know why he choice to avoid or ignore all the text and message I have been sent to him.
He stood up after maybe 5minutes strange looking at me. My reaction was are you leaving now ? He looked more strange at me.
Then he streched his arms and I said ah, you are stretching your arms. He did not say anything and still looking at me strange. Then he asked can I have a hug from u?
I : oh well , of course.
Before he said something why I pretended that strange, I said, well I have been at Hk and there had not a habit hug and stuff. And I am very tired today ..
He asked : how have your summer vacation been?
I : what did you think when I have a trip at Hk?
He: wonderful I think..
I: yeah sure, how was your?
he: my summer holiday had been wonderful too.
After our hug from my side, I did not feel something wrong ,in my mind I thought maybe I am thinking too much about something wrong and strange is happening ..
Then he asked. how long have you been there acutally?
I: during in 6weeks..
M: Oh awesome ,lovely to be there.
I: well ,yeah too correct half, the weather there was not good. The moisture were killing me.
Then I said sorry I dont know will meet u today so I have forgotten your souvenir at home.
He : you can give me later. Dont feel sorry for that.
Then I leave the room.
#323 by Frances on March 4, 2012 - 3:31 am
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sure he wrote back THE HI when I wrote the Hi. The strange was he did not seem to be normal like before I went to the trip he would continue to ask, How are you?
Like you are chatting with a friend you have not been see in 2months. and asked if your friend was doing well.
The reaction of what I wrote hi and he just wrote back hi dont really seem like how he was.. Something was wrong already but I did not really had time to search what’s wrong..
#324 by Livvi on March 4, 2012 - 7:11 pm
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Mike! So I lik this guy but I have no idea if he likes me we talk and laugh and make fun of each other and some of my friends thinks he likes me but I’d like your opinion so can you tell me….does he like me???
#325 by Brooke on March 5, 2012 - 6:31 am
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Hey Mike,
So here’s the deal. There is this guy in my class and I REALLY like him but I he no idea if he likes me back, and to be honest I’m kind of crushing on him from a distance. Sometimes I’ll notice him looking at me from across the room but he looks away as soon as he can. I try to get closer to him by sitting by him but I don’t think he notices our really pays much attention to it. I really don’t know how to tell if he does and im scared to talk to him. I could really use your help.
Brooke~
#326 by Anonymous on March 6, 2012 - 12:07 am
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Oh my God, Mike! Your blog has made me realize how freakin’ stupid I was last year! I sat next to the cutest guy. I was head-over-heels for him. But I doubted myself so much. I was so shy, so terribly shy. I am so stupid. After reading your posts, I’m sitting here face-palming because now I realize he really did like me. But I was so shy. No wonder he backed off. I was being so uptight because I was so unsure, which is stupid now that I look back.
He tickled the side of my stomach every day (I was too shy to do anything but laugh, I didn’t touch him back..ugh!), he passed me notes when the teacher told the class to shut up, he gave me his jacket when I said I was cold. One day I was absent, and the day I returned, I told my friend, “Didn’t you notice I was absent last class?” She shook her head, but the guy I liked was like, “I noticed.”
And then one day I was wearing this cute outfit, and he asked, “Do you play sports?” And I said no. And he said, “Oh, you look like you do.” And I asked what he meant. And he was like, “well I would tell you, but I’m afraid you’ll slap me!” And I said “oh” and blushed because I was afraid of what he would say. He must have taken that as, “Oh. She doesn’t want to hear it, I guess. She definitely doesn’t like me!” But I liked him so much.
But still I doubted it. I doubted it so much. Oh Gosh I am so stupid……now it’s too late. I see him all the time; we always glance at each other when we walk by, but it’s just too late. I blew it!
#327 by Nicole on March 9, 2012 - 2:36 am
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Although I found your blog to be very informative, my situation is a little different. I’ve recently been talking to my brother in law on facebook. When he’s not out of town working we talk almost every day. Sometimes he texts or IMs me first and sometimes I’ll text or IM him. When hes working we rarely talk, unless I text him. Sometimes it seems as though he’s flirting and some times I feel like maybe I’m bothering him. We just recently hung out, in a party environment, and we got a long great! He gave me signs by grabbing my arm when I was walking away or making some kind of contact and I think that it went REALLY well, but I’m still so confused! Sometimes I think he might be interested…I know that his last couple relationships turned out pretty bad for him. I don’t know if that’s the problem or if he just doesn’t like me in that way? We’ve only actually hung out that one time. I’m thinking of asking him out for a movie or just to hang out and see what he says, but I just wish I knew if he was interested AT ALL. Please help!
#328 by Moe on March 13, 2012 - 10:33 pm
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Hi Mike I’m Moe! I am in a relationship with a guy for a month now.. we haven’t kissed or touched other then hugging b4 I leave and its kinda hard for me 2 get him 2 wanna do something new because he is set in his old routine. Or I think he could be scared maybe?? Idk sometimes I can’t tell if he even really likes me or if he just wanted 2 say he has a gf.. help???
#329 by Molly on March 15, 2012 - 12:03 am
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Mike,
I read some of your pieces and well idk about
This guy i like his name is brenden and i sit next
To him in class and i think he flirts with me but i cant
Tell. He is really into hockey and hes on the same
Team as my best friends twin brother so i sort of
Know him from that. He will compliment me and
Be really nice but idk what to do! Should i ask him
If he likes me or tell him that i like him? Idk please help!
-Molly
#330 by kadie on March 23, 2012 - 2:31 am
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this kinda helps. See i like this guy and every time we see each other he looks right at me and we keep eye contact till he passes……..buutttttt he has a girlfriend but you know how yopu can just tell if someone likes you well this is that feeling. But i dont know what to do because he does have a girlfriend. should i just wait for him to come to me or what!? please help
#331 by Kiara on March 24, 2012 - 3:39 pm
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Great advice, first of all. But I have a minor question…?
There’s two guys I’m questioning myself about. One’s quite some years older than me, and one is my age, which is a rare situation, since I seldom like guys my age, as they are more immature than other guys. One’s in his early adult years, and one’s a freshman [in high school]. I’m also a freshman, and some people tell me to go for the older man while others tell me I should like guys my age. The older one is a clown, in all honesty. He’s this big goofball, but he knows how and when to stop. He teases me sometimes, and says stuff that often make me blush, which makes him laugh. Everything about him seemed perfect, until about a month ago, when I had to leave him when I moved.I’ve known him for about a year, more or less, so it was very hard, especially since he had no idea, which I felt sort bad about, despite that he doesn’t have to know everything about me, but I thought I owed him a simple goodbye, which I wasn’t able to do, since I left. (In fact, I had no idea when I moved that i was moving, so no one else knew either.)
The guy who’s my age is a few months older than I am. (I’m a younger one in my grade.) He’s a rough guy, but the one time I spoke with him, he was gentle with me. We have physical health together, so we were working out, and-as I have trouble doing pull-ups, despite my athletic background-he came to me, pulled himself from his friends (which were four beautiful girls, who are also my friends) to help me out. There were other girls having trouble, but he helped me out. Maybe it was because I’m new, but it was still something. He’s rough, like any other fifteen year old guy, with everyone, but for those two minutes when he was with me, helping me, despite that he had just met me, he was kind and gentle, and held my waist as I tried to do the pull-ups, even though he didn’t even know me. He held me as if I were a fragile piece of glass, and talked to me sweetly, as if I would cry if he spoke to me in any other manner. I had laughed at my (failed) attempt, but he still was supportive.
I don’t know what to do or who to choose. A man I’ve known for a year, who knows my ticklish spots, my weaknesses and strengths, and how to make me blush and smile, but is harder to be with because (he’s single, but) he’s much older than I am, or a boy who I’ve known for a month who’s soft and gentle with me and who smiles my way each time I see him, even when he’s with his friend’s.
#332 by Nora on March 27, 2012 - 2:29 am
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You have really great tips. Okay. So I have two guys that I think about when I read this. Let’s call one Mitchell and the other Drake. So I met Mitchell through a gifted program event at school where three different schools joined together for one day. We were on different teams, but stared at each other all day. I thought about him all summer. School started back up again and guess who went to my high school? That’s right– Mitchell. I had been the mascot that day we met and the first thing he said to me was “You’re the girl from the whale suit, right?” From then on, i’d been very open to my friends about him as did he. Over winter break, we were texting and he admitted that on that day we met, he’d had a major crush on me. I thought this as a milestone and was so happy. We continue to lightheartedly tease each other and our friends are always saying we should go out. I really like him. Let’s get Drake in on this now. Drake is in the gifted program with me and I’ve known him since the beginning of the year. He’s my best guy friend’s best friend and we text everyday. He told me he doesn’t like it when we’re mean to each other and it got really awkward. He winks at me in the hallway and such. Today happened to be Drake’s birthday, so I told him happy birthday in the hallway. He smiled gently and turned around but when I looked back, he was staring at me with puppy dog eyes. Now I’m trying to figure out who’s going to be better– Mitchelk who I connect with and joke around with? Or Drake who is kind and sweet to me?